Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

[cantbeatfreshsheets]

I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

Ahhhhh my favourite kind of aibu.
Op: aibu?
Everyone: very much so.
Op: we screw you all cos I'm not.
Everyone: biggest eyeroll possible

OP... people like you make me shudder..

I'm quite new here, so what is the worst word I can use to describe OP without my post being removed?

handbagsatdawn33 Welcome to Mumsnet, where you can post '''cunt'' without being censored.

But we describe people’s behaviour rather than name calling or attacking people. If you say ‘you’re a cunt’ you’ll be deleted. If you say ‘you behaved like a cunt’ you’re golden.

Works for grown ups just as well as for preschoolers.

Which caused disruption to all of two people who had to stand I’m guessing you never go to the theatre for any sort of production. It doesn’t only disrupt the people who had to stand, but all the people behind who can’t see, and you no doubt made noise, thereby blocking some of the performance for everyone. You need to learn appropriate behaviour when going to any sort of performance, whether a play, music, or whatever. And you shouldn’t need a sign to tell you not to sing along. Why would your DM think anyone wanted to hear her warbling along?

A couple of lines my arse. People paid to see the professionals. Nothing more annoying than this.

Yabvvvvvvvu

I think panto sounds more your style, I’d give that a go

I wouldn't have been happy with your Mum either.

YABU

Soz op, it must have been hard seeing someone say that to your mum but musical tickets are expensive and it’s perfectly reasonable to be told to ‘shh’.

Maybe try Karaoke next time

@cantbeatfreshsheets so you had been out all day OP, I'm guessing a few drinks and then you're late, then you're irritating and then you're belligerent!

Had a theatre night ruined by people like you before.

Seriously?! You have to ask?

People spend a lot of money to see professionals in a show, not Karen's karaoke version.

If you mum wants to sing, she can book into a sing along event that happens in some smaller local venues.

I loathe people like you who have a sense of entitlement. It's the theatre, not your front room. It looks like you've been given a lesson in etiquette. Was alcohol involved perchance?

Was alcohol involved perchance?

It can't have been as the OP is cultured and diplomatic and educated and something else

Try a karaoke bar for your next night out. YABVVU.

’I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person’

Ok now I know this is all a joke.

YABU and you were aggressive.

Wow. Yes you ALL are unreasonable.
Not only were You were late but you don’t sing ( who needs a sign for this? It’s common sense).
The lady was polite, however you all sound like you were rather aggressive (from your own description).
The only people who made a scene and ruined the night mom was you all, not this woman ( who was well within her right to complain, i certainly would have to if your mom had done this too me).
Use this a learning curve of what not too do next time.
I certainly don’t have a ‘boring health and safety job’ either but no you certainly do not do these things.
People pay to hear the stars sings.

No doubt she works in health and safety or something else utterly boring or has a very miserable life to feel the need to say anything at all.

Why are you insulting her just because she asked your mum to not do something she should not have been doing anyway. Is that etiquette too?

To be fair to OP - anyone making a 'zip-it' movement when someone sings along inadvertently is also very rude. What about, 'excuse me, I can see you are excited to sing along, but there are signs out there asking everyone not to' or something nicer. Why the immediate aggression? It may have been annoying but let's keep some perspective.

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person.

Have you always been the black sheep of the family?

I think it's very bad manners to sing along. The other woman was right.

To be fair to OP - anyone making a 'zip-it' movement when someone sings along inadvertently is also very rude. What about, 'excuse me, I can see you are excited to sing along, but there are signs out there asking everyone not to' or something nicer.

Because a grown adult doesn't need to be told to be quiet in the theatre and lengthy explations would also prevent the others from enjoying the show.

I hate the expectation that the world should pander to the feelings of people who are rude and inconsiderate and don't give a damn about anyone else's feelings.

Jeez OP from your OWN description of events your group comes across like lairy, obnoxious, entitled idiots! Oh and you must all have money to burn, I mean theatre tickets are expensive yet you lot managed to show up late, start a row with an audience member, create a scene and then piss off again before the second half of the show . Why even bother? Next time stay in the pub as it doesn’t seem like “culture” is your thing.

I completely misread this and initially thought you meant it was a singalong and then thought it was all a shame really.
But the slight scene and second reading of your post and my mind boggles.

I love a good sing song but poor show OP. Late and loud!