To not put Christmas tree up yet?

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My DP really wants to put the tree up early this year. His reasoning is that we have just moved into our own place and it would be nice to have as long as possible for our DS who is one. He wants to do it tomorrow if he gets enough people to agree with him.

The reason I dont want to is we havent finished unpacking and it's all down to me. He isnt helping as he brought all the stuff to the new flat, without my help. We think this is a fair trade.

I cant however finish unpacking yet as there is storage issues. Tools still left behind by people who helped get the flat ready to live in and some drawers not yet been brought over.

So AIBU in not wanting to put it up until the flat is completely finished?

Way way to early. December 1st at the earliest.

No earlier than 15 December!

Unpacking is much harder than moving. Compromise that it goes up when the flat is unpacked so he has to help in that case

Regardless of anything else, don’t put the tree up because it isn’t December bangs gavel

No it’s stupidly, embarrassingly early. Given the circumstances of just moving in it’s totally ludicrous!

It's November. Your one year old will give a shit for about 30 seconds.

Tell him to stop being ridiculous.

Too early - tree goes up 20 December and down on 31 December.

Far too early but then my 20 yr old has her little tree up, as long as i dont see it lol

Of course not. Even without the reasons you’ve given, it’s NOVEMBER. The longer you have that tree up with a one year old around, the more sick of replacing baubles and trying to stop them pulling it over you’ll be, you’ll hate the sight of it by Christmas Day!

Bloody hell, no.

I'm absolutely love Christmas and will happily dance about singing Christmas songs with tinsel in my hair all through December. But not a moment sooner! It just stages it out for so long and makes the build up so long for children.

We usually put ours up first full weekend in December so we can go pick it from the garden centre on the Saturday and finish decorating on the Sunday. When I was a kid it would go up the weekend before Christmas. The wait never seemed as long for us then.

Too early!!!

1st December is early enough.

Someone on the outskirts of our village has put their fairy lights up in the garden... AND has a 6 ft Christmas tree in the front window. (with lights...) been there since 1st November!

Bonkers.

Still love 'em for it though. Even if I wouldn't do it!

December 1st. But make sure you only have non-breakable decorations!

We put ours up the weekend before Christmas and it comes down the weekend after. November is waaaayyyy too early.

20th is so late, Having a tree up for only 11 days is just too much effort for no time at all.
I think 25th nov is a good time as I'd take down just after boxing day.
If he helped get the flat unpacked id let him put the tree up whenever he wanted.

What do you mean you have to do all the unpacking and he isn’t helping? Why doesn’t he help with that? I don’t know why you didn’t help with moving stuff - too heavy? Looking after your 1 year old? But surely you do the job of moving in together until it’s done then you can faff about with Christmas trees.

And yes it is far far too early to put a tree up.

He is WRONG. It's not even Advent which I think is too early for anything to do with Christmas. Tree up Sunday before Christmas Day, decorations down January 6th. That is the law in my house!

The thought of DS destroying it every day does make me want to want much longer...

I think anything earlier than 1 December is a bit early. Your house your choice though 🤷‍♀️

But don't do it on account of your 1 year old because 1. he doesn't even know what's going on or what the tree is about and 2. you will just be gifting yourself an extra few weeks of misery running after your 1 year old to prevent him putting baubles and Christmas shit in his mouth/ trying to pull down the tree.

way way to early

Sorry cross post OP

Too early plus I think he is really mean not helping with the unpacking.

Xmas is ages away why do people start it in November 🤷‍♀️

I did all the packing and I am doing the unpacking as he has done the manual labour as I am 28 weeks pregnant and have to look after DS.

20th is so late, Having a tree up for only 11 days is just too much effort for no time at all

If it goes up on 20th and for only 11 days you've sold yourself short and are bringing it down on only the 7th of the 12 days of Christmas.

I don't really care when people put them up but I do get annoyed when they come down before the 6th Jan.