Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

@Howlovely Hahahaha!

I shushed some drunken women clearly on a hen night at Mamma Mia...they were not only singing but also heckling like it was a pantomime! They wouldn’t Stop so I told them to behave themselves as they were ruining it for everyone else, and got applauded by everyone around me and the actors on stage said thanks! They weren’t allowed back in after the interval!!!
I was furious though as had spent a fortune on tickets for them to ruin some of my favourite songs.

YABU
Late, noisy rude and cant take criticism.
And you say you are educated and cultured .
You are deluded.

"But I guess it's easy to be unpleasant when hiding behind a screen."

You're certainly making it look easy.

Although tbf to you, your posts make it seem like you're a dab hand at being that way in person too

The last show I went to see cost us (me, partner and son) £550 to see (Hamilton). If my 11 year old has the wherewithal to stay quiet and enjoy seeing a show he adores and knows all the words to, then your mother...who I assume is a little older than 11...can as well. People go to enjoy the cast...not Mrs Gobshite in 3B. The person in front of her (who could here her perfectly well, the sound coming from behind her...whether you could or not, not sitting in front of her...!!) asked politely for her to stop. It was your mum who made it into a big to do. How dare she!!!

I really hope this is either a reverse, or you've recently escaped from an asylum...as I can't imagine anyone who thinks what your mum did as being acceptable, unless it was specifically advertised as a sing-a-long.

Yabu for being late, yabu for being aggressive- even your post comes across as aggressive.

"But I guess it's easy to be unpleasant when hiding behind a screen."

I rather an unpleasant person behind a screen than an unpleasant person behind me in the theatre!

“But I guess it's easy to be unpleasant when hiding behind a screen.“

It is, yeah. Takes a whole lot more to kick off at someone in person like you and your Mum did though.

Next year take your Ma to a boxing match instead. It befits your cultured family more.

Honestly, the theatres are full of trash these days.

When you act like a cunt, apologise. It’s really as simple as that. Your mum ruined her own birthday by behaving terribly and I am really glad you left at the interval. Making a scene at the interval instead of saying just sorry when you are the ones acting like you are at a pub or football match. Shameful.

Common as muck, as my dear Ma would have said

YWVU to turn up late to a theatre performance and of course your DM WU for singing along over the top of the professional performers other people had paid to see.

No-one pays that kind of money for an open mic night, do they?

And the argument about your DM reflecting Tina's liberation from oppression is nonsense - I'd hate to see what you think is acceptable behaviour during Book of Mormon!

To be fair to OP - anyone making a 'zip-it' movement when someone sings along inadvertently is also very rude. What about, 'excuse me, I can see you are excited to sing along, but there are signs out there asking everyone not to' or something nicer. Why the immediate aggression? It may have been annoying but let's keep some perspective.

Yeah right, I think fight fire with fire was the best option here, the woman did the right thing.

Totally U. We went to see Grease at the theatre and a bunch of idiots behind us sang all the way through. Fucking awful and ruined it totally. We'd paid to see professionals and enjoy a night of entertainment, not listen to a hideous karaoke.

By “cultured”, I think OP means she goes to classical music concerts (where she screeches along when violins play etc). I feel so sorry for the woman you disturbed, she must have had a ruined evening (and beyond). Next year, I think mum may prefer to have her birthday treat somewhere like MacDonalds where it’s more her scene.

Jesus wept. If you don't know how to behave yourself, don't go to the theatre. NOBODY, and I mean NOBODY, wants to hear your mother's wailing when watching a musical, birthday or no. For all we know, there could have been other people enjoying a birthday treat which was ruined by your mother's caterwauling.

To be fair to OP - anyone making a 'zip-it' movement when someone sings along inadvertently is also very rude. What about, 'excuse me, I can see you are excited to sing along, but there are signs out there asking everyone not to' or something nicer.

Lol. What? No.

Heaven help us if her mum ever visits the Sistine Chapel...

Yes, YABVVVU. I go to musicals regularly, and people singing along really annoys me.
I pay to hear the actors not Mrs So-and-So who believes rules don't apply to her.
Singing along is only okay when encouraged by the cast, i.e. during the encore.
Also, you were ten minutes late, it is doubtful you only disturbed two people as everyone will have noticed you walking in.

YABU, nobody pays to hear someone in the audience murdering the songs. It's really annoying.

In case there was any doubt, here’s a tweet from the actor playing Jean Valjean on audience members joining in...

YABVU and really selfish.

Not only were you disturbing everyone in your row, the row in front and all the ones behind you by being late, your mum continued to ruin the show for them. Nobody wanted to hear your mother sing; they went to hear the professionals sing.

And yes, your mother does need telling how to behave because she clearly doesn’t know how to. She lacks decorum and etiquette and has clearly passed her poor behaviour onto her children.

I would be furious if somebody did this at a musical I was at. YABVVU it’s just not on!!

anyone making a 'zip-it' movement when someone sings along inadvertently is also very rude. What about, 'excuse me, I can see you are excited to sing along, but there are signs out there asking everyone not to' or something nicer. Why the immediate aggression?

Because - sigh - should one really HAVE to explain this??

A “zip it” gesture is silent. Which is rather the point, don’t you think?

OP: But I guess it's easy to be unpleasant when hiding behind a screen.

Also OP: No doubt she works in health and safety or something else utterly boring or has a very miserable life to feel the need to say anything at all. I. My eyes she was a misery guts.

I'd laugh if it wasn't so tragic.

Haven't RTFT but I'm absolutely you're comparing someone being called out on their antisocial behaviour (yes it's not fucking on to sing a tab musical, I'd hate to pay £50+ for a ticket to hear someone other than the cast chirp in my ear) to domestic violence.