Asked if I'm the nanny a lot

[doadeer]

... Was at baby group with DS 10 months yesterday, I was asked 3 times if I was the nanny. It's happened about 5 times before.

Is this strange?

I'm trying to think why.... I'm 29 but been told I look a bit younger and the average age of mums in my area is late 30s... Also DS is mixed race though he does look very like me.

Would you be offended if people kept asking if you were the nanny?

“It’s life move on” Seriously?

How about educating people to understand the implications of their choice of words. You ignoring casual racism is basically putting the message across to your DC that “it’s ok , there are ignorant people out there in this word who might say things, but just hush your mouth and deal with it because educating people means your paranoid”

Looks like the lady above had her post deleted!

My answer to that would be a) Why do you think that ? and b) No, Nannies are paid to care for children, I do it for love. Actually I'd prob. use both.

White mothers of mixed race children should be educating themselves on the challenges and issues that their children are likely to face in the western world, in being seen, and treated, differently to white children, rather than dismissing the negative experiences of people of colour as being "life, and people needing to move on"

Unimaginative, lazy, stupid .... maybe casual racism ... or ignorance.... why not just ask how old is your little one rather than are ou the nanny...I hope you suitably(gently) embarrass these people

These sorts of threads always end up with the racism deniers jumping in. So here's one for you:

When my DD was about 8 I was walking behind her in a busy street and a grown arsed man walking past called her a p**i - I think not realising I was her mum as her dad was walking in front of her (we were walking single file it was so busy).

I saw red not just over his racism, but the way he felt able to abuse a child. He did not get off lightly from me.

Why would you be offended by being taken for a nanny?

It isn't about the job of being a nanny. It's about people constantly assuming your own children aren't yours, for race-related reasons.

I get this a lot. My daughter is mixed race and is the photocopy of her dad. I am lebanese in background. People always ask me if I am the nanny and look shocked when I say 'no she is mine' . It is casual racism for sure. I once had a lady ask 'but why is her skin colour so different to yours?' It used to annoy me but now I just see it as a chance to educate people and challenge their bias!

I have a mixed -race child and when he was younger, I was constantly asked if he was adopted. (I'm white).