To not hand wash his jumper?

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Dh has an expensive jumper that needs hand washing. Dh thinks I should hand wash his jumper, I think DH should wash his own jumper and I continue to ignore it in the wash basket.

Who is bu?

I'd sling it in the machine on a handwash or delicate cycle - although after one wear I'd return it to the wardrobe as is providing there are no marks

I would hand wash it because I hate waste and hand washing really does prolong the life of naice jumpers.

However, that's because we have that kind of division of labour and because dh knows better than to wear a jumper once and then expect it to get washed.

Also, my DH does all the chores I hate most because he loves me, so I see doing something small but annoying as being quid pro quo.

If he was a dick, I'd put it in the machine at 40 with normal liquid and a long spin. Jumper ruined, job done.

If it's just that you can't be arsed, shove it in a pillowcase, wool cycle with wool detergent, 5 minutes on delicate seeing if rumble dryer then laid flat to dry. If he objects, his jumper, his problem.

Tell him to wear a t shirt under it so you can just wash the T shirt. Jumper gets washed every few wears only. And make him take it off when he eats!

Tell him you are not his maid. Also tell him to take it to the dry cleaners.

You know the handwashing setting you have on your washing machine? well that's for handwashing.

If it’s not dirty, I would just hang it up

If it is, you can tell him he either washes it himself, or it will be put in the washing machine and he can wish for for the best

It would depend on how the household stuff is divided.
Personally, I work part time and therefore do think it is fair that I do a lot more of the household stuff than my dh. When we both worked FT, it was 'even', so I do all the washing here EXCEPT when he chooses to buy "specialist" stuff that can only be washed in a "specialist" way. I take into account how easy / difficult it is to wash something before buying it for my clothes (and when I was buying the dcs' clothes).
I would a) suggest he waits until it needs a wash rather than bunging it in the basket after one wear
b) Let him know I will do it when I have other 'delicate' stuff to do in the 'wool wash' in the washing machine - so it will get done one day, but not anytime soon.

Your DH should wash it unless you brought it for him.

He could take it to the dry cleaners if he wants it cleaned. Lazy fecker.

If he has the time to sit there and demand you wash his jumper, he has the time to wash his own damn jumper.

Or hang it back up and pretend you've lovingly washed it for him

Yep, if it's not dirty, don't wash it.
If you do all laundry, then I think you should do the jumper. Is there something else he does all of that you might add something of your own to the list?

Handwash setting on your machine, lay it out flat on a towel to shape and dry. If you do all laundry, it's not much extra.

Also, if you both work and have other commitments it might be time to start sharing out household jobs. I'm sure he can figure out how to use the washing machine..

If he absolutely does his share otherwise I would wash it. In the machine though. Life is too short for hand washing.

I would wash it on the hand wash/wool cycle in the machine, along with everything else that is delicate/wool/handwash. We have a separate laundry basket for these items to be put in, because it takes a little while to build up a full wash load of these items.

If he wants it washed any other way than in the machine, then he'd need to do it himself.

My DH is just as likely as me to put on a wash load though. But I have asked him to leave the handwash basket for me to do, as there are some things I'll turn inside out, some I'll put in a laundry net, will add fabric softener etc depending on what's in the load yadda yadda.

If you go buying items that extend the labour of the usual task by a significant margin, you should do it yourself.

YANBU.

machine wash and when it shrinks he probably wont ask you again. Why do you do all the washing/ ironing?

Exactly the same as HappyAsASandboy.

I tend to split the washing into loads and put it in the machine but DH mostly hangs it out/up to dry, and best of all, he puts it away which is probably my most hated job.

We don't do ironing unless it's a special occasion, lol!

dh does all his own laundry since I washed a jumper of his and he claims it shrunk it didn't

There's not enough information to make an informed judgement but if he's a fully functioning adult what is the reason he can't do it?

Do what a man would do- do it so badly that no one asks you to do it again.

But to answer your question- I think anything above and beyond operating the washing machine/drier/hanging up/folding/putting away falls outside your job description. The onus lies with the owner of anything requiring kid gloves.

I wouldn’t, as I deliberately don’t buy things that need hand washing.

What is it made off? all my wool including cashmere and merino jumpers go in a delicate wash without a problem

Gain from it.
If you take me to dinner at X. I will wash your jumper.
If you go paint the bathroom I will wash jumper.

I wouldn't do it out of principle, but I quite like handwashing a really nice, soft jumper, especially if it's cashmere or cashmere mix.

I enjoy like the sensation of gently squishing warm soapy water through something soft.

In our house I do all the general laundry (washing, drying, folding) but expect DH and DD to put their own stuff away and do their own ironing and any hand washing of special items. Works for us.