Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

People are there to watch a show, not listen to audience members.

I can't abide anyone joining in, heckling, rattling sweets, talking etc. Doesn't matter what the noise is, no one wants to hear it.

You've been told that you and your mother were being VU, yet you still don't agree. Why did you bother asking?

@AFairlyHardAvocado Thank you

"Or has the world gone crazy?"

Not the world, just the OP & her Mother.

I just can't believe that anyone could think ruining a performance for other people is acceptable behaviour.

Best leave such events to the stuck up stick in the muds

Best leave such events to those who know how to behave properly and aren't ill mannered louts.

Gah. I always seem to end up next to people like you. The woman sat next to me at Wicked was a treat. STFU.

And as for the pissed pair next to us during Queen of The Night, they were embarrassing.

The only musical I've ever been to where sing alongs were encouraged was Thriller Live. And that was treated more like a concert than a musical, by both cast and audience (eventually). So strong was the theatre etiquette to not sing along that the cast had a real job getting us to participate initially.

I think you all sound vile personally.

Best leave such events to the stuck up stick in the muds

Not sure if this poster has seen Tina the musical but it's not a fun, feel good musical.

The first half certainly depicts her life from a little girl to her early career with Ike. It's harrowing to say the least.

The songs are used to highlight what's happening in her life, at one point she's beaten by him, kicked in the stomach whilst pregnant, abandoned by her mother...it's not appropriate in this musical in particular to be singing a long, whooping it up.

I go to a tiny handful of shows or musicals a year. Seats are so ridiculously expensive that that's all I can afford. I would be furious if someone in the audience ruined it for me by singing along. OP - can't you see how unacceptable that is?

People like you and your mum (late, singing, rude) ruin very expensive productions for everyone.

And yes, I work in health and safety but also sang and danced ON STAGE (rather than in the audience) for a decade, so 🖕

busybarbara

It's very unreasonable to sing during a musical. It's incredibly rude, people have paid £50-100 for their tickets to hear professionals sing. The only exception is specific sing along events of course

The OP says she'll take it on the chin. OP, do you know how to take it on the chin? Tell you what, I'll hum it and you sing it.

@MLMsuperfan 😂😂😂😂😂😂

YABU, no-one wants to hear your mum screeching along. They've paid to see the actors sing. You don't sing along at musicals unless it's one of those participatory ones like Rocky Horror.

Diplomatic, considered, cultured must be the new way of saying rude, inconsiderate and entitled!

What surprises me is that the management allowed these latecomers into the auditorium before an interval.
OP states she "only" disturbed 2 people - how about everyone else in the vicinity?
Is there a prize for the most unreasonable poster?
I nominate OP.

Dare take a child to a musical and have them make a single noise and you’ll get glared at to high heaven. Best leave such events to the stuck up stick in the muds

If ‘stuck up stick in the muds’ means ‘respectful to the performers and considerate of other theatregoers’ then sign me up.

Funnily enough I’ve never had any issues taking kids to the theatre. Totally glare-free. Curious.

There was a slight scene

How slight?

Gigs, yeah, sing along, musicals which are basically singing plays and not anywhere near as loud as a band/gig, you should be watching and listening. Sorry but YABU.

If ‘stuck up stick in the muds’ means ‘respectful to the performers and considerate of other theatregoers’ then sign me up.

Funnily enough I’ve never had any issues taking kids to the theatre. Totally glare-free. Curious.

This exactly! I'm actually getting quite bored of the whole 'they just have a stick up their arse/they're just easily offended' etc trite so often trotted out as an excuse for rude behaviour. Astonishing how someone can get to adulthood not understanding that there's a time and place for everything.

“I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person.”

Some people with a penis and hairy bollocks consider themselves men. Doesn’t make it true

First you’re late so disturbed the other people then you think it’s normal to sing along at the theatre (lols) and then you argue. You should have compensated those around you by paying for them to attend another night whilst your family stay home and sing along to the tv.

It’s etiquette you are lacking which is sad really. Sad for you and sad for those around you. I start taking children to the theatre and to restaurants from a very young age and they know how to behave so that they can enjoy themselves whilst allowing others to do the same.

Brilliant Wilma!

You turned up late, disturbing others.

Your mum sang along, disturbing others.

You caused "a scene", disturbing others.

None of that is the behaviour of someone cultured or diplomatic.

Really classy OP.

I feel sorry for your Mum TBH.

Why? In what way does she deserve sympathy? She disturbed other audience members and then got aggressive when asked to stop. I’d save my sympathy for her poor victim.