AIBU to ask if you would have had a child alone

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Not for me - family member. Planning to have a baby with donor sperm.

You can’t possibly reduce this to an issue to vote on.

So much is down to individual circumstances.

That’s why I’m asking if you would.

Knowing what I know now as a single parent of children with additional needs, after a nasty marriage break up, absolutely! Best thing I ever did

That’s why I’m asking if you would.

Well, my personal circumstances are unlikely to be the same as your family member’s. It’s irrelevant.

Yes but only as a last resort. Ie if I got to a certain age & hadn't met someone.

You need to assign an answer to your poll, for example yabu is yes yanbu is no

Yes I would

I wouldn’t. I only got broody when I met DH. Had I not met him, I would have enjoyed single life: hobbies, travelling etc
I’d also say it very hard work, you don’t get any respite + it’s very expensive to go it alone.

if I could support a child and wanted one yes.

Me now, not a hope I will be having any more with my partner never mind on my own.

No I wouldnt.

No. Just because she doesn't need a father for her child doesn't mean that a child doesn't need a father

It would depend massively on the amount of support I had from family and friends. I found life with a small baby very lonely and isolating (mainly because my little darling cried a lot and slept rarely). If my DH hadn’t been there to supply support I’d have been a dreadful mess.

But is so depends on the individual, the circumstances and the baby.

I wouldn't have chosen it, no, but I've raised Dd on my own since she was 6 weeks old and she's now 18.

If I had worked out support (emotional and practical) then yes I would.

I did. As a first choice, not a last resort. Would highly recommend.

No. Just because she doesn't need a father for her child doesn't mean that a child doesn't need a father

This.

No.
DD had serious medical issues. I needed back up, which I got from DH. Without him I would have been housebound.

Absolutely. I might as well have user donor sperm - havent seen ex-moron since I was 3 months pregnant and 20 years later I don't regret a thing :) Some things are much tougher on your own, but others far easier.

It honestly depends. Having had no family support (even emotional), and not being very good at friendship, then I wouldn't have chosen to have a child alone.

Hmmm before I had my DD I absolutely would have done. The first six months were a lot harder than I anticipated but I suspect I had PND. At the time I don't know if I could mentally have coped without DH but I suppose if you have no choice you have to. Now I would say, yes I would have a DC alone if that were my only option. I aches for a child and couldn't have been happy without one.

No.

It only occured to me that I'd like kids after I met my husband.

No

Does that mean I vote YABU?

My ex left when I was pregnant. It’s hard and it’s lonely, but I have never known any different and I wouldn’t change it for the world now.

I didn't have donor sperm but I brought up my son alone and it was fine. I don't need a man.

Yes because of my circumstances but in a different situation my answer might be different.

Yes. I’m a single parent and sometimes wish I’d just got a donor cos then at least I would have better genes