To think this is an odd Christmas present

[Moggymorn]

I met up with a friend yesterday for lunch and we usually exchange small gifts, nothing fancy, up to about £20. For reference I got her a nice candle, a mug and some chocs. Just general little goodies.

She gave me a necklace, which is lovely, but it has the name of her daughter engraved on it. It's a lovely necklace and her daughter is lovely, and I'm sure it would be a lovely present for her... but surely it would make more sense to get my own kids names engraved on it?

It was a lovely necklace but I just don't understand! I'm only really posting as dh thinks she might of ordered that one for her and one with my own kids name on for me and got them the wrong way round and said to ask her. Or is this not as weird as it seems in my head?

I am a teacher and am regularly given framed photos of my students - it's such a weird thing to do!

They know when you're sleeping, they know when you're awake

It's a bit odd OP.

I'm a cynical old bat but I still think "Regift" !

I am desperate to know as to when you plan to wear the necklace,
Moggymorn?

To be fair, I think the OP has neglected to mention that the mug she gave to friend has a photo of OP’s child on one side & OP’s cat on the other....

A friend of my mums daughter always gives her a Christmas card with a photo of her son on the front. We hardly know them and don't really want her son smiling at us from the mantelpiece for two bloody weeks.
A distant cousin also gave my mum a framed photo of her grandchildren who she barely knows, it comes out when she visits only. People are odd about their precious children.

This is too funny. Absolute classic case of pfb to the batshit extreme.

In the future, when she is out if this first born baby bubble, she will surely be mortified

Haha.

Necklace will sadly be 'lost' by NYE I trust.

She's batshit.

Yes, just give her something with your own kid's name on for her next birthday - you'll soon tell by her reaction whether she actually thinks it's a good gift when not seen through PFB-o-vision.

God I truly thought she must have been short of cash and regifted - nope just actual bat shit crazy!! So glad u didn’t follow my advice and did text. I agree we should all chip in for a necklace with your child’s name on it for her!
Nothing too subtle of course

This is one of those threads you hope itsn't true otherwise the gift-giver will be cringing themselves inside out about it later.

OP, if it is true - keep the necklace and give it back to the PFB when they are of an age to wear it. How visible is the engraving on the necklace when worn?

she's regifted something she doesn't like and not realised it's engraved... is it obvious?
This is exactly what I think
Is it engraved on the back? So if it was in a box she wouldn’t see it?

Oh god it's going to turn into a 'cancel the cheque' thread.

RTFT The gift was intentional

I also think she is regifting a present that she didn't realise was engraved and only now after you texted her, she is trying to pretend that it was for you all along. Sure how could you not want a gift with her child's name on it . Genuinely I would say she is shitting herself after receiving your text and probably feeling crap enough so I would just let it go tbh.

This is both hilarious and weird. Also, how self-obsessed is your friend?!

One question : Are you sure she isn't a MNer?

It is blatantly a regift and the offence in the text is that she was embarrassed to be caught out.

Okay I am in full PFB mode with my 5 month old. I mean I'm obsessed with him and I wouldn't do anything this strange!!!! I only provide photos/updates if asked and try and keep my obsession between me and my DH! If someone was walking around with his name on their necklace I'd be freaked out! He's only the most perfect baby in the world to me right?! 😂😂

That is soooo weird! And I can guarantee none of the other “aunties” would want that necklace either

Is it a common name and you could gift it to someone else or sell on eBay?

To the person saying "RTFT the gift WAS intentional"

I don't think it was AT ALL sure she SAID that to the OP but it is so obviously sticking to her guns to save face after being caught in a regift.

It's obviously a re-gift and she hadn't noticed the engraving.
I'd be a bit miffed, but not sure I'd want to rock the boat and lose a friend over it.

Yes, definitely a regift even if friend is denying it.

But the only thing to do is take it at face value and pretend you believe her.

Reregift it back to her dd in a few years time?

What's pfb?

Very odd gift for a seven month old baby come to that.
Maybe she thinks it’s the same as a photo or card with the child in it?

@loutypips

What's pfb?

Precious First Born : when someone has their first child and believes the baby is the second coming of Christ.

But this is a really shit way to save face. Imagine your friend thought you'd bought them a necklace with your own kid's name on. You'd be mortified and say it was regift instead!

@PippiDeLena oh!!! I googled it and it said that it was a shaving rash!