Small chocolate bar

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Who is BU here? We have a houseful of family today. DD went to the shops and offered to buy everyone a packet of sweets. Person A asked for a small chocolate bar, Person B said they didn’t want anything. DD got home and handed out the sweets. Person B asked Person A if they could break their bar of chocolate into 2 and give them a piece. Person A said they would like to eat this particular bar themselves, but there was more chocolate in the cupboard. Person B said they wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate in particular. Person B was told they could have ordered their own bar if they wanted one, but Person B wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate because they didn’t want a whole bar. Words were exchanged on both sides. Should Person A have shared, or should Person B have ordered their own bar?

.and I'm a chip thief, everyone's chip thief right?

No! No, I really am not.
If I want chips, I order them, even if I only want a few and not a full plateful.
OR I ask in advance if anyone wants to share a bowl.
I definitely wouldn't take any of someone else's plate!!!

The OP's person B wanted half the choctaw, not a nibble. And besides - I don't want to give up any of my chocolate, let alone half. I only have chocolate bars occasionally - you are not having any of it!!!

If it was my mum I would have been irritated but shared. But you obviously have quite a history. If she had called me a selfish bitch, she would have been shown the door.

"B's" are the bad eggs of the universe! They guilt trip you into sharing and then leave you irritated and them smug.

Absolutely stunned by what some so-called adults have done wrt using food as a psychological weapon. Pretended to poison a child?? Said something deeply wounding over a TWIX?? (Or whatever it was)

And on a different note, why's it only desserts and chips these vultures want? never hear of anyone saying, "I'll not order the peas, I'll just have some of yours", how mad would that sound? Because, of course, it's about virtue signalling.

My dp always says "I'll just have a nibble of yours" despite being offered his own and it really winds me up becasue then he eats half!

*because!

My god this thread makes me want to go find all these greedy bullies and shove an ice cream in their face

and hugs to all of you who have had to put up with these vile DFs/DPs or whoever.
I don't care if hugs are unMumsnetty either.

I had a friend at uni who used to nick a chip off other people's plates, even strangers, all the time! They always looked annoyed (even friends). I did tell her to cut it out, but she thought I was overreacting and, I believe, she thought she was being delightfully cheeky. Wouldn't be at all surprised if, since then, someone will have decked her!

This would infuriate me!

Instead of saying no your mum could have easily said at the time, I don’t fancy a whole bar can I just have a little of yours. That would have enabled you to react proactively, by buying a bigger bar!!

How do so many people manage to get away with It? I'm really quite blunt when I say "I've ordered what I want to eat. You need to order your own".

Normally, I'm totally happy to share. We all try a bit of everything and share around. But when it's someone with an attitude would B, they get a very clear "you can fuck off" vibe from me.

Flamingle18 Why are you letting his wants over ride yours? Why is his greed more important that your right to enjoy your food in peace? In other words, why the hell are you letting him bully you, when it comes to food? I would find that totally disrespectful and that he felt I am less than him.

When I was little my mum would ask for a bite of my sandwich. Then she'd take a massive drag of her cigarette and with a mouthful of smoke take a huge bite out of the middle of it, knowing I wouldn't want / be able to eat the rest of it. She thought it was funny.

Your mum was fucking nasty, doing that iklboo. So many parents using their so called ‘humour’ in order to bully their own children.

So many families are bonkers about food

My granny was silly about food, but we all just ignored it and said "yes granny" when she said she could not eat dinner, due to her teeny tiny appetite (then ate 2 puds and half the biscuit tin )

@Mummyshark2018 Sun 17-Nov-19 16:59:50
"I'm going to go against the grain and say that both were unreasonable in their actions. Person B was wrong to name call. Overall you both sound very juvenile!"

WTF? Didn't you read the thread? B (mother) was offered her own and declined, there was other chocolate available but haveing declined that as well, she said specifically she only wanted some of A's (her daughter), then proceeded to call her own daughter a selfish bitch - in front of her daughter's children!!!!!!!!

Read the thread before you post such unjust comments. Or maybe you're the mother / mother's friend?!

Oh iklboo that is foul.

What a horrid disgusting woman. And a nasty bully.

@iklboo Mon 18-Nov-19 18:33:09
"When I was little my mum would ask for a bite of my sandwich. Then she'd take a massive drag of her cigarette and with a mouthful of smoke take a huge bite out of the middle of it, knowing I wouldn't want / be able to eat the rest of it. She thought it was funny."

Oh you poor thing, that's tantamount to child abuse. I hope the people around you now are much nicer - ie 'normal'!

B is wrong. They had a chance to order.

OP .... You were right, your ‘d’m was wrong.

If my dh was person A ... he would automatically ask me as person B if I wanted some. I would have some if I wanted some ... but I would never ask in those circumstances.

The other way round ... if I was person A and dh person B ... I would NOT share ... dh knows this.

I love him for this

Sounds like you need to distance yourself from your toxic mother. She was clearly in the wrong and should never have said that to you. Very unhealthy dynamic.

My DM used to be like this but without the swearing whenever take away was ordered, in particular Chinese. She always said "don't order any for me because I can't eat that fatty, unhealthy stuff - I'll just have soup and a sandwich". It was part of her her virtue signalling and competitive undereating. But of course as soon as the order arrived she'd she'd decide she would "just have a little taste" and fill up a full sized dinner plate with prawn toasts, spareribs, spring rolls etc etc The start loading up her plate with crispy duck, complaining that there weren't enough pancakes for her to have 3.... After several goes of this we just ordered her a full portion so that everyone could get some

My mother was the food stealer in our family. She'd order a dinner salad for herself, and "just have a bite of [ours]," until one day in a restaurant I said, very loudly, "Mom, get your hands off my pizza!" She glared at me and said, "I can't believe you embarrassed me like that," but she never did it again.

This Joey doesn't share pizza, chocolate, or fries. Nosirreebob.

Both are wrong....saying that isn't is really annoying when you get chips and people keep pinching them saying they only want a few then eat 2/3 of it. Person B was asked so if person A doesn't want to share it's up to them especially as it's a small bar. Of course they could be the better person and just give a small piece and not be such a greedy guts but that's up to them.

Of course they could be the better person and just give a small piece and not be such a greedy guts but that's up to them.

How the fuck is A in the wrong by any stretch of the imagination? The greedy fucker DEMANDED that A hands over half her bar. B is a wanker.

Of course they could be the better person and just give a small piece and not be such a greedy guts but that's up to them.

That's just enabling. Should not be happening.

@T0tallyFuckedUpFamily I do now call him out on it and say order one so you don't eat half of mine! and then when I get something that he's declined I don't offer him some unless there's plenty!
He is watching what he eats so I think by not ordering/buying something for himself he thinks he's being good 🤨🤣