In laws don’t want to know gender

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AIBU??? DH comes from a huge family with lots of grandchildren for his in laws so it’s not like ours is there first. They don’t want to know the gender of our baby until they are here and they are really aggressive and adamant about it. I’ve explained that if i slip up it’s not my problem and if they come over I’m not moving anything that would give it away! So MIL said i better move things before she comes over so she doesn’t see anything! Are you kidding me? I feel like they are making it all about them when it’s really, really not. They don’t bother with DH a lot so don’t know why they are SO obsessed. Maybe it’s hormones but we have waited a very very long time for this and we’re so excited, i don’t want to have to keep my mouth shut over Christmas just for them!

Yeah, my FIL is the only person who doesn't know that my niece is having a girl in March, it's a pain in the bum tbh.

I can't really see the problem here. Why do you have to tell them if they would like it to be a surprise? It's really not a big deal and it's not unreasonable.

Because it's an attention-seeking pain in the arse I disagree. When my ds was small our local hospital didn't tell you the sex of the baby. Saved all this hassle (as well as sex-based abortions).

They are a bit unreasonable to say you have to put stuff away that might give it away - but there again, haven't we moved away from buying everything blue for a boy and pink for a girl these days?

“june2007

Why can,t you respect there wish?”

Because it’s not their baby!

@Don'talltalkatonce.
This.
They are bloody ridiculous.
This is your baby not theirs.
If they don't want to know don't tell them, but if they find out TOUGH.
Don't let them dictate things now or they will think they can do it for evermore.
Make a stand, stick to it. Do not let them have control.
Good luck 💐

Sadly, if her reactions were that extreme you've got bigger problems than whether or not she finds out the sex of your baby. You may need to plan how much you see them/how much input they have after the birth. I foresee choppy waters.

Congratulations and good luck!

Urgh how annoying. Don’t change anything if they find out it’s not the end of the world

Is she this unreasonable in other areas of your relationship? Screaming at you, really??? What a weird way to act

Congratulations on your baby 💐

My grandmother in law didn't want to know the gender. We did try to respect it until my husband was having a conversation with her and said!' id never let my son do that :😂 it's so hard when everyone else knows

Tell them and get it over with. Then no worry of you slipping up