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To not hand wash his jumper?

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BloodyCats · 24/11/2019 10:31

Dh has an expensive jumper that needs hand washing. Dh thinks I should hand wash his jumper, I think DH should wash his own jumper and I continue to ignore it in the wash basket.

Who is bu?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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runoutofideasnow · 24/11/2019 10:31

He is BU. Lazy swine


Velveteenfruitbowl · 24/11/2019 10:33

Why would he think you should do it?


BloodyCats · 24/11/2019 10:34

I do all of the washing and ironing. He thinks this jumper falls in to one of my jobs.
I just cba, it’s a faff. He will wear it once and then ask for it to be washed again.

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healthylifestylee · 24/11/2019 10:35

I do all the laundry so I'd wash it. - id put it in the machine on the hand wash setting though or take to the dry cleaners if that wasn't an option
I have never stood over the sink and washed an item and I don't plan to start.
If it's a more delicate item it's washed on the delicate setting


StroppyWoman · 24/11/2019 10:36

His jumper, his chore. Lazy sod.

Your (presumably chosen) chore is the washing machine. If it can't go in the washing machine, it's not your task.


Iloveacurry · 24/11/2019 10:36

He can do it himself. Just keep leaving it in the wash basket.


healthylifestylee · 24/11/2019 10:36

Just now seen your comment of him wearing it once. DP will wear his more expensive items that require a faffy wash more than once and won't ask for it to be washed until he has done so and it actually requires a wash
Can you just put it away again if it doesn't smell or have anything spilt on it?


AtrociousCircumstance · 24/11/2019 10:36

So what chores are his responsibility?


Mamimawr · 24/11/2019 10:37

Give him a choice. He can handwash it or you will put it in on handwash cycle.


Disfordarkchocolate · 24/11/2019 10:37

I have a couple of items like this that have been at the bottom of my laundry basket for years.


PositiveVibez · 24/11/2019 10:38

What? Is this for real? Why can't the lazy twat wash it himself?????


RandomWok · 24/11/2019 10:39

Fabreeze it. Grin


Whatsitlike · 24/11/2019 10:41

I do quite a bit of hand-washing and would wash the jumper, but not after one wear. But then washing is my job, he does plenty of other jobs so why not.

I would not trust my DH not to ruin it, or can you put it in a wool wash?


Stompythedinosaur · 24/11/2019 10:41

Nope, not a chance. Continue to ignore it.


xyzandabc · 24/11/2019 10:43

If he wants it actually washed by hand in the sink, he can do it. If I did it, it would be going in the machine on a delicate or handwash cycle.


MrsJackRackham · 24/11/2019 10:43

If DP asked me to - Jack could you hand wash my jumper please? then yes I probably would. He does extra things for me if I ask. If he expected me to do it then that's entirely different. It's the assumption that would piss me off and the jumper would rot it the basket.


MyNewBearTotoro · 24/11/2019 10:45

I would be happy to stick it in the machine on a wool cycle if I usually did all washing (and assuming jobs are divvied up fairly in the household) but I wouldn’t be standing at the sink handwashing it. If he wants it hand washed he can do it himself.


RandomMess · 24/11/2019 10:46

I would have made him return the jumper if he expected me to hand wash it...


DisplayPurposesOnly · 24/11/2019 10:48

I would not trust my DH not to ruin it, or can you put it in a wool wash?

It's his jumper. So what if he ruins his jumper?


Mylittlepony374 · 24/11/2019 10:49

I might machine wash it on a wool setting if I had other wool to do.
No fucking chance would I hand wash it in a sink. And he wouldn't ask because he would know that was unreasonable & he's an adult who can do it himself.


dementedpixie · 24/11/2019 10:52

That's what the hand wash setting on the washing machine is for


SerenDippitty · 24/11/2019 10:53

I wouldn’t mind doing it for DH, but then again he does most of the cooking and washing up.


EL8888 · 24/11/2019 10:54

Why is it your problem and what did his last slave die of?!

Don’t get involved, he can do it


TidyDancer · 24/11/2019 10:54

On the surface here YANBU and he of course should do to himself. However, how are the household chores divided, what are both your working hours (etc)? He is possibly less unreasonable in asking this depending on those things.


dementedpixie · 24/11/2019 10:54

Or hang it back up and pretend you've lovingly washed it for him

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