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To think that the post office should post envelopes

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Biggobyboo · 14/11/2019 19:02

I went to the post office to post my wedding thank you cards. The counter clerk was quite grumpy and told me off for pushing the cards under the grille!

She then gave me the stamps to stick on myself. I asked her why she couldn’t stamp them and put them in the mail bag behind her and she said the Post Office doesn’t deal with ordinary letters. There was a queue behind me so I had to take the stamps home to put on my envelopes.

The post box in front of the shop was “out of use.”

I know it’s not a big deal in the whole scheme of things but what’s the point in a post office you can’t post from?

OP posts:

SnuggyBuggy · 15/11/2019 08:29

The stamps thing I'd suck up but the not being able to post them at the post office is crap.

Likethebattle · 15/11/2019 08:31

I am old enough to Rene we them stamping letters with an ink pad thing, but physical ramps have to be applied by the customer/

Emlou07 · 15/11/2019 08:32

& the tea and biscuits wasn't aimed at you OP!

SoupDragon · 15/11/2019 08:37

Well mocking someone for complaining about poor service is pretty shitty behaviour

No, people are saying that the OP is being unbelievably lazy to expect the PO staff to stick her stamps on for her. Her sex is irrelevant so trying to shoehorn sexism into it is plain stupid.

It wasn't poor service - the OP is perfectly capable of sticking 10 stamps on by herself and there was a queue of people behind her.

Mummyoflittledragon · 15/11/2019 08:41

What I think is crap is mocking a person, who has a hidden disability.

ShatnersWig · 15/11/2019 08:42

Photo of your tweet and the Post Office response please.

SnuggyBuggy · 15/11/2019 08:48

But given that they didn't have a post box it would have been pointless

KidLorneRoll · 15/11/2019 08:50

You thought she should stick your sodding stamps on your cards for you?

Jesus fuck. I bet you are the type of person who drops litter because it gives someone a job, aren't you?

iklboo · 15/11/2019 08:51

What I think is crap is mocking a person, who has a hidden disability.

I've got a hidden disability. I don't expect post office staff to stick my stamps on for me.

OrangeBuddha · 15/11/2019 08:54

I think this one is down to the individual behind the counter. Some do and some don't stick stamps (though they probably should).

In your case given that the post box wasn't working, she should've either done the sticking & posting for you, or at the very least asked you to hand them to her after you do the sticking yourself. It's called "customer service".

YANBU!

BeautifulTrauma1 · 15/11/2019 08:54

Lol you have to love Mumsnet.

I mean a simple 'Well you were a bit unreasonable OP, but I can understand why you'd feel that way if someone had done it before for you' would have sufficed, rather than this onslaught of sarcasm, passive aggressive, lazy, entitled wording.

Do people on Mumsnet AIBU actually get off on being as rude and take the polar opposite sides to an OP? Because I'm sure as hell if your best friend sat opposite you at a table and regaled the same story that you wouldn't be calling them lazy and entitled. The phrase keyboard warrior comes to mind all too often in AIBU.

strawberrieshortcake · 15/11/2019 08:55

I would love to see a screenshot of the response from the post office but I’m sure you wouldn’t post that OP because it doesn’t exist.

KidLorneRoll · 15/11/2019 08:57

If my mate came to me and said he/she had expected a min wage worker to stick stamps on envelopes for him/ her yes I would call them lazy and dickish, because that's what it is.

BeautifulTrauma1 · 15/11/2019 08:58

I would love to see a screenshot of the response from the post office but I’m sure you wouldn’t post that OP because it doesn’t exist.

What is the actual point of this? Does it make you feel important calling someone out on here and trying to make someone look/feel stupid? I'd absolutely love to understand the psychology behind keyboard warriors who troll forum posts looking for something to disagree with.

Is it your life is that empty you have to try and ridicule someone to feel good about yourself? Please, enlighten me.

Grafittiqueen · 15/11/2019 08:59

Imagine how furious the people in the queues behind you would be watching the last behind the counter stick on so many stamps when she could be serving them instead?! Total waste of her time.

BeautifulTrauma1 · 15/11/2019 09:01

If my mate came to me and said he/she had expected a min wage worker to stick stamps on envelopes for him/ her yes I would call them lazy and dickish, because that's what it is.

But, and this is where several struggle on Mumsnet, there's a way of wording it isn't there? I'm sure you'd be polite to your friend, not trying to act like a passive aggressive arsehole because you think she's wrong, surely?
Especially if your friend, and I'm assuming you care about your friends here with this next part, had a disability you were aware of which meant causing them distress having to walk a mile in the rain. But that would mean compassion, something a lot of people don't have on this forum. Or maybe they do but it's just people online to tear into isn't it, what do they matter in the scheme of things.

There's a way to answer the OP's question and still be polite, everyone has failed and acted like children in a playground pile on. It's quite a sad indictment of a forum which used to be so supportive.

KidLorneRoll · 15/11/2019 09:02

Is it your life is that empty you have to try and ridicule someone to feel good about yourself? Please, enlighten me.

Irony meter overload.

SnuggyBuggy · 15/11/2019 09:03

I don't think it's a case of whether or not the person behind the counter should have stuck the stamps themselves but that there needs to be a better system. It's not entitled to expect to post letters at a post office. The ink stamp thing seemed to work fine but maybe the regs have changed. A little area for stamp sticking and a functioning postbox could be another system.

It just seems to me that a lot of services are getting crapper and we are just expected to suck it up and be grateful.

BeautifulTrauma1 · 15/11/2019 09:06

How do you think the OP feels reading what you've wrote? At any point have you been constructive?

RavenLG · 15/11/2019 09:07

What I think is crap is mocking a person, who has a hidden disability.
No one is mocking her because she is disabled though. People are mocking her because she’s acting entitled and petty. Disabled people are still responsible for their own shitty behaviour, unless you think disabled people should be pandered to, which is more problematic than calling someone (disabled or not) out when they behave like a dick.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 15/11/2019 09:09

What I think is crap is mocking a person, who has a hidden disability

OP hasn't said she has a hidden disability, and I'm sure if she did have, and explained to the clerk why she couldn't do the task herself, they'd have been much more facilitating.

FWIW lazy and entitled don't fall into the 'disability' definition.

KidLorneRoll · 15/11/2019 09:09

'At any point have you been constructive?'

I've offered my opinion on a situation in response to a person asking for it. I'm terribly sorry if it's not wrapped in cotton wool with a cherry on top. People like the OP is why working retail jobs fucking sucks, and it should be called out.

Pretty sure that's more constructive than your offerings.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 15/11/2019 09:10

I take it back as she did say she has a disability...
But she still could've explained that to the clerk.

BeautifulTrauma1 · 15/11/2019 09:10

No one is mocking her because she is disabled though. People are mocking her because she’s acting entitled and petty. Disabled people are still responsible for their own shitty behaviour, unless you think disabled people should be pandered to, which is more problematic than calling someone (disabled or not) out when they behave like a dick.

This is what I don't get at all. Why mock? What is actually wrong with telling the OP that they were in the wrong without mocking them or calling them lazy or entitled or dickish or whatever other word they want to use?
I absolutely agree with you that disabled people should be responsible for their own actions, however, AIBU is to seek a constructive opinion on things, and the problem is people go off the scale on the mocking or abuse of an OP when they don't agree with their view.

SnuggyBuggy · 15/11/2019 09:14

I think a lot of people see being in the right as an excuse to be a dick

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