Small chocolate bar

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Who is BU here? We have a houseful of family today. DD went to the shops and offered to buy everyone a packet of sweets. Person A asked for a small chocolate bar, Person B said they didn’t want anything. DD got home and handed out the sweets. Person B asked Person A if they could break their bar of chocolate into 2 and give them a piece. Person A said they would like to eat this particular bar themselves, but there was more chocolate in the cupboard. Person B said they wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate in particular. Person B was told they could have ordered their own bar if they wanted one, but Person B wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate because they didn’t want a whole bar. Words were exchanged on both sides. Should Person A have shared, or should Person B have ordered their own bar?

Argh, food stealing seems to be a common theme.

Following on from my childhood and food-stealing DB (including stealing hot chips from my plate so he didn't have to wait for them to be cold - I had no intention of leaving any!!!) I am absolutely militant about not letting my DC take food off each other, unless it is offered freely and not having been asked for.

DH (only child) thinks I am OTT. But I will not accept a child stealing food from another child's plate. Or bedroom as DB did with my Easter chocolate

I once went out for lunch with DH, SIL and her OH. We were paying.
Got the dessert menu, I ordered a creme brûlée. SIL and her partner declined and said ‘we’ll just have some of yours’.
They looked shocked when I said ‘no you bloody wont’. I think they thought I was joking. Bearing in mind I was 8 months pregnant, driving and they’d all had multiple glasses of wine each. I wasn’t bloody sharing my dessert.

My mum is a B - she also gets upset if you dare to order the same dessert as her, as that means she can't "share" with you.

ToPlanZ

Pretended he had poisoned you! Jesus wept - that's horrific!

My parents used to threaten to take me to a children's home if I was disobedient. I was terrified. What goes through these people's heads?

Neither of my parents had happy upbringings - but they didn't need to visit it on me (and it was on me - the others, like your sisters and brother, could do no wrong.

Person B is 100% a twat and being EXTREMELY unreasonable.

They cos have ordered a bar or even said.... Person A, would you like a bigger bar, cos I'd like some choc but not a whole one.

A, May have gone along, but as it is, B, is definitely a twat.

In fact they're being a double twat, cos of the choc avail in the house.

A, Should have walked away before it got to words.... Are they siblings?

They can't be adults to be childishly squabbling over a choc bar.....

Come on OP, name n shame! I dare ya!

I just say I don’t do sharing and that’s that. I hate sharing my food. With a passion.

It’s all childish nonsense
In any family it would have been a joke

DD arrives home with choc bar
B makes out that they wanted a choc bar and thanks DD for choc intended for A
A pretends to kick up at stink
B pretends to be magnanimous by giving A half the chocolate bar

All the while- no drama just a bit of messing around.

Share chocolate!!!!!!
Never ever never.

It's not about the chocolate bar. In situations like this, it's never really about the object of the argument. It's about rivalry, jealousy, and a fight to the death.

It's a B from me.

Hate food stealers and totally unacceptable from anyone not a toddler.

In my family or would have been a joke

Person be is defo a dick!

Come on OP, name n shame! I dare ya!

She has done. She is A and B is her mother, who called her a selfish bitch.

Your mother is a twat. End of.

Food stealing pisses me off.

My dp does this, say he gets me a bag of chips from the shop or whatever but insists that he doesn't want any........he then stands there like a.fecking, scrounging Labrador so I end up chucking some in the sandwich.

Well he used to. Until I went on an epic rant one day still known as sausage gate. Many insults were thrown including creepy food creeper. Honestly, I'm getting annoyed just thinking about it.

B is wrong

If we order different things in a restaurant (DH, DS14 & I) we ask if anyone wants to try what they've got. We don't expect to have some and don't pinch from plates.

DS saves the largest chip on his plate as the 'love chip' and we all take a bite of that at the end of the course.

creepy food creeper.

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@Mummyshark2018 - they sound juvenile? you sound like fucking entitled, judgemental and arrogant twat

Why couldn't person B order the bar then share out what they didn't eat or put it in the fridge.

XH used to nick food from my plate in restaurants and it really wound me up. If you want a taste, bloody ask first.

But worse were his ideas on sharing chocolate. So we'd buy a bar each, for example, for an evening. He'd eat all of his(never offered to share), I'd eat half of mine and put the rest in the fridge. Later on, I'd take out my saved half and he'd want half of it.
When I started refusing to give him any of my saved half he would pout and call me mean.

My mother also used to do the pretend large bite of a chocolate bar- but she would actually take a large bite, to stop me "getting fat", apparently...

Op.

Leave the bastard. She has no right putting her grubby food snatching ways onto you.

Life's too short to deal with this shite.

Person B is definitely wrong.

Get your own - save the left over bit you don't want for another time if you must.

If I want to eat a bar of chocolate then I want it all, not half of it!!!

The only people I will share my food with are my children, because I absolutely love them to bits. Everyone else can go f*ck themselves! I think her reaction was justification enough to not put yourself out for her. What an awful thing to say to anyone let alone your daughter. Hope you have other wonderful people in your life that make up for her. X

She sounds like a narcissist. Someone who thinks it entirely reasonable to do a dickish thing like this and then make out you’re being a selfish bitch. Talk about gas lighting!