badly behaved toddler at Slimming World

[lindsayincroydon]

I go to Slimming World on Friday mornings, and I am finding it really good for losing weight. Our team leader is inspirational, and I love my meeting being in the morning and just around the corner from where I live.
The problem is this: there is a toddler aged about 2 and a half and he is very noisy during the lecture. I am deaf in one ear and when he is stomping around creating havoc, I cannot hear what the team leader is saying.
His mother takes no notice of him, in fact she smiles at him as though he is doing something cute.
I don't know if I should say that I have paid good money to attend the meeting, and it is not a mother and toddler group, but a serious group where other members are trying very hard to lose weight.
What do other people think? Should I say something?
thanks

@FrancisCrawford ah, so it’s ok to discriminate against them then as it’s not a protected characteristic. I understand.

This isn’t the point anyway. The point is that the women with the toddler wants to lose weight too. She wants to be part of a group to help her. The OP wants to too so what’s the solution so both parties can get this?

As I have said previously, I just don’t go anymore because of the disruption my toddler causes, but it would be nice if I could still go and there was an area to keep him amused so I could join in. I recognise this isn’t always possible and accept it.

I don’t think that women with small children’s needs are of less importance than the other women’s in the weight lost group. Your posts are implying that you do think this.

Costa actually encourage parents to visit with their kids. They have kids drinks options like the babychino that they actively promote. So I dont feel like I could complain about costa
Encouraging people to visit with children does not equal "therefore the general public and staff should have to be subjected to badly behaved children running around, shouting etc".

The fact some people think any space with a child in should mean their child can do as they please is rude and inconsiderate.

Change Costa to Starbucks or local cafe or restaurant or any other situations that is not a child play environment and the principle is the same. Children welcome does not mean children can do what they like because their parents might be tired and want a break.

I'm a slimming world customer aswell, our consultant is always making sure were all ok and happy, we also have a basket that we can put notes in for our consultant, do you have one of these as it's where I would put it. If not definitely speak to your consultant, it also shouldn't make a difference if you are deaf in 1 year or not as a screaming toddler would drive most people crazy

Whatever happened to people making wise decisions about their behaviour, where and when they go to events, who with etc without it being reduced to 'discrimination'?

Many parents have effective ways of managing the behaviour of their very young children. Some parents dont. If you are a parent in the latter group, and you want to go to an event where the behaviour of your child will make the experience of others significantly worse (ie. when people are paying for a service and a series of lectures and can't hear the lecture), then you should be wise enough to know, you shouldn't go with your child. Either pay for a babysitter so you can still go, or don't go.

Whatever happened to common sense?

I don't think its a case of discrimination to ask the mother to make sure the child is quietly occupied or to take him/her outside to calm down a bit.

My son is disabled - and therefore has "legal" protection against discrimination; but I wouldnt have taken him to an adult group and let him run riot!!

Whatever happened to common sense?
Most people still use it but a loud and inconsiderate minority thing their wants means showing zero concern for anyone else, after all it would be terrible for them to show consideration and /or plan accordingly

That’s all the OP is asking for. Empathy. Your noisy, excitable child is preventing me from accessing my activity I have paid for. Let them be a toddler somewhere else for an hour.

It’s why some restaurants and cafes have child-free times. Understanding that not everyone enjoys the same environment.

Discuss with the team leader, its up to her then to have a chat with a mother, it wont make things awkward for you then

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Your post appears to suggest that you do not believe that disabled people have additional rights when it comes to matters where their disability has a material effect on their ability to access services etc. For the avoidance of doubt - they do

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It's a pity that people still don't get it - I'm sure in most cases it's not malice. It's just a lack of thinking it through.

YABU to think they can control their 2 year old.
Especially BU to expect that mother to not come due to said child.

Selfish

What is unreasonable about controlling your 2 year old? What is wrong with teaching them that they are not the most important person in the room & that they must learn to behave? What is wrong with supplying the toddler with items to amuse & if that fails removing said child?

‘My son is 20 months old and runs round causing havoc and I can't do anything about it. He does what he wants’
if ever a quote needed a granny to say ‘you’re making a rod for your own back’ 🙄🙄🤣
It’s not difficult to teach a child to behave, good luck when he goes to school with that attitude.

@Jkscott another person taking what I’ve said out of context. So much fun to judge another human.

I’m leaving this thread. No point having the same conversation over and over.

@duggeehug85 I genuinely read that as your little one watches horror on your phone! 😁

@EvilHerbivore - bing bunny is a bloody horror show! 🤣

@LouMumsnet you removed a post in which I directly stated I do not agree with discrimination against any one with a disability.

In this post I also asked one particular user to stop attacking me and accusing me of things I simply dont believe or haven't remotely said.

I do hope you have also looked at that persons posts as I believe those do indeed break your guidelines.

Many thanks