Dad didn't give 1year old dinner

[Kirstycirvine2]

DD was left with dad and grandparents from 2 til 7 and with a list of DD schedule. When I came back dad had not given DD any dinner and told me she'd had nothing except 150ml cow's milk. I told dad I was seriously disappointed. AIBU? He is now crushed.

Maybe she tried to.

She was asleep

Some people are desperate for this dad to be useless

why do you give her dad a full schedule??

Some people are desperate for this dad to be useless

He is though. He needs a written schedule and forgot to feed his child.

The OP hasnt been back unless I missed it to say further whether it was her DF or the childs DF looking after them. What she did say was child hadn't been fed but she had been playing happily and fell asleep. That means she wasnt hungry because she would have been crying otherwise. And the OP may feel the need to leave a schedule because she wants things done in her way not because the other person isn't capable.

It was 'Dad and grandparents', so presumably the child's dad and the child's grandparents.

Clearly he's an idiot, and so are the grandparents, if they need a written out routine. And even worse if they didn't follow it. They are not dealing with a potted plant here.

He needs a written schedule and forgot to feed his child.

Did he need it though? Or did OP just give it?

Oh and he didn't forget to feed her, she was sleeping. He chose not to wake her. I would have done the same.

She was sleeping at dinner time presumably because he had ignored nap time.

I’d like to know why she was sleeping so late. I breastfed dd. But even I can work out that sounds like a woeful amount of milk for a baby. Kids at that age are constantly eating / feeding.

@mathanxiety but what about I told dad I was seriously disappointed it doesn’t say ‘my dad’ or ‘DD’s dad’ so if it is her dad then this may be good reason for the “list” if he’s not used to caring for her.

did you tell him what to feed her or not?

YABU. I think you're making a meal out of this.

No you don't wake up to feed if last meal we as less than 5 hours ago. We are not talking about a newborn here, the DC isp a toddler.

If one of mine went to sleep without fuss with that little to eat or drink during the day I'd assume they were coming down with something

Did he not realize she needs fed

Wtf? This sentence is far more outrageous to me than a Dad not giving dinner to his child once.

I'd be more worried about dehydration than lack of food! Any one year old I've ever seen has quite a few extra pounds on them.

She is 15 months

Mummyoflittledragon too much excitement at grams house meant she didn't go for her normal nap, her cousin was there.

Snowybaubles DD doesn't get left with anyone very often (apart from nursery). I thought it would be good to have a schedule written out to follow and thought it would help. Baby's dad doesn't get to look after her very much due to work it's usually me who does everything. He is not a bad or useless dad and he actually never had any dinner either.

Do you live with him?

@Kirstycirvine2 I'd have been annoyed but if she was having a good time and skipped her normal nap and wasn't upset because she was hungry it's not the end of the world.

Are you awake because she's awake? Is it normal for her to wake in the night?

So your dd had dinner when she awoke, right? For me at that age, a late nap would have meant a very late bedtime.

A similar scenario has happened to me and I was ..Mine is 13 months and so YANBU to be angry

Well that’s all a bit of a non-event really isn’t it? He wasn’t neglectful, he didn’t not feed them, the child had a late nap. You need to unclench. Seriously!

Bit of an overreaction imo. She’s 1. She fell asleep! I’d not wake a happily sleeping 1 year old for food as a one off - if a 1 year old is hungry you’ll know about it. Surely she can eat a little later than normal if necessary - it’s not like she has to get up for school in the morning!