To not hand wash his jumper?

[BloodyCats]

Dh has an expensive jumper that needs hand washing. Dh thinks I should hand wash his jumper, I think DH should wash his own jumper and I continue to ignore it in the wash basket.

Who is bu?

[picklemepopcorn]

I avoid buying handwash stuff. I'd be annoyed if I had to wash someone else's handwash stuff!

[FizzyGreenWater]

I'm pretty sure I'll be the one to crack and wash it as I'm fed up of seeing it

Please don't.

Yes that's funny but it's actually not. That's how perfectly nice ok partners eventually turn into people who take you for granted, because the bottom line is he will leave the job for you to do and eventually you will demonstrate that you will back down. It's not your jumper. Laugh, and tell him to take it home, and if you are sick of seeing it put it in his bag.

That will be funny too. But without the deeply ingrained pisstaking.

[BloodyCats]

I really just can’t be bothered with it, nothing more to it.
Sometimes I feel like I’m always rushing about, I have a physical job and like to keep up with exercise. I’m always cooking and cleaning and ironing everyone’s clothes. I just don’t want to add the stupid jumper to my list.

[FizzyGreenWater]

Take it out of the wash basket and roll it up and put it in his cupboard.

'Your jumper's just getting mangled in there. One day you'll find the time to wash it, until then just have it in the cupboard. It's not part of the washing routine, I'm no more going to handwash your jumper than I'd expect you to add a special trip to the tip to recycle my eyeliner crayons to your putting out the bins tasks.'

[AngusThermopyle]

I would either Febreze it (which I don't usually have) or spray with a mix of water and your usual fabric conditioner & re hang it, if u have any, or put it on a quick rinse with conditioner in the machine which is usually cold water so should work. Or just let him do it.

[SkySmiler]

Why exactly does he think you should wash it? Just to be clear....

[user1480880826]

Jesus Christ, is it still the 1950s in your house? If my husband said that to me I would divorce him.

Grow a spine ffs.

[abitwhiffy]

Hi tell him to fuck off, job done 🎄

[Getoffmylilo]

Meet him half way - if you have a handwash setting on the machine show it to him or point him in the direction of the nearest dry cleaners.

[flowery]

” He doesn’t want to put it in the machine in case it ruins it....
..Last year the jumper spent the entire year sat at the bottom of the the washing basket because we are both so stubborn over it”

If he’s happy to be without it for a whole year, surely it may as well go in the machine on delicates? Either it will be ok, in which case problem solved, or it will be ruined (v unlikely) in which case he’s only lost a jumper he wasn’t wearing anyway.

[SD1978]

I probably would do it- but preferably with him present if it's a case of not being sure how to. I know several people that aren't sure how to wash and place out a 'nice' jumper (my mother is one of them)..... and also wouldn't want to see it buggered up.

[Havaina]

YANBU. I don't like anyone doing my laundry, and DH does his own.

I have a silk shirt hanging on the upstairs bannister waiting for me to handwash it since October. I can't be arsed with it, like fuck would I handwash DH's clothes.

Last year the jumper spent the entire year sat at the bottom of the the washing basket because we are both so stubborn over it grin

Who washed it in the end? Don't set a precedent by washing it, he may buy more handwash only stuff!

[VenusTiger]

Spray it with febreeze and put it back in his drawers presuming you can still buy it? Never used it before?

[gamerchick]

Life is too short for a handwash. Most washing machines have a handwash setting. Or failing that use the rinse cycle only to freshen it up.

[gamerchick]

He should do it himself through. He only doesn't want to do it incase he ruins it. If you ruin it then he can say it's your fault.

[ArthurtheCatsHumanSlave]

I do loads of hand washing, for all the family, so DH sweaters are included. It would seem a bit mean for me NOT to include his washing. All sweaters and bra's get hand washed. I don't trust the machine washes, even if they are delicate cycles, I don't think they wash them as well.

DH does however iron all his shirts, I hate ironing shirts.

[SallyWD]

He's the one being unreasonable. On a side note I have several hand wash only jumpers and they're fine on the hand-wash setting on the washing machine.

[Shoxfordian]

Shove it in the machine with everything else
Say oops
Problem solved

[SamanthaJayne4]

If he wants a fancy hand wash only jumper he can wash it himself. Can't stand fussy clothes myself. I wear easy care clothes. Mainly because I can't be bothered. Plus moths don't eat synthetic fabrics (as far as I know).

[Mamasaurus82]

I reckon if you own handwash only, you wash it yourself, so his job. Or just tell him you handwashed it and pop it in the washing machine...

[MinnieMountain]

If he made a mess doing something fun but unnecessary, would you tidy it up for him? No? Then don't wash the jumper.

He's chosen to have a jumper that creates extra work, so he washes it.

I do the washing in our house as I work fewer hours than DH. He deals with anything he wants washing a particular way himself.

[MatildaTheCat]

Does he know that dirty woollens kept in a dark place is a moth feasting orgy waiting to happen?

You are both being silly. I have a lot of good cashmere and it gets a wool wash cycle and is absolutely fine. I also don’t wash them that often because how dirty does a jumper usually get? I press and debobble regularly because I’m like that. 😊

[OhWellThatsJustGreat]

I do all the washing so am another that would wash it, however, it would be in a pillowcase on a delicate cycle because hand washing is a waste of time.