To not hand wash his jumper?

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Dh has an expensive jumper that needs hand washing. Dh thinks I should hand wash his jumper, I think DH should wash his own jumper and I continue to ignore it in the wash basket.

Who is bu?

Don’t be petty, OP. It’s your job as the woman to wash his jumper by hand, so you should do it with kindness in your heart.

Then put the wanker’s jumper in the tumble dryer!

I would wash it for DH, I do handwash his bamboo socks mainly because lots of dye comes out every time (he's had them a long time, washed in the machine before and the socks were fine but the dye went on other stuff).

Washing is one of my chores, I have no issue handwashing, I handwash my nice smalls, usually just put to soak for a while in some persil silk, rub a bit in the pit area if needed or any marks, rinse and drip dry over the bath. It's not like going down to the river, it's not a huge faff.
DH is a fabulous cook and takes his time over our meals so it's not an issue for me to handwash some items.

Sorry no - he wants to add work to your task list, he checks it's ok with you before he does so.

'I want to buy this lovely pure wool jumper but I won't be prepared to wash it, will you be ok with that?'
'No, I don't have time and don't want to faff.'
'Ok'

Fabreeze it.. to keep it smelling “washed” just spray it with softener n water. Hang it back up.. job done. Until it’s visibly dirty, and if you forget to tell him it’s washed n hung up he likely won’t wear it for ages.

Then when he needs it in a hurry you’re doing xyz n he can surely wash it this once...

I do all laundry but have always said I won't do anything more complicated than stick a standard wash on. If DH wants anything more delicate it's up to him to keep it separate from the rest of the washing and to wash it himself.

Anything in the washing basket gets a No. 3 at 40 degrees and if something doesn't survive then it is nothing to do with me.

Assuming you have a fair split of chores and washing is one of yours to do, you should do it. Just waiting for the drip feed though

If he asked me nicely I'd do it, just as I'd mend something for him if he asks me. He'll do stuff for me if I ask him to, it's just teamwork. It wouldn't get done until it's convenient for me, though.

Fortunately he doesn't ask me to handwash his precious cycling gear, he does that himself.

Dry Cleaners can sort for him

It depends on how your household jobs are divided. If it’s actually fairly divided then I would probably do it. If it’s a “he does his fair share-he puts the bins out, tops up the oil in the car and puts up shelves” type division I wouldn’t.

Never mind the bloody washing what about all the drying, rolling it up in a towel etc - they take a week to dry. I have several cashmere jumpers that I wear often. I only wear them outside the house with t shirt under and unless they start to pong they will get a twice yearly wash, by hand, by me. I would not wash DH's jumpers by hand - they go in the machine, and if they shrink - hard cheese mate.

Hang it back up if he won’t wash it.

I do all the washing at mine but I won’t hand wash DPs jumpers. If he is silly enough to buy a hand wash jumper then he needs to wash it

DisplayPurposesOnly, it may be his jumper and would ruin it, so a waste of a jumper for the sake of a handwash which take hardly no time.

Same way I would ruin a meal as I am a rubbish cook and it would be a waste of food, on the other hand DH who does all the cooking is a fab cook, and cleans up as well, better than me.

Do you split chores though? Like, you do all the washing and he does all the dishes or all the ironing or whatever?
So he cleans things of yours. And you clean things of his. If that's the case, then I can see that he has an argument for saying you should wash the jumper, as long as he does all of his share of the chores.

However, because it's like a 'specialty item' which takes more effort and takes more time, then I would do it myself if it were mine, even if we had split the chores and washing was yours. It's just unreasonable to ask someone to hand wash your clothes for you.

If he wants it physically hand washing in the sink he should do it.

If he's happy for it to be hand washed on the washing machine hand wash setting then I would do if if I were you seeing as it's a chore you take ownership of.

It all depends on how you divide household jobs and how he asks. A request- I’d do it. A demand? Not sure how I would respond except I know it would be “No!” because I can’t imagine him asking.

“If he wants it physically hand washing in the sink he should do it”

Why?

Is it really so precious that it can’t go in the machine on short cool hand wash with no spin or 400 or 600spin if you have it?

My underwired bras survive that. Surely it’s pretty gentle?

Buy him a bottle of Eucalan. Dead easy, pour into a bowl of warm water, dunk garment in, swish it about for a bit, leave it for a few minutes then squeeze out and leave to dry. No rinsing. So simple, even a man could cope.

In our house the washing is primarily DH's job but I don't expect him to do my fussy stuff partly because I don't trust him not to ruin it. I've chosen to create more work so I should deal with that extra workload. Otherwise I'd be that person who takes all the credit for cooking but expects their other half to wash up every pan they own and clean up the tomato sauce they flung onto the kitchen ceiling while making expressive chefly gestures.

If your DH wants to own difficult things I think he either takes responsibility for their upkeep or he risks trying the delicate setting on the washing machine.

I’d just hang it back up/put it away/put it in the clean clothes pile
Wouldn’t wash it after one wear.

My DP's handwash jumper has been on the bannister for about a month. No arguments about it yet but clearly neither of us have any intention of being the one to wash it.
I did make a comment about him leaving his stupid handwash jumper at my house for me to wash and he laughed and said he'd take it home - yet it's still here .......

I'm pretty sure I'll be the one to crack and wash it as I'm fed up of seeing it, but in your case your DH is just being lazy and should do it himself. Maybe just hang it on the line while it's raining and tell him that's as much as you're intending to do with it.

I wash all my cashmere and wool in the machine on a cool wool cycle. They've all survived so far. If he's so precious about it he should do it himself.

Oh this is brilliant, I love it when I’m right

I do all the washing and ironing and putting away etc. I do most of the housework and cooking too, and I work odd hours during the week and some weekends so it’s not as if I don’t pull my weight. I could hand wash his jumper but I just really can’t be arswd with the faff of it. We do lots of favours for each other I just don’t want to do that one. He doesn’t want to put it in the machine in case it ruins it.
Last year the jumper spent the entire year sat at the bottom of the the washing basket because we are both so stubborn over it

If he's not prepared to wash it then I don't blame you for refusing.

Is this a point of principle thing? Because in an otherwise happy and properly equal relationship and if it was a request, not a demand, I can’t see why you wouldn’t do it.