To get my lips done even though there's nothing technically work with them?

[nurseyn]

I've attached a pic.

I've been so tempted to get lip fillers put in. There's nothing wrong with my lips per se, but I'd like them bigger. DH thinks I'm being stupid as there's nothing 'wrong' with them. Am I? I feel like the balance is off and I'd like them fuller, also a more defined Cupid's bow. TIA.

[DogAndCatPerson]

Your lips are lovely. Do what you want with your own face but honestly, the chances of it going wrong or simply not giving you your ‘perfect’ outcome (not the same as going wrong) are quite high.

I’d say have a good think and seriously and sensibly weigh up the risks vs the benefits compared to what you already have before going ahead.

[Aridane]

OMG - you are STUNNING!

[BettysLeftTentacle]

OP as predicted, you are stunning. Your relative is almost certainly jealous and the people around you clearly have very low opinions of women and how they should look.

If injecting chemicals into your face is the ‘in’ thing, then I am very glad to be uncool.

[yellowallpaper]

It would boost your self esteem far more if you got into exercise and sensible dieting.

[yellowallpaper]

Go ahead.....if you like the ducks bill look!

[AtrociousCircumstance]

These things:

Stop giving your power away to everyone else. Allowing the random opinions of others to control you - even to the point of changing your own face for no reason - is an absolute fool’s game.

Start bolstering who you are, what you’re interested in, the challenges you want to set yourself, how you want to develop as a person, what you want from your life, what motivates and inspires you - this is what matters, not how you supposedly physically compare to a random school mum (who has her own issues).

You’re young and attractive and if you’re letting everyone around you influence you then it’s such a waste of time and - there’s no truth in it. The truth is an inside job.

Start looking at what really matters and building up your selfhood and confidence.

Honestly, this lip stuff is bullshit.

[Heartburn888]

If it makes you feel better get them done. I have quite full lips and I had mine done a handful of times at 0.5ml. Other people couldn’t tell but I could tell a different and it made me feel better and boosted my confidence so do it if it’s what you want

[Difficultcustomer]

I think you have lovely lips, but it’s not really about what I feel. Just remember that there are (slight) risks to all surgery in addition to not looking better after.

I personally wouldn’t have any cosmetic surgery (might have plastic surgery after a serious accident/to improve functionality). I have had a lot of surgery and can’t imagine taking even tiny risk of anaesthetic just to look a little better, and potentially have a bad outcome. However I don’t have any mental health issues relating to my looks and wouldn’t judge someone who has surgery.

Maybe go and have a consultation, then think about it for a bit.

[ambereeree]

This makes me sad. You are worrying over nothing OP.

[kalinkafoxtrot45]

You don’t need fillers. They look awful anyway.

[motherheroic]

Was expecting to see a papercut of a lip.

[madcatladyforever]

@MzHz

My top lip is very thin and I've always hated it, so I tried some fillers at the clinic I worked at and looked bloody stupid. I couldn't wait for it to wear off, it took months.

I use makeup now to get the effect I want.

But honestly OP you have lips to die for, they need nothing doing. You will ruin them if you start using lip fillers.

[NigellasGuest]

Don't do it! A little bit of asymmetry is what makes us look right. If you even everything out perfectly you'll definitely look like you've had work done.

This!!
I've had some filler for my eye bags (I'm 55). I went back to the practitioner to say I was concerned because one side was a little different to the other. She reassured me that this reflected my natural asymmetry. She would "correct" it if I liked, but no face is symmetrical, and to do so would result in an unnatural look. She was right and I have left well alone. Likewise my eyebrows. I've had those tattooed but they are by no means templates of each other, and look natural for that.

OP you are incredibly beautiful. It sounds like you live in a small town full of narrow minded people. Move out, meet nice people, get down to 10 stone again if that makes you happy, and enjoy the fact that you are young and naturally stunningly beautiful.

[JuneSpoon]

OP you're really pretty. Your relative is being a bitch. Please don't touch the fillers! Really, you look great

[Toomuchstuffwillkillme]

This was in the news a couple of days back. As far as I can see there was absolutely nothing wrong with this poor girl's lips either. People's obsession with messing about with their bodies is mad, your lips or anywhere else are not meant to have foreign stuff injected into them (death rate from dodgy butt lifts is scary). Even if it doesn't cause problems straight away it can do in the future if the filler migrates etc.
metro.co.uk/2019/11/22/teenager-left-sausage-lips-dodgy-170-lip-filler-job-11199296/

[pinkstripeycat]

People have lip fillers to achieve the look you already have.

[MzHz]

@madcatladyforever that was what I thought- my ds said to me that perhaps I could only tell those who’d done their lips by those bad examples, but very interesting to see that you say ALL lip jobs look ridiculous

I worry seriously about what messages are being pumped at us as a society for ever more awful ways of taking money from us and making us feel unsatisfied in our own skin.

[TheMidasTouch]

You need therapy for your self-esteem as you have obviously become way too self-absorbed. Stop listening to that family member. They have no idea what they are talking about. Your lips are in balance with the rest of your face and you have a lovely shaped face, gorgeous complexion and beautiful eyes.

It is up to you but celebrities with lip fillers all look ridiculous. Who wants to look like a duck?

[TheNinkiestNonk]

@losingthepl0t
She wants bigger lips! Why does that mean she has body dysmorphia??
And even if she does, do you think telling her she has issues helps??
Some people do want to make slight changes to their natural look, so what?
I get that some people think that lip fillers look ridiculous and I agree that some do. And I also get that people are trying to discourage her by telling her that her lips look good as they are. You are telling her she has issues!!

[autumndreaming]

Do NOT get them done lips with fillers look awful and so obvious, you can always always tell from the side profile. Why would you want to look like that?!

[MzHz]

I’m joining in to tell you that you are genuinely beautiful, and to please please please never ever do anything to that lovely face that isn’t moisturiser :)

You can lose weight - try some exercise to make it easier to burn off? Please don’t feel bad about something you can do something about- I guarantee that if you start getting yourself more active and back in shape you’ll feel better about yourself if that’s what important

I would also suggest that you distance yourself from this shitty relative. They don’t have either you happiness or your best interests at heart. They sound bitter and jealous of you.

I have no relationship with my dad for this reason, a life time of chipping at me and then my son came into the firing line, that was that for me.

Believe in yourself, you’re very pretty just the way you are.

[madcatladyforever]

Don't. I worked in a cosmetic clinic for a couple of years when I was a nurse and ANY work done to the lips looks absurd. Go and watch that programme any way is essex. They all have lip fillers and they all look ridiculous. I've never seen a good lip procedure.

[Xmasbaby11]

Please don't OP. Accept yourself as you are otherwise you will get them done and find something else to fix. You are beautiful. If this was a friend or sister you would think they were mad to consider it.

[Wheredidigowrongggggg]

And yes you’ll look like everyone else. Awful. I thought one mum had been punched in the face until someone stopped me saying ‘gosh how are you?’ And said it was deliberate.

[Wheredidigowrongggggg]

I haven’t rtft but I genuinely hope you don’t have children. What lesson would that be - I’m perfectly healthy but I want to change myself aesthetically. What does that say to your kids about your self esteem and how theirs should be built, about what’s important to a woman or, as a man, what to expect?
So much wrong with this. I’d seek counselling for my self esteem, not surgery.