To think this is an odd Christmas present

[Moggymorn]

I met up with a friend yesterday for lunch and we usually exchange small gifts, nothing fancy, up to about £20. For reference I got her a nice candle, a mug and some chocs. Just general little goodies.

She gave me a necklace, which is lovely, but it has the name of her daughter engraved on it. It's a lovely necklace and her daughter is lovely, and I'm sure it would be a lovely present for her... but surely it would make more sense to get my own kids names engraved on it?

It was a lovely necklace but I just don't understand! I'm only really posting as dh thinks she might of ordered that one for her and one with my own kids name on for me and got them the wrong way round and said to ask her. Or is this not as weird as it seems in my head?

How,curious

Does she have form for such odd gifts?!

one of her dds other aunties would love it

Bet they wouldnt. Bet theyd think it was weird too 🤭

I was laughing at this weirdo obsessive pfb gift... right up until I remembered I gave my sister and BIL a framed photo of my DC as a present.

It was massive as well...

It was odd of her to give you this OP so not unreasonable of you to ask the question and think it’s good you did as she should realise this is odd behaviour!!

If I saw someone wearing this and could see the name and it wasn't their name or name of their child, I'd probably assume it was a name given to a child they'd lost. And wonder if I should mention it or not and feel awkward.
(If it's just on the back of something then fine, it's weird but wearable)

@pizzaExpressWoking

Awful. I feel for you.

This is hysterical! I love it

What an odd gift! I think she will look back and CRINGE in years to come

How embarrassing on her part ! Some people don't understand that not everyone loves their child as much as they do , it's lovely that she thinks her child is the most wonderful thing in the world but don't feel bad for not feeling the same

Oh god it's going to turn into a 'cancel the cheque' thread.

RTFT The gift was intentional*
Calm down fgs. Of course the gifted is going to say the gift is intentional. They’re never going to admit regifting. And I have RTFFT

Calm down fgs

Oh dear. U ok hun?

How do you know she isn't on here op?

It's not 'Camilla' on it is it? That's H Samuels copy of Pandora.

If she had regifted it would make much more sense to agree with the excuse shed been handed that shed mixed up two gifts than insist it was for the OP and pretend to be offended.

Isn’t it Chamilia at H Samuel @OlaEliza? It’s one of those words I always misread when I glance at it on advertisements and it makes me think of chlamydia!

Get a fake neck tattoo of her childs name and have it on display next time you see her.She'll shit herself.

It was an odd gift anyway, but made inexplicably odd when it transpired that you have actually got your own child?!

I think your friend is lying OP - I think she’s too embarrassed to admit she’s given you a regifted present and had no idea about the engraving - sorry if I missed it OP, but did you point out the name on it?

I cannot imagine for a second why on earth she would think you'd want this piece of jewellery, especially as you have a baby of a similar age. You say you normally only spend about £20 on each other and I doubt she would have been able to get a nice necklace (one worth engraving) plus get the engraving done for £20 so it would make sense that it's a regift and she's embarrassed at being caught out (or maybe she isn't and genuinely thought you wouldn't mind wearing a necklace with her child's name on it). Her reaction was telling - to ask for it back so she could regift it to someone else! This sounds like the necklace that nobody wants! She can't even give it away!

I love my boys and thought the world of DS1. I had many PFB moments but by myself and definitely not imposing him on other people. This is a weird one for sure. The fact that you have a DC the same age as hers makes it even weirder she would put her DC's name and not yours. Soooooo odd

How can she have missed the engraving @VenusTiger? I would think it would be pretty obvious on a necklace

I'm a teacher and was once given a frame with a child's name made out of scrabble tiles. Didn't have a clue what to do with it.

@BloggersBlog both @Pateontheback and @MerryDeath as have others have thought it too... if you open a box and don’t like it instantly, you’re not likely to get it out if you’re planning on regifting it - it was only a theory!

PizzaExpressWoking you probably got away with it as they're close family. Whether they liked it I couldn't tell you, obviously, but they are unlikely to have seen it as weird. I like getting framed photos of the DGC for Christmas, but only because they're my DGC. Someone else's just wouldn't be the same.

@PizzaExpressWoking - to immediate family it's fine I think. Uncles and aunts, grandparents, great-grandparents all fine. Especially if it's one photo of all of the kids, because they grow up fast so it's nice to periodically change a family photo (in my opinion anyway) and at least if my sibling went through the bother of getting it printed and framed I could just plop it on the mantlepiece and not have to faff about doing it myself.

Random name on a bit of jewellery though? No thanks.