Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

I think it has been missed that OP s Mum sang only a couple of times during the chorus

Because that woman courageously shut her up, no doubt.

After OP unanimously had her arse handed to her on a plate,

Garnished with parsley . . .

I hate people singing or talking during shows. It is part of the reason I avoid the cinema until a month or so after a movie releawe. Because other people eating, talking and singing etc pisses me off so much.

Your mum was wrong to sing, and should have just accepted the other woman asking her to shush. She is the one who spoiled the night for herself, because she blew it up into a big drama.

Did anyone read about the rude woman at the Les Miserables concert this week? She's certainly competition for the OP and her mum.

I was at the show tonight and can confirm. We were all in our seats waiting for Michael to do his Children in Need speech, she shouted "Where's Alfie" from the dress circle and even flipped the bird at John (everyone booed her), John had to come forward and tell her to never speak in public again... didn't seem to learn her lesson though as I saw her at stage door complaining about Alfie's absence to security at first, then actually attempting to chase Michael down as he was signing other people's programmes all the while shouting "Where's Alfie?!"

What an embarrassment!

Read more: theatreboard.co.uk/thread/6097/les-miserables-all-star-concert?page=79#ixzz660pP4MP0

She said in her nasty tweet (whilst calling Ball and Boe w***s) that she’ll never go to the West End again.

Result!

Read more: theatreboard.co.uk/thread/6097/les-miserables-all-star-concert?page=79#ixzz660pXO1qa

I was there last night too and saw the woman complaining in the interval. She was complaining in no uncertain terms shouting and swearing at the poor staff saying how lousy John was. She was vile and totally unnecessary. We saw her at the end shouting and sticking 2 fingers up at Michael Ball. John was really quick and a total star. A great show and the sound was fantastic.

Read more: theatreboard.co.uk/thread/6097/les-miserables-all-star-concert?page=79#ixzz660pgjqDF

I haven't watched the video but members of a cast should never be subjected to that kind of behaviour when they are on stage.

From the sounds of it, the individual was very drunk, they were tweeting Alfie vile things during the show and they continued at stage door afterwards at poor Michael to the extent that security were called.

Read more: theatreboard.co.uk/thread/6097/les-miserables-all-star-concert?page=79#ixzz660pqyguR

I hate incessant talking in the theatre during a performance and this sort of behaviour too.

Plus people using phones to take pictures or videos when they have been asked not to or even looking at phones during a performance is irritating

On a final note. I'm seeing Elton John next Christmas. Perhaps I'll start a new thread on etiquette at concerts????

Etiquette at concerts: Do not use your phone to video the show! The occasional photo is acceptable.

Wow Effie

Personally I'd have been delighted to see John Owen Jones as understudy. He far outclasses Boe.

I’m going to stick up for you because I don’t think you, or your mum are being unreasonable. It’s a musical? So of course fans are going to sing! Your mum didn’t take the stage and push Tina off I presume? So there’s no harm. And it was in fact her birthday as well. I’ve been to the theatre in London loads, and have never seen a sign that says “don’t sing” And let’s face it, Tina Turner puts a lot of energy, voice and volume into her songs and performances, and would be hard to drown out.
Your mum paid her ticket, so she should be able to sing all she likes, it’s a musical not a morgue. I took one of my children to see the beautiful show of The Snowman a few Christmas’s ago, and there was adults arguing at that! Shows you the type of arsehole’s that visit the theatre. Not me obvs!

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

I’m taking my own cannon along to the next performance of Tchaikovsky’s 1812 overture!

Brilliant 😂

I’ve been to the theatre in London loads, and have never seen a sign that says “don’t sing”

I've been to the theatre and have never seen a sign that says "don't shout the lines along with the actors" because they assume you'd have to be a special kind of stupid to need to even be told. As PP has said, people that need a sign to explain that you really shouldn't act like a div, are exactly the same people who the warnings saying "do not drink" on shampoo bottles are for.

@profile22
Your mum paid her ticket, so she should be able to sing all she likes, it’s a musical not a morgue

Imagine if all 500+ theatre goers took the same stance! It's rude and inconsiderate, if you want to sing along, play the cd at home!

Profile22 if you read the thread there are a lot of signs and announcements saying dint sing for this musical.
I went to see a Dear Evan Hansen this week,no singing along and this was full of die hard fans in the balcony and grand circle(press night)

I’m going to stick up for you because I don’t think you, or your mum are being unreasonable. It’s a musical? So of course fans are going to sing! Your mum didn’t take the stage and push Tina off I presume? So there’s no harm. And it was in fact her birthday as well. I’ve been to the theatre in London loads, and have never seen a sign that says “don’t sing” And let’s face it, Tina Turner puts a lot of energy, voice and volume into her songs and performances, and would be hard to drown out.
Your mum paid her ticket, so she should be able to sing all she likes, it’s a musical not a morgue. I took one of my children to see the beautiful show of The Snowman a few Christmas’s ago, and there was adults arguing at that! Shows you the type of arsehole’s that visit the theatre. Not me obvs!

People like this actually exist!

So it's my birthday and I'll sing if I want to!??

hahaha! I would love that!

If a person wants perfect silence during a performance, then stay at home, draw the curtains, and don’t answer the phone!

Of course, it’s a bloody musical

Never seeing a sign at a theatre doesn’t make you a div, div! If anyone’s been drinking out a shampoo bottle, then we know who it is

And let’s face it, Tina Turner puts a lot of energy, voice and volume into her songs and performances, and would be hard to drown out.

The actress playing Tina Turner in a portrayal of her life will sing the songs to be appropriate to the mood and events being portrayed at that time on stage which may be VERY different to the original recording/performance.

You want to sing along to Tina Turner songs, go watch a tribute act do a concert. Let us musical theatre "fans" go watch professionals perform and tell a story on stage.

@profile22

So of course fans are going to sing! Your mum didn’t take the stage and push Tina off I presume? So there’s no harm.

and would be hard to drown out.

Your mum paid her ticket, so she should be able to sing all she likes

And yet, amongst all of the other people who also paid for their tickets, whose birthdays it also possibly could have been, over the volume of the speakers pumping out the music and voice, from behind where your hearing is at its worst, the OP’s mom could be heard.

At a performance where it had been posted to not sing along.

Rather that this being a concert where audience participation is fine, this would be more akin to you in conversation with someone at a party, and having someone rock up behind you and loudly mimic what the person you’re speaking to is saying.

While I’m sure the OP’s mom didn’t mean any harm by it, it’s pretty self-centred obnoxious behaviour.

The other woman could have said please can you not sing we all want to hear the show and been polite.

Which would have caused much more disturbance than what she actually did, @Kko1986. How would that conceivably have been better?

@profile22 - do you really find it so hard to comprehend that, when someone has shelled out for a (usually expensive) ticket to see a musical performed by professional musicians, they want to actually hear those professionals perform, rather than listening to you warbling along. They have paid good money to hear the professional performance, not you.

For most of us, this is common sense and good manners - clearly some people lack both.

If a person wants perfect silence during a performance, then stay at home, draw the curtains, and don’t answer the phone!

If a person wants to sing along to songs, go
to a karaoke club,

It’s a musical? So of course fans are going to sing!

And yet so many of us have apparently never encountered this, me included. Do you think you might just be mistaken, @profile22?

Your mum paid her ticket, so she should be able to sing all she likes, it’s a musical not a morgue.

Oh, right. So when you go to the theatre, do you recite the lines along with the cast, or get into conversations with them, or loudly comment to the people around you? After all, it's a play, not a morgue.

Do you think the other people who have paid their tickets might be entitled to hear the cast singing at all?

If a person wants perfect silence during a performance, then stay at home, draw the curtains, and don’t answer the phone!

No-one who goes to a performance wants "perfect silence", not least because they expect the people on stage to be producing some noise. And yes, if you go to a theatre you can expect the odd sniffle or cough. But, self-evidently, you want to hear what's going on onstage, so why would you stay at home to achieve that, @profile22?

I can't believe there are so many entitled socks people defending the OP, when she and they are so wrong, selfish, antisocial and (obviously) ignorant.