To get my lips done even though there's nothing technically work with them?

[nurseyn]

I've attached a pic.

I've been so tempted to get lip fillers put in. There's nothing wrong with my lips per se, but I'd like them bigger. DH thinks I'm being stupid as there's nothing 'wrong' with them. Am I? I feel like the balance is off and I'd like them fuller, also a more defined Cupid's bow. TIA.

Fucking hell OP you look like a model. Honestly you are beautiful and young.

You do, however, have a self esteem issue that is going to make you miserable and doubting yourself no matter what you do to your lips (which are a perfect example of human lips and do not need to be inflated to ridiculous proportions). Have you considered spending the money on therapy instead? Getting to the root of why you are so critical of your appearance? To help you be more at ease to yourself and be able to shrug off your ‘delightful’ relatives criticisms as the idiocies that they are.

Just to give you another perspective here is a list of things my (D)M mentioned all through my childhood:
Too short
Too hairy - she used to pull on my skin to see how it would look as I grew older and it stretched more so that there would be fewer hairs per square centimeter (this is so crazy it probably doesn’t make sense to other people)
I shouldn’t touch my top lip as it would grow a mustache
I should push my nose up to make it French rather than Roman (to this day if my nose is pressed down I have to ‘fix it’ by pushing it up.
My middle fingers are too crooked.
Must NEVER run without a bra as it would make my breasts saggy.

These are just a few highlights, the list went on and on...my mother is bonkers, I look perfectly fine but she is still at it. The day after I gave birth she asked what was wrong with me and why I had not lost the belly weight since the baby was already out.

So the point of this epic post (sorry for the length of it) is that my DM clearly suffers from self-image problems which she has been trying to project onto me all my life. Don’t let your relative do the same to you. Aside from the harm it will do you it perpetuates the cycle and you may pass some of these worries onto your children.

Any decent Dr/nurse injector will tell you that a bottom lip should always be a little bit bigger anyway. But if you want your top lip bigger then that's what they will do but think more shape than volume I would say. Your lips are lovely but seriously, if you want them done, get them done!
Start with 0.5ml and it won't look fake and make sure you go to a proper clinic and research them and the dr / nurse that they use..... a prescriber that has also done a masterclass in complications is a must for me.

You are lovely looking - great face and absolutely nothing wrong with your lips! If you are unhappy with your weight, work on that as your priority, and don't feel dragged down by other people's "helpful" comments. Maybe the first step is telling that person you don't need their comments any more.

Gosh Op, you are really stunning. I really went "wow" when I saw you

I have also gained weight recently (similar amount), and I decided that I really had to get fit as it was impacting my self esteem. Now I'm fitter and stronger I look better to me even without losing all the weight. Not

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Not that you should have to lose weight of you don't want to, but just that doing more (mainly yoga and swimming) made me feel better.

OP you are beautiful, you don't need lip fillers or any other 'enhancements'. If you've ever seen a tipsy person with lip fillers try to drink you would be very put off, it's not a great look.

gosh, you have issues. maybe see how you can work through those rather than getting fillers.

Your lips are perfect. And they are part of the unique individual that is you.

If it's the weight gain that makes you unhappy, you should tackle that?

There is nothing wrong at all with your lips. You are fixated on this one thing but even if you did get them done, I'd wager you would find something else to be unhappy with.

Do you practice self care op? How about a fabulous haircut and other less invasive things to help you feel better?

@losingthepl0t
Wow.....vile and unhelpful much?

@nurseyn you are beautiful. Please do not fuck it up with lip fillers. Having a slightly bigger bottom lip is normal and fillers tend to make the Cupid's bow less defined not more.

I'd kill for your lips.

Sorry I've only really scanned the ops messages. I was in the tube yesterday and was sat opposite a very pretty girl who had her lips done. She looked like a duck and I kept wondering why
She needed to do this as she was very pretty anyway! I didn't notice or think badly of everyone else on the carriage who hadn't had work done.

No way don't do it!

Spend the money on something lovely for yourself!

Lip fillers and trout pouts are singularly the most stupid thing I continue to see on a daily basis.
It's the female equivalent of men with jeans half way down there arses.

No, no, no, no, no.

I've yet to see one woman with 'done' lips who doesn't look fake.

A couple of colleagues at work have had theirs done. Both spent £££ going to reputable clinics. They don't look ridiculous but they do look 'off'. You can see people trying to work out what's different when they bump into them.

Don't do it.

TheNinkiestNonk

Body dysmorphia is a real thing and requires help. not saying that OP had it but how she writes about tiny tiny flaws in her lips makes me wonder if there could be an element to it.

I would KILL for lips like yours 😥

I haven’t rtft but I genuinely hope you don’t have children. What lesson would that be - I’m perfectly healthy but I want to change myself aesthetically. What does that say to your kids about your self esteem and how theirs should be built, about what’s important to a woman or, as a man, what to expect?
So much wrong with this. I’d seek counselling for my self esteem, not surgery.

And yes you’ll look like everyone else. Awful. I thought one mum had been punched in the face until someone stopped me saying ‘gosh how are you?’ And said it was deliberate.

Please don't OP. Accept yourself as you are otherwise you will get them done and find something else to fix. You are beautiful. If this was a friend or sister you would think they were mad to consider it.

Don't. I worked in a cosmetic clinic for a couple of years when I was a nurse and ANY work done to the lips looks absurd. Go and watch that programme any way is essex. They all have lip fillers and they all look ridiculous. I've never seen a good lip procedure.

I’m joining in to tell you that you are genuinely beautiful, and to please please please never ever do anything to that lovely face that isn’t moisturiser :)

You can lose weight - try some exercise to make it easier to burn off? Please don’t feel bad about something you can do something about- I guarantee that if you start getting yourself more active and back in shape you’ll feel better about yourself if that’s what important

I would also suggest that you distance yourself from this shitty relative. They don’t have either you happiness or your best interests at heart. They sound bitter and jealous of you.

I have no relationship with my dad for this reason, a life time of chipping at me and then my son came into the firing line, that was that for me.

Believe in yourself, you’re very pretty just the way you are.

Do NOT get them done lips with fillers look awful and so obvious, you can always always tell from the side profile. Why would you want to look like that?!