To not hand wash his jumper?

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Dh has an expensive jumper that needs hand washing. Dh thinks I should hand wash his jumper, I think DH should wash his own jumper and I continue to ignore it in the wash basket.

Who is bu?

I'd handwash it then donate it to the charity shop.

The problem with putting woollen jumpers in the machine is the sudden changes in temperature. Machines wash in hot or warm water and rinse in cold. That is what makes wool jumpers shrink and go all felty.

However, you can machine wash them, and you have two options:-

1. if you have a cold wash option on your washing machine you can do it in the machine on the wool setting. The jumper is washed and rinsed in cold water. I do all my jumpers this way and it has been fine.

2. if you don't have a cold water option then use the pause button so that it will wash in warm water and then pause. Wait until the water has gone cold and then get it going again for the cold rinse. This is obviously a bit more of a faff.

Never use detergent, use a soap like Stergene or Woolite. You can buy unbranded liquid soap which is fine too.

Don’t hang it wet on a hanger OP. It will stretch.

After your updates OP...it can't be his favourite jumper if it has sat in the bottom of the laundry basket for a year.
He's using it to make a point and a poor one at that.

You have got more than enough on your plate without having his stubborn arse trying to make some big deal over nowt really.

Spray it with fabric softener then take it to charity shop

In our house, the 'handwash only' jumper would 'accidentally' get mixed in with the towels and end up getting washed at 60 with a couple of hours in the tumble dryer on the highest setting for good measure.

Did he ever wash his own jumper? X

Tell him that if it sits there much longer, the moths will get it.

He would rather not wear it for a year than to either hand wash it himself or consent to you putting it in the machine. OK then. He wants a stupid battle he can have one. One in which he has no clean jumper and you have less work.

Don't cave.

If anything find a job that he does then unilaterally create an extra complication on it that only benefits you and only causes trouble for him. Any ideas?

He should wash it. It’s not ordinary laundry. DH does all washing and ironing on our house, but I do my jumpers and bras by hand.

I work part time and DH full time. He does all his own washing. I was housed stuff, my stuff and DDs stuff.

I think it's a good split of chores - you should start doing it.

Did he ever wash it?

Something permanently in the laundry basket would irritate the fuck out of me. I like the bugger empty on occasion.

Whoever bought the stupid jumper should wash it.

I've recently had a similar thing happen.
DP brought me an item that had mould from damp on it (left at work I think in a damp area)
Asked me very nicely to do something with it. I threw it in the bin.
Problem solved.
Ah yeah it couldn't go in washer, it was leather. I couldn't be bothered to take it to dry cleaners, plus not my item, not my problem.

Point him in the direction of a few YouTube videos of hand washing jumpers and leave him to it.
No need for special liquids just ordinary shampoo.
The washing machine’s spin cycle is worth using to turn a sopping wet jumper into something more manageable.
I have a “wardrobe changeover impasse” every Winter with DH (which I lose because I don’t need simmering resentment over housework with someone I love) so I understand the frustration.

I do all the laundry in our house, so I would wash it for him. I'd do it on the hand-wash cycle in the machine, though, and happily let him think it was hand washed!

Dry clean

My brother used to have his hand wash jumpers dry cleaned. Tell your husband if it stays in the wash you'll put it in the machine, so he'd better wash it or take it to the cleaners.

if its proper wool jumper take it out and hang it out in the fresh air for a blow about in the wind then just bring in and hang in wardrobe - he is unlikely to wear next to skin and unless he has dribbled down it washing after one wear is ridiculous

I do all the washing and ironing and putting away etc. I do most of the housework and cooking too, and I work odd hours during the week and some weekends so it’s not as if I don’t pull my weight.

If you do all that, what does he do to pull HIS weight?

He doesn’t want to put it in the machine in case it ruins it.

Then he can wash it in a sink then.

Last year the jumper spent the entire year sat at the bottom of the the washing basket because we are both so stubborn over it

Wash it but ruin it and be done with it once and for all.

Choose your battles. If you have a spare few moments wash it, or just say to oh "are you going to wash that jumper?". Sounds like mountains from mole hills to me.

In reality I would tell him I am sick of the jumper lying in the basket, I'm laundry queen, so I am putting it in the machine tonight. If he wants to handwash instead, he's welcome to do it himself. If he doesn't I'm making the laundry queen executive decision to machine wash it on handwash setting.

If your marital agreement is that you do all the laundry then you get to make all the decisions about the laundry. No spoony fuckers interfering. "Your opinion has been noted."

Carry on ignoring it.

Machine wash, hot cycle, fashionable clothing for child's doll?

My ex Mother in law used to say "Buy what you like in the shirt line, as long as you know it will be put in the washing machine and then hung on a hanger to dry. If it needs ironing, I won't be doing it" She had four sons, so I didn't blame her!

Depends what he does for you. If he does lots of jobs for you that you don’t enjoy doing then I’d do it. Hand washing a jumper is a job that should fall on no one in particular but I wouldn’t make an issue out of it. Does he refuse to do stuff you don’t like doing?