DH stuck on the M5... help!

[NannaNoodleman]

It turns out DH's breakdown cover isn't worth a Mars Bar!

He's broken down on the M4/M5 junction.

They're sending out a recovery truck but he has to tell them where to tow him to which has to be a local garage.

Any recommendations??

I need to get the kids packed into the car to go and pick him up... not quite how any of wanted to spend Friday night.

Yes, but most of them actually have a sensible meaning behind them. Since women, as a group don’t have the same privilege as men as a group, it doesn’t make sense. You might as well say BAME people can be racist towards whites. It doesn’t work when it’s a more privileged group crying about a less privileged group. But we always get people jumping on nearly every thread to accuse women of such things, so you’re not unique.

That's a massive chip you have on your shoulder for being a woman, I'm so glad I'm not unique.

Man makes a mistake, he's a selfish, controlling, manchild, so he has planned to have poor recovery, not take his coat and then break down..... and all because he's a man? Would you say the same if this was a woman?

@speakout e at my what I said? Not difficult, you think relationships where people help each other out are wrong, I see yours as wrong for the reasons I stated. Not sure what you can't understand?

spanglydangly

There you go reading things that aren’t there. Recognising reality isn’t the same as having a chip. I actually get on very well with the decent men in my life, including my two adult boys and their friends. [gasp] Shocker! I know!

I even married a man and had a long happy marriage, where we treated each other with love and respect. I nursed him by myself, fed him, gave him his pain relief, chemo tablets, steroids and so on, bathed him and loved him through the terminal cancer that finally took him from me after two years. But you go ahead and make up things about me, if that makes you feel better.

I’m not the one full of hate.

Anyway, enough derailing. NannaNoodleman, did your DH ask you to collect him or did you just want to, because you’re a good person. I know my husband and I would have discussed what was best and came to a mutual decision. The way your husband has handled it would suggest he’s a pretty decent man and it’s lovely to read about a good healthy relationship. I hope he’s got the heat back into his bones.

spanglydangly

You severely miss my point. I can assure you my relationship is far from distant, cold and hard.

Maybe I need to explain again.
I imagine myself breaking down- in a busy place, so not the back of beyond. Some form of help is available quite quickly, but then I find out that I may not be able to get home in my onw car- so then I think about options.

I know my partner- male/female whatever, is at home on a cold night with young children- and all that entails- food, bathtime, bedtime routines trying to tidy the kitchen, and a hundred other tasks that a parent has in the evening.
Calling her/him to come to rescue me (160 miles- two kids in the car- time that would be spent housework/relaxing/getting kids settled) on a cold night is an option.
Or Option 2. I could sort myself out and inconvenience myself a little more by getting a bus/taxi.train/joining RAC/hotel overnight in order to prevent the hassle for my OH and children.

I fail to see why you think the second option(s) are a sign of a "cold, hard, distant relationship". I disagree.

I would sort myself out, and my OH would too, not because we are cold or uncaring, but because we do care.

@T0tallyFuckedUpFamily sorry about your husband but that's got nothing to do with this thread.

Do you want to here about my life? No it's irrelevant in this instance.

You're saying women are lesser than men and that no women hate men is in my opinion wrong, just read the he is a controlling man hold on here?

speakout I think it’s obvious by now, that dangly just doesn’t like women.

You're saying women are lesser than men and that no women hate men is in my opinion wrong, just read the he is a controlling man hold on here?

Where did I say women are lesser than men? I think your dislike of women is affecting your reading comprehension.

On a lighter note, this thread has made the weekly talk round up 'Hot Threads'.

The OP's foil-wrapped DH is now famous!

@T0tallyFuckedUpFamily oh please! That's just ridiculous

@T0tallyFuckedUpFamily I like women, just not stupid ones....

They have ideas on their sat nav. It will either be by you or close to him depending on cover. Otherwise you pay to tow it from your house to garage later.

Pretty standard stuff, bit unreasonable to moan

I like women, just not stupid ones

And the mask slips.

I love the fact MNs saw him

I love the fact MNs saw him

I thought that was hilarious, yes I’m easily amused. 😁 It was like one of those posts where Mumsnetters discuss famous people they saw in Tesco.

@T0tallyFuckedUpFamily if you read the thread that was a puss take our of some man hating women further up thread! 😂 🙄

*piss take!

The husband didn't need, and was not entitled to, his wife's help. The incident was his own fault due to taking out shit insurance and not bringing a coat despite the freezing cold weather. And still he wanted his children to endure a 200 mile trip at past their bedtime.

He needs to learn a lesson for being such a skinflint! Maybe after this, he'll get proper breakdown cover. If you pick him up, he won't.

So don't collect him. He's a grownup and can figure out how to get home by himself. Gordano services is a taxi ride to Bristol (or Nailsea) station. He can get a train from there.

BTW, I broke down a few years ago on the M4 between Bristol and Swindon (the bit with no lights) over 100 miles from home. I DID have breakdown cover, but it still took 2 and a half hours to get home. I lost my electrics so the police and motorway repair guys stayed with me just in case. Don't worry he will be looked after on the hard shoulder. Just tell him to stay on the embankment as far away from the road as possible. Did my DH offer to come to get me? Of course not! I was fine - he will be too.

24 hours too late but keep the advice coming @Jaxhog

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat 🤣

Doh! Reminder to self - check the date of the thread.

How did he get home?

@LensGlans it was 160 miles but hey you carry on with your version of it!

Recently I broke down. It was freezing cold, I was alone with a young DC. Very remote. In the dark.

I have full RAC breakdown, they said they’d be 4-5 hrs and recommended I go home and call them in the morning. I said, if I could get home I would. But my car is broken down.....

Useless. In the end they did send someone to recover my car, but refused to take me home .said they’d charge me. It was full breakdown cover!!
I am no longer with the RAC.

BTW we had warm coats, hats and gloves and thermals on. But it’s pretty cold quickly when you are without a warm engine running.