To display Christmas cards from relatives who have died
pipnchops · 11/12/2019 08:24
I have 3 Christmas cards I always put up every year from people who have died. My mum saw them the other day and thinks it's strange. How this came about is every year I get out the pervious years Christmas cards and go through them to make a list of who to send cards to this year. Then I recycle the cards but I can never bring myself to throw away the card if that person has died so I display it and it reminds me of them over the Christmas period.
Is this strange?
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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Dreamersandwishers · 11/12/2019 08:30
Pipnchops, if you get pleasure/ comfort from being reminded of these people that’s fine and go right ahead. It’s good that they bring back nice memories.
I would just ask, kindly I hope, whether the cards make you feel melancholy and whether the grief is still raw for you?
In which case it may be a tad unhealthy.
NannySusan · 11/12/2019 08:55
My Mam did this when we were growing up. Christmas Cards were part of the decorations and particularly nice cards or cards from people who had died were brought out for years after they were first received.
I never thought of it as unusual, I suppose you don't question what is normal in childhood.
midep · 11/12/2019 09:00
I've just opened my Christmas card box, I always keep last years cards to check spellings and names. On top are three cards that will go up first, the last three cards that my best friend sent before she died. She had quirky taste and I love her cards, makes me smile and feel a bit sad, but she's still part of my Christmas and always will be.
Are we a club of 2 OP?
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