To think we did nothing wrong?

[sadaboutlife]

I went away for the weekend with a guy I'm seeing and a friend and her boyfriend.
My friend was driving and me and the guy I'm seeing in the back.
It's a pretty new thing and we were chatting all the way home in the car.
She kept say ..can you both shut up talking your doing my head in.
We kept quite for a bit and then sometimes forgot and spoke again.
She was really annoyed
Did we really do anything wrong here?
She is actually angry that we didn't sit in silence

Her boyfriend was in the front.
On the way down she was singing and blasting the music so nothing to do with concentrating

On the way home she might have been tired.

She fancies your new squeeze and she’s jealous.

Or he has a really whiny voice that she can’t stand?

YABU.

Driver gets to set the rules for the journey - music, level of conversation, temperature etc - it's for everyone's safety. If your driver needs peace and quiet to concentrate on the drive, you should shut up and not need to be reminded several times.

So what if she was singing etc on the way there - different journey and she probably wasn't tired at that point.

Were you including the others in the conversation?

So, how did the weekend go from your friend's point of view? As a newly coupled up couple, were you fun to be with?

When you were talking in the back, was it only between you, excluding them? Was it flirty and giggly and lovey-dovey?

You don’t like this friend much do you? This is the second thread you’ve posted moaning about her regarding this trip.

You posted last night about how he's a player and doesn't do relationships, so maybe she was sick of listening to you both knowing it was going nowhere.

You would have annoyed me too. Driving doesn't always come natural like. For some of us it takes a huge amount of concentration. Having someone twittering away in the back seat would piss me off.
She asked you to shut it. You didn't shut up. She was doing you a huge favour but you couldn't keep your gob shut.

I'd have ejected you. Of course you were wrong.

On the way down she was singing and blasting the music so nothing to do with concentrating

On the way there, she was attempting to drown out your 'active relationship-building' by trying to get a party mood going.

On the way back, she had a headache and couldn't be bothered.

Don't accept any more 3 hour lifts from her then OP, its not something you're entitled to is it?

Do you drive as well? I'm one of those who find conversation in the back seat really distracting, especially on long journeys or "town driving" with masses of roundabouts and idiot drivers in my boot, so it might have just been that she needed to concentrate. I know friends who don't drive sometimes don't appreciate how much concentration it can require to navigate joining a motorway roundabout at rush hour, say, while going up a steep hill with a lorry in your boot....

I have asked people to be quiet when I have to concentrate on my driving at night or long distances. You should have been more considerate and been quieter.

Steep hill 😂

Makes no difference to the car.

Seriously some of you shouldn’t be driving if it’s such hard work.

Had you not given her petrol money?

That’s literally a whole other thread.

What happened over the weekend? It sounds like there is more to this than the three hour drive and that it had been brewing for a while.

In fairness OP chit chat can be REALLY distracting when driving! I also personally find other people's voices excruciating if I have a headache or feel sick maybe she was unwell?

The replies are genuinely some of the oddest I’ve ever seen on MN!! I’m sorry but who are these people who expect their passengers to sit in silence for three hours?
Agree! WTF is wrong with people?

My mom is the same. She doesn't want a long conversation dragging on while she is driving, she can't concentrate.

@Antigonads I'm thinking of one particular steep hill in particular, Bensham Bank in Gateshead. It's well-known with the local driving instructors as THE place to take learners to practise hill starts and clutch control beyond all reason. It's also on a major bus route. Meanwhile when I lived in Gosport there was ONE hill the instructors could take people to for them to practise hill starts, and that was more like a gentle slope, really.

I now only drive when absolutely necessary, thanks, although I have happily driven in Devon, Cornwall, Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland, most of which are fairly hilly. In the last three places there are considerably fewer people and less traffic (Belfast, Cardiff, Glasgow and Edinburgh excepted) and people don't think it's amusing to try and get into your boot at every junction or roundabout.

And I don't expect passengers to sit in silence, but equally I don't expect them to object to any music or audio books I choose to play to drown them out either.

@sadaboutlife She was not being unreasonable to be irked by all the chitter chatter while she drove for 3 hours. I mean, did you actually talk to her much???

From the way you speak in your posts, you sound like you may be quite annoying to travel with on a long journey!

Maybe your 'new boyfriend' can drive you around from now on, instead of you both cadging lifts from this friend that you don't seem to like much eh?

It's easier for some people to piss on your sunshine than admit the shade in their own relationship.......

Who knows what was up, maybe it would have been better to all have shared the driving responsibility so she could relax and chat too... ?

The amount of people hinting that the friend is jealous because she wanted some damn peace from the constant nattering.