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AIBU to say stop with so many Fricken rules!

181 replies

portobella · 06/12/2019 12:07

I'm getting a little peed off at the whole you better live by these rules or judgement shall reign upon thee nonsense!

I can't use plastic, I can't have my Christmas tree and its decorations, I can t use wrapping paper, I must be vegan, not least because of the meat ingestion but because all the cows fart and hurt the ozone! Do you know how much vegetation is lost to avocados or the mafia and children being scarred for life by the acid in cashews?!

I can't swear around my kids, I mustn't enjoy meat of any kind, I can't buy new clothes, they must be second hand, must shop local, don't buy out of season, cant enjoy a good laugh at the expense of others! Hello, it's funny when someone falls on their arse or walks into a door! the list goes on!! REALLY??

AIBU to be getting a little peeved with all this?

I am a responsible citizen, I do watch my plastics waste, I do care about the wold. But I also do like meat every now and then, I do enjoy my Christmas decorations and the nostalgia of it all, I do enjoy new clothes sometimes and I do swear around my kids whilst having a G&T or a bottle of wine! (they're 15 &16) but it's not the point!

There's just too much all around.. Everyone and their dog has put 'THEIR' expectations on me!! that they expect me to live by, and if I don't I'm looked down upon, shunned and gossiped about.

My life is hard enough with my own expectations of myself let alone trying to live up the perfection and assumptions of others!

Those of you... the judgy and I mean really judgy self-imposed evangelists of our newfound world to be ARE NOT PERFECT you do know that don't you?

You have kids that run amuck, scream and have tantrums, and you call them diddums and little sweetie.. they're brats and need pulling into line or they'll be big brats living all entitled becoming worse versions of your judgemental selves.

You're so judgemental that you live on a knife-edge as you judge yourself worse than you do anyone else. Your husbands as yes this is mostly aimed at women! are tired and worn out by all these rules!!

They too are imposed or frowned upon for having an opinion no bra to burn or wanting a beer and laugh with their mates. Showing any masculinity at all! As if it wasn't what mother nature made them, god forbid! heavens above! these cave-like beasts, what are they doing being themselves?!

You act slightly human and beat yourself up about it. You're your own worst enemy! You go to yoga twice a week and think your the newfound Dali fricken lama!

Get a hold of your selves. If you want to be vegan and wear second-hand clothes and call your kids Far-qua go ahead no one is stopping you. But please please will you let us not so stuck up, constipated hypochondriacs, come to our own conclusions on how and when we will make the changes necessary for our lives and how we see ourselves within the planet and its future..

We may like the things you don't but doesn't mean we're not kind and loving people with similar values just means we're getting used to the fact that change is upon us and it takes us a little longer to get there.. !

And for your men please!! for gods sake stop crushing their masculinity let them be men, it's who they are and let them make their own way to their own place in this universe without being scowled at and nipped to pieces but your judgements and expectations! Scowling faces and pointy fingers!

You see yourselves as the saviours of our planet, I praise your efforts! I really do but in turn your losing sight of the love for humankind and your brothers and sisters that are right next to you!

Those that need nurturing are teaching - nurture and teach LOVE us and help us along the way by having a kind heart and patience with our ways that are not yet aligned with yours..

The world is changing but we're all in it together not just you.. give us time to reflect and be nostalgic to a life we once knew. We will get there but man give us some space to do it our way not your way.

OK rant over!

OP posts:
HotPenguin · 06/12/2019 14:52

I was engaged when you started off on the environment, but you lost me when switched to who will help the poor menz crushed by feminism.

Perhaps you could go and live in the 1970s?

PS the cow farts aren't harming the ozone, they are contributing to climate change.

CrashDiet · 06/12/2019 14:53

OP you need to escape the weight of other people's expectations.

Remember that it's your life, live it however you want to, expectations are everywhere where were you brought up? It doesn't matter as long as you get where you're going because none of this shit's gonna mean shit where we're going.

Just remember that, OP. I think its a Buddha quote.

Notodontidae · 06/12/2019 14:57

Sorry, what point were you making???

HepzibahGreen · 06/12/2019 14:58

Nihilism- Nethuns style.

HepzibahGreen · 06/12/2019 14:59

How DO you pronounce Farquhar? I have never met one. Everyone I know is called Paul.

CraftyCow93 · 06/12/2019 15:01

@Wafflecopter.

When I said that I was trying to be sensitive to people religious beliefs. Everyone is entitled to thier own beliefs without disrespect or shnide comments. Smile

Not everyone is so awful. Lol. I agree some of the worst are the elderly, but in my opinion they have a right to be that way, they've more than likely lived thier life adhering to the rules of thier own generation, just as we are subject to our generations utterly ridiculous fads now. I suppose when you get to a certain age you stop caring about how you act, in the end, we are all primal beings who do have urges whether said urges are for meat, sex, children ect and not a single person on this planet is perfect.

I do live by fuck it. Its my life and I'll live it my way.. That's how we should all be, we're all individuals, with our own minds, our own bodies. We're not sheep.

We shouldn't say baa and follow the leader.

burritofan · 06/12/2019 15:04

Everyone and their dog has put 'THEIR' expectations on me!! that they expect me to live by
Yet you're out here living 'YOUR' best life!! refusing to live up to the expectations of correct use of quotation or exclamation marks, you go girl.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 06/12/2019 15:05
Grin
portobella · 06/12/2019 15:09

I really appreciate your post. Your points are what I'm trying to say. thank you

OP posts:
NKFell · 06/12/2019 15:12

I'm with hotpenguin

I was sort of with you until the 'men' bit. Feminism doesn't belong in this rant imo, surely you don't want inequality? Especially since it's bad for normal men too.

koshkat · 06/12/2019 15:18

What the actual fuck is this? Was it sponsored by the Chubby Brown Appreciation Society?

This comment has made my day! Grin

Alrighteo · 06/12/2019 15:18

@LellyMcKelly

You sound like you need to get laid.

How pathetic. Women are only normal when they've sperm in them is it?

koshkat · 06/12/2019 15:20

And I found your Roy chubby brown comment quite funny he's hilarious after a bottle or two!!

OP, I am completely unsurprised that you think that the Chubby Brown is actually funny. FFS. Confused

koshkat · 06/12/2019 15:21

Rogue 'the' sorry

koshkat · 06/12/2019 15:23

How pathetic. Women are only normal when they've sperm in them is it?

Have you heard of lesbians?

Butchyrestingface · 06/12/2019 15:27

There's just too much all around.. Everyone and their dog has put 'THEIR' expectations on me!! that they expect me to live by, and if I don't I'm looked down upon, shunned and gossiped about.

Do they shite.

KellyHall · 06/12/2019 15:33

I appreciate the sentiment, but you need to look up:

'your' and 'you're'

I feel physically sick when someone is trying to make a point but is using incorrect English to do so.

SeditionSue · 06/12/2019 15:38

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blubelle7 · 06/12/2019 15:42

Wow just wow

user1471510720 · 06/12/2019 15:49

Couldn’t agree more Op, all this leftist liberal crap will die off soon, (it’s just a way of pitting people against people and liberals getting into power by the back door)

I don’t speak to idiots that are woke, I just ignore them or take the pee, the planet won’t be saved by vegans, or the world better because women are equal in everything or we all buy electric cars, complete diversity in workforce etc, the list goes on. It’s all BS.

Let these idiots die off of their own self importance and treat them with the contempt they deserve.

koshkat · 06/12/2019 16:03

I feel physically sick when someone is trying to make a point but is using incorrect English to do so

This is the thread that keeps on giving! Grin

Orangesandbananas · 06/12/2019 16:04

Why are the vegans constipated? And hypochondriac?

Are you talking specifically to some particular vegans, or to all vegans?

WTF does 'let men be men' mean? Is it to do with the meat eating? Can they only be men if they say ug and eat big chunks of meat?

It seems like your vegan friends' ethical ideas have got under your skin and now you're lashing out because you feel judged and defensive cause they're doing a better job of ethical living than you. Bit of advice - try not to care so much about what others think of you. I'm pretty sure they're not nearly as judgemental and angry as you are.

CrossingTheAlpsInOtley · 06/12/2019 17:07

That's why the Vote button is great because there, OP, more than a third of posters agree with you!

If we only had the comments, it would seem that hardly anyone agrees with you but this shows that those who disagree are simply making the most noise.

I'm in the third that agrees with you!

LadyAllegraImelda · 06/12/2019 17:09

Quit whinging presumed Tory voter

koshkat · 06/12/2019 17:21

I'm in the third that agrees with you!

Christ.

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