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AIBU to say stop with so many Fricken rules!

181 replies

portobella · 06/12/2019 12:07

I'm getting a little peed off at the whole you better live by these rules or judgement shall reign upon thee nonsense!

I can't use plastic, I can't have my Christmas tree and its decorations, I can t use wrapping paper, I must be vegan, not least because of the meat ingestion but because all the cows fart and hurt the ozone! Do you know how much vegetation is lost to avocados or the mafia and children being scarred for life by the acid in cashews?!

I can't swear around my kids, I mustn't enjoy meat of any kind, I can't buy new clothes, they must be second hand, must shop local, don't buy out of season, cant enjoy a good laugh at the expense of others! Hello, it's funny when someone falls on their arse or walks into a door! the list goes on!! REALLY??

AIBU to be getting a little peeved with all this?

I am a responsible citizen, I do watch my plastics waste, I do care about the wold. But I also do like meat every now and then, I do enjoy my Christmas decorations and the nostalgia of it all, I do enjoy new clothes sometimes and I do swear around my kids whilst having a G&T or a bottle of wine! (they're 15 &16) but it's not the point!

There's just too much all around.. Everyone and their dog has put 'THEIR' expectations on me!! that they expect me to live by, and if I don't I'm looked down upon, shunned and gossiped about.

My life is hard enough with my own expectations of myself let alone trying to live up the perfection and assumptions of others!

Those of you... the judgy and I mean really judgy self-imposed evangelists of our newfound world to be ARE NOT PERFECT you do know that don't you?

You have kids that run amuck, scream and have tantrums, and you call them diddums and little sweetie.. they're brats and need pulling into line or they'll be big brats living all entitled becoming worse versions of your judgemental selves.

You're so judgemental that you live on a knife-edge as you judge yourself worse than you do anyone else. Your husbands as yes this is mostly aimed at women! are tired and worn out by all these rules!!

They too are imposed or frowned upon for having an opinion no bra to burn or wanting a beer and laugh with their mates. Showing any masculinity at all! As if it wasn't what mother nature made them, god forbid! heavens above! these cave-like beasts, what are they doing being themselves?!

You act slightly human and beat yourself up about it. You're your own worst enemy! You go to yoga twice a week and think your the newfound Dali fricken lama!

Get a hold of your selves. If you want to be vegan and wear second-hand clothes and call your kids Far-qua go ahead no one is stopping you. But please please will you let us not so stuck up, constipated hypochondriacs, come to our own conclusions on how and when we will make the changes necessary for our lives and how we see ourselves within the planet and its future..

We may like the things you don't but doesn't mean we're not kind and loving people with similar values just means we're getting used to the fact that change is upon us and it takes us a little longer to get there.. !

And for your men please!! for gods sake stop crushing their masculinity let them be men, it's who they are and let them make their own way to their own place in this universe without being scowled at and nipped to pieces but your judgements and expectations! Scowling faces and pointy fingers!

You see yourselves as the saviours of our planet, I praise your efforts! I really do but in turn your losing sight of the love for humankind and your brothers and sisters that are right next to you!

Those that need nurturing are teaching - nurture and teach LOVE us and help us along the way by having a kind heart and patience with our ways that are not yet aligned with yours..

The world is changing but we're all in it together not just you.. give us time to reflect and be nostalgic to a life we once knew. We will get there but man give us some space to do it our way not your way.

OK rant over!

OP posts:
RedPanda2 · 06/12/2019 12:36

Ok boomer

Shannith · 06/12/2019 12:36

Couple of tips...

Pick one or if you must, two topics
Tone it down just a tincy bit

Then you can sit back and watch...

At the moment you are just going to be asked if you are drunk.

Which, to be fair you possibly are. If so, don't do the other tips until

  1. You have sobered up

HTH

christmassymcchristmas · 06/12/2019 12:36

😂😂😂

IndecentFeminist · 06/12/2019 12:36

Pmsl. Righto. 😂🤦‍♀️

dontalltalkatonce · 06/12/2019 12:36

So the DM's works party was last night I see.

OP, really, drunks like you shouldn't drink because you get all belligerent and boring AF. Switch to weed or ecstasy or something, booze doesn't suit you.

christmassymcchristmas · 06/12/2019 12:36

Fricken??

PBo83 · 06/12/2019 12:37

Agree or disagree...I CANNOT help but appreciate a rant of that proportion...bravo!

Venger · 06/12/2019 12:37

U ok, hun?

just5morepeas · 06/12/2019 12:40

Who pissed in your cornflakes?

PortiaCastis · 06/12/2019 12:41

Fuck off with your crushing masculinity rubbish, go tell that to the masculine male who broke my arm.
Go preach somewhere else luvvie because as you intended you've pissed folks off

TeapotCollection · 06/12/2019 12:41

But have you snapped and farted?

vodkaredbullgirl · 06/12/2019 12:42

do you feel better for that rant, best get in the corner and rock lol

Hedgehogblues · 06/12/2019 12:43

I was eating my Greek yogurt this morning and thought fuck this, I want a sausage barm

Who is stopping you?

LaurieFairyCake · 06/12/2019 12:43

I would guess you probably vote Tory Grin

Ummmmcake · 06/12/2019 12:43

Noone is ruining masculinity. It is not masculinity to grope someone without permission, or commit other forms of sexualt assault. Or to mansplain, or to underpay women or to demean women or to underestimate women. All that is not "being masculine", it is "being an at-home".

Sweetdreamer93 · 06/12/2019 12:45

Let her have her rant without dissecting it.
Enjoy OP.

Ummmmcake · 06/12/2019 12:46

Bloody auto-correct. The word was ashole.

MsRomanoff · 06/12/2019 12:46

Who is that told you, what you can and cant do?

From the post its seems you are a young teen, so your parents? They sound like fun suckers

BeatriceTheBeast · 06/12/2019 12:48

Ah op, top rant. Slightly weird and incoherent rant. But I appreciate your enthusiasm nonetheless.

Also, yes, the weird and incoherent does make me wonder if you work for one of our nation's finest rancid rags.

StreetwiseHercules · 06/12/2019 12:48

The establishment and the media spend their time making sure the proles are too busy judging each other to spend much energy judging them.

EL2019 · 06/12/2019 12:48

So other people’s kids are brats and need pulling up:

You have kids that run amuck, scream and have tantrums, and you call them diddums and little sweetie.. they're brats and need pulling into line.

But you want to be treated with nurture and love, patience and understanding.

Those that need nurturing are teaching - nurture and teach LOVE us and help us along the way by having a kind heart and patience with our ways that are not yet aligned with yours.

I see.

managedmis · 06/12/2019 12:48

@ Hedgehogblues

Who is stopping you?

^^

Dunno really Blush

Areyoufree · 06/12/2019 12:49

The Daily Mail comments contributors are having a Xmas trip to Mumsnet because Boundary Mills won't accept their coach parties anymore.

Nicely done, sir.

TheVanguardSix · 06/12/2019 12:50

Bruhhh

No one is taking away anyone's sausage roll, free will, or Rick and Morty episodes.

By the way, I know NOBODY who remotely fits your description of 'you' in your essay. Who are you talking to? Who are you talking about?

Chloemol · 06/12/2019 12:50

Brave op, very brave, as MN seems to be made up of the judgemental people you are talking about

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