a lot of the accusations of being man hating are aimed at the feminism part of the site. And yet that's the one place you'll not be finding statements about men being useless with babies or not being able to see dirty dishes.
I haven’t gone there enough to form an opinion, but am happy to take your word for it. I don’t consider myself to be a feminist, and my wife doesn’t identify as such, partly because we don’t know what it really means, though I’m sure there have been thousands of discussions about just that… Equality is obvs the ideal. The very word ‘feminist’ seems to me to immediately bias discussion about it.
Just going by my own experiences in life, I think women have a great deal of power in the world as it is.
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I was raised more by my mother than my father, though both always worked outside the home, and my babysitters were all female. The vast majority of my teachers were likewise female. On my first few jobs I was obliged to wear a necktie, which was hot and uncomfortable, while women had no dress code whatsoever. I had to register for the draft (I was born in in the States), while my sisters didn’t. No actual draft, thank god, but still.
Almost all of my bosses over the years have been women (whose bosses may have been men, sure).
While men may be over-represented in politics and the upper echelons of business, when it comes day-to-day living, those I have been answerable to have mostly been women (including my wife, haha. No, seriously.) If that’s not power, or at least overwhelming influence, I don’t know what is.
I certainly can’t deny that more men than women are violent. I used to hit my younger sister when we were kids. Then again, my older sister used to scratch me something awful with her nails. Thankfully neither of us grew up to be scratchers or hitters.
She has also wondered aloud just how many frequent posters are married or manage to stay very long in relationships
What a disappointing attitude from your wife. I hope you advised her as you did on here that it isn’t every woman’s goal.
I’m confident she’s already made that elementary deduction. In any case, I wouldn’t presume to tell her her mind.
What upsets me most is when a man posts asking for advice on an obviously difficult situation. Rather than advice he gets a pile on "because men as a class..." But he's an individual and struggling. It's not his responsibility to answer for every ill caused by men is it?
You’d think. Wait a minute…
I will continue to be angry until men take responsibility for other men, and not bleat on that women are the bad guys for not liking it.
How pray tell am I to be responsible for other men? There is no practical way of doing that short of joining the police force, which has quite enough testosterone as it is. As for challenging them and expecting my challenge to carry more weight because I’m also male, as someone else suggested, I’d hope to do what any decent person would if witnessing abuse.
Going online to constantly berate men as a class or possibly subspecies doesn’t much advance peace love and understanding. It also doesn’t strike me as being part of the solution.