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Small chocolate bar

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SoapOperaFamily · 17/11/2019 14:43

Who is BU here? We have a houseful of family today. DD went to the shops and offered to buy everyone a packet of sweets. Person A asked for a small chocolate bar, Person B said they didn’t want anything. DD got home and handed out the sweets. Person B asked Person A if they could break their bar of chocolate into 2 and give them a piece. Person A said they would like to eat this particular bar themselves, but there was more chocolate in the cupboard. Person B said they wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate in particular. Person B was told they could have ordered their own bar if they wanted one, but Person B wanted a piece of Person A’s chocolate because they didn’t want a whole bar. Words were exchanged on both sides. Should Person A have shared, or should Person B have ordered their own bar?

OP posts:
queenqueenqueen · 18/11/2019 21:09

B is a CF

toffeeghirlinatwirl · 18/11/2019 21:13

@SchadenfreudePersonified I thought I'd find you here. You has me in stitches on the greedy FIL post a few weeks ago.
(Whining over his DGD not sharing the piece of cake she bought for herself despite him already tucking into other cakes.)
If I recall, you were very generous sharing your half a jellybean amongst the other posters on that occasion!

I'm also the eldest dc and could relate to what you, and others, have said here. I'm sorry that it's upset you as your posts often make me laugh. I'm stuffed atm after a Chinese take away. Therefore, I'd like to bestow my white chocolate Magnum on you to cheer you up and as a thank you for all laughs. Cake

browneyes77 · 18/11/2019 21:22

Firstly, I don’t want to eat off FIL’s fork, secondly, I don’t want anyone to eat off mine, or to stick their fork in my food, and thirdly, if I wanted what they were having I’d have ordered it!

This! This is me! I thought I was alone on this.

  1. Do not put your fork, that has been in your mouth already on my plate, in my food.

  2. I do not wish to try any food on your plate/fork/spoon, especially that you have already touched.

  3. NEVER steal my chips.

  4. If you want to try something, BUY IT YOURSELF! Do not expect a share of mine that I’ve paid for. Why should I not get the full amount of food that I’ve paid money for?

BROWNEYES DOESN’T SHARE FOOD!!

Yeah so B (your mother) is completely wrong and totally out of order for calling you a selfish bitch

Jeeperscreepers69 · 18/11/2019 21:34

Share chocolate. Is b insane???

purplebunny2012 · 18/11/2019 22:15

So person B didn't want anything until the saw person A with theirs. Tough, person B, you should have asked for your own and saved the rest

Whatdoyouthinkyouare · 18/11/2019 22:25

YANBU. B IS.
My DSis is the pudding stealer but she no longer does it with me. I used to be like shadenfreude up to the age of 17. She would wind me up and wind me up and I would eventually retaliate and I was always in the wrong as I was the older BIG sister. She took my food and I also became a fast eater. I still have the habit today.
BUT she did have a day of reckoning. We were watching telly at the end of the evening where all go work had eventually been done anni was feeling VERY pre-menstrual so was keeping myself to myself to stop any arguments. She picked and she picked and she picked (but with our DM there to witness it all this time). When I eventually lost it, it was monumental and I only stopped with my hands round her throat where I roared at her to stop and very slowly and deliberately opened my fingers and went back to sitting down calmly. My DM just turned to her and said 'you deserved that'.
Our relationship changed and she stopped picking and began to ask as my parents accepted she had now grown up and could fight her own battles. Now I ask her whether she is having dessert and does she want to share. She understands and will often buy and extra pudding to split on top of those ordered. Her DD (age 2) is definitely a chip scrounger though but she does ask and she is so cute at the moment she does get some. I tend to order kore tk make sure there is enough. My DS may have to employ me in a few years to say no to her so she doesn't always expect it like B above.

Whatdoyouthinkyouare · 18/11/2019 22:27

How many mistakes! Sorry all. And I can't even blame autocorrect for most of them. Grin

Tubbymummy44 · 18/11/2019 22:30

B is an abomination. I'd be livid, I don't bloody share chocolate! Seriously, your mum is a twat. You deserve better. Flowers

SchadenfreudePersonified · 18/11/2019 22:37

I didn't think MN was an outreach branch of Prime Minister's Question Time.

Well, now you know iklboo.

Next thread> "Brexit and the Biscuit Thieves.What happened to the custard creams in the House of Commons Gruffalo Biscuit tin? Did Rees-Smug have a hand in it?" The country awaits.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 18/11/2019 22:46

You has me in stitches on the greedy FIL post a few weeks ago

AH! I remember it well. That bastard!

you were very generous sharing your half a jellybean

You are welcome! I hope you enjoyed your sliver.

I'd like to bestow my white chocolate Magnum on you to cheer you up

toffeeghirl! I don't know what to say - except #gronfff#

It seems that from many of our posts, being the Good Example firstborn (girl) child is often not a good idea.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 18/11/2019 22:51

@SchadenfreudePersonified I thought I'd find you here.

My DM just turned to her and said 'you deserved that'.

Overplayed her hand, eh Whatdoyouthink? excellent!

Lulu49 · 18/11/2019 23:20

Is this real?? If so everyone concerned, but especially the OP, needs to get out more!

Jezebel101 · 18/11/2019 23:33

Poor you, OP. It's no fun having a person B in the family.

Personally, if someone refuses to get their own chocolate and then thinks for a milisecond that they're in with a chance of cadging some of mine, then they put their very life in jeopardy. It's not happening. If it ever does, that's the day the devil himself ice skates to work.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 19/11/2019 00:17

Is this real?? If so everyone concerned, but especially the OP, needs to get out more!

Says the person who has went out of their way to post on here. Hmm There are many other threads that you can peruse at your leisure. Do let us stop you.

Banana1984 · 19/11/2019 00:58

These comments are so funny cheered me up after a miserable day Grin

NearlyGranny · 19/11/2019 01:50

We still don't know what the chocolate bar was, though, do we? Have I missed it? I need one but may not find it in the shops here (in Oz for 8 weeks).

I gift to OP a cherry ripe bar in a choice of milk or dark coating. It has fruit in so it's officially one of your five-a-day! 😅🍒🍫

RainbowSlide · 19/11/2019 02:07

Dh does this. Assumes I'll share desserts after not ordering one, and expects we'll share our main courses (half and half). I've become acquainted with my Assertive Voice, and tell him no I won't be sharing any of it he'll need to decide what he wants (main course) and order his own (dessert) and leave my plates alone!! Geroff!!

CoupeCourte · 19/11/2019 02:36

For me it comes down to offering vs asking. I'll always offer to share my chips, but I'd be taken aback if someone asked for half of my dessert the second it was put down in front of me - and I'd be pissed off if someone took without asking, that's so greedy and rude.

This reminds me of a friend of DP's who's notorious for this kind of thing. With him it's a combination of tightness, thinking himself morally superior for not ordering 'junk' food but still wanting to eat it, and just a generally bolshy cunty personality.

After a horror weekend at a friend's wedding in which he both attempted to steal the meal set aside for the best man - also his friend! - while the best man was making a speech, and then at lunch the next day stuck his greasy hand right into the chips that I'd ordered before I'd even had one, I have refused to eat with him ever again.

dreichwinter · 19/11/2019 03:00

MIL, who is actually lovely has food issues.
As a result DH assumed I would happily share all my high calorie foods with him.

He feels I have food aggression, I feel he understands that I'm not sharing my food

( unless dc are actually very hungry maybe)

B people are the worst!

NearlyGranny · 19/11/2019 04:25

There's a strong element on this thread of food creeps accusing their victims of having 'food issues' when they object to having their meals snaffled by uninvited greasy fingers, furtive forks or spitty spoons. If anyone wanted perfect examples of entitlement and projection in perfect harmony, here they are!

KatherineJaneway · 19/11/2019 06:04

I never understand how people think that if they don't order pudding and eat portions of other people's pudding, it somehow 'doesn't count'.

TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead · 19/11/2019 07:16

Brussels out, yes it is virtue signalling

So boring

Lulu49 · 19/11/2019 07:32

😂😂😂😂

Lulu49 · 19/11/2019 07:34

I was sitting on the loo when I commented, didn’t have a magazine to take in so took mumsnet!

MakeupCheeseFogg · 19/11/2019 07:35

Oh god I need to lie down after reading this thread.

I had an ex like this back at uni. Food became instantly desirable the minute it was someone else's. Even if someone was pelting him with free Snickers bars, he'd want the one in your hand.

I stabbed him with my fork in the uni canteen in the end. I bought some chips, saved the biggest for last, next thing this fucker was reaching over for one, looking me straight in the eye, this smug little smile on his face. In my memory it all happened in slow motion, but I'm sure it didn't. Anyway, I was on my period, starving, and lost it, so I sort of growled at him and stabbed his hand.

We broke up not long after, and chip gate probably contributed to that as I was a bit of a pushover in those days, and at the start of the relationship wouldn't have pulled him up on it. I still feel the rage and it was years ago! It's the entitlement.

Fucker was a Politics student as well