To think this is an odd Christmas present

[Moggymorn]

I met up with a friend yesterday for lunch and we usually exchange small gifts, nothing fancy, up to about £20. For reference I got her a nice candle, a mug and some chocs. Just general little goodies.

She gave me a necklace, which is lovely, but it has the name of her daughter engraved on it. It's a lovely necklace and her daughter is lovely, and I'm sure it would be a lovely present for her... but surely it would make more sense to get my own kids names engraved on it?

It was a lovely necklace but I just don't understand! I'm only really posting as dh thinks she might of ordered that one for her and one with my own kids name on for me and got them the wrong way round and said to ask her. Or is this not as weird as it seems in my head?

I think she's regifted something to you I'm sorry. Did you mention the engraving at the time?

First few replies all said to text and now I've text I've come back on and people are replying saying not to! Panicking now

Don’t message her to ask. If her daughter is only 7 months then it can’t have been meant as a present for her. She is in full PFB mode and thinks you want a necklace with her daughter’s name on. Just message to say how lovely and thoughtful the gift is. One day she will look back on this and feel maybe it was a bit odd. First time motherhood does strange things to many of us. I’ve been there. 18 years on most of it is forgotten and I laugh about the rest!

Is it one where the name is really obvious? As in, you get some pendants where the name or word is the focus of it... in which case surely she would have noticed when you opened it in her presence? If the name is smaller or more hidden on the back or something, then I would suspect mistake or regifting...

Sorry!

Could she have meant it as a present for her mother, the baby's grandmother? It is weird.

I think it's what she meant to give you, especially as PFB is only 7 months. She thinks you love her child as much as she does. It's more common that you'd think, usually it's fingerprints or handprints in frames, or school photos.

Don't worry about having texted, that's what I would have advised - I'm thinking it could easily be a mix up and she's given you the wrong thing! If she's got a seven month old she's likely to still be sleep deprived.

Oh. Has she replied? Awkward

Maybe message “just checking because it looks so special! With baby name on, I don’t want to have someone else’s present by mistake!”

No it's fine to text! It's odd, anyone would think it's odd.

If she meant it, just text back:

'Oh that's really lovely then. Such an unusual idea I thought it might have been a mistake, I am really touched. Thank you xxx'

Don’t be worried - she’s your friend, you can sort it out!

PFB may just think you love her as much as she does. Is it really noticeable?

It a bit unusual, you can let her know without letting on that you might think it's a mistake. So a text along the lines of lovely necklace, hope my kids don't get jealous when they see X's name on it.
Oh? Did you text already?

The response suggested by FizzyGreenWater is perfect if it turns out it is meant for you.

Its weird, I would have text too. But been careful in how I worded it in case it was
a mistake but then she thought you liked it too much to swap

Back!

It is a BIT odd but then when I had PFB everything I did was odd so....

Don’t worry op, this has to be a mistake. She will get the text and be relieved.
If she was such a doting mum that she has had the engraving done for you, wouldn’t she have gushed about it as you opened the present? Or at least prompted you to gush.

My thought was it's a re-gift.
Mind you, I once received once of those framed baby feet plaster casts of my friend's new daughter. She gave them to all her girlfriends on the baby's first Xmas. None of the recipients knew what to say!

How obvious is the engraving? I would have to ask as I would worry she was re gifting something she had received without realising it was engraved for her !

Is your friend's name Homer?

And was the gift actually a bowling ball, but you changed it to necklace to make it less potentially outing?

FWIW I'd have texted too because I would have thought it was a mistake.

Re-gift

It was meant for me!! and I think I've offended. I have sent fizzy greens replies to try and backtrack. Bollocks

Are you sure it's not a brand name you've never heard of ?

As like Pandora but something vague?

I admit, im clutching at straws but it does seem an odd thing to happen. My other thought is that she has mixed up gifts and given you her dds.