It’s all gone a bit nethuns

[nethunsinthatway]

Well come on... it has hasn’t it?

I know it’s been done to death “I remember when all was fields, joules and shark Hoovers” but Aibu to say... last month or so...

Or am I just getting old?

There are so many people on here who seem to think that people who write 'would of' etc, are doing it deliberately and/or could choose not to.

It appalls me that such people are putting SPAG 'requirements' above providing a space for EVERY woman to come here for support and help.
Literacy levels are of no consequence when an abused woman or an anxious mother comes here for help. Yet people are wilfully making them feel stupid and the consequence is that they leave without the help they need.

Maybe people should be able to pass an English test before being allowed to post?

I haven't noticed an increase of Huns but, I have noticed an increase in judgements.

Also, being haughty about grammar and spelling, people’s choice of terms and expressions or use of xx, has the opposite effect of that which you believe it does. It doesn’t mark you out as superior to those people or having higher standards to uphold...it makes you seem insecure and peevish, looking for ways to elevate yourself by putting another person down.

This ^
With bells on. Hun xx

Thing is this is a free site and if you want exclusivity perhaps you need to pay for it

Also, being haughty about grammar and spelling, people’s choice of terms and expressions or use of xx, has the opposite effect of that which you believe it does. It doesn’t mark you out as superior to those people or having higher standards to uphold...it makes you seem insecure and peevish, looking for ways to elevate yourself by putting another person down.

Not always, sometimes it's sheer frustration at the dumbing down of the language.

‘Sheer frustration’ is fnot for the spelling and grammar errors of randoms on mumsnet.
All human life is here.

If I read a post about someone in desperate straits, @saraclara th n no, I wouldn’t even notice those things, and would answer honestly, if I had something of value to offer.

This thread isn’t about that, and I think that’s clearly apparent if you take an overview of posts.

But generally, MN has been a place to be snippy, cutting and say it as it is - so if the post reads like a Jeremy Kyle show, and is written in poor English (not English as a second language) then people are going to judge!

The majority didn’t attend private schools, as far as I’m aware, the same spelling and grammar are taught across the country. Some people seem to prefer text speak, FB speak or some ‘street’ nonsense which doesn’t look cool. Anywhere.

It’s a bit like having gazillions of obvious tattoos and piercings and then complaining certain areas don’t take you seriously or judge you.

Beautifully said Bunny. Fully agree.

Personally I think the admin/MNHQ have become hunbots lately. I've seen perfectly fine posts politely stating a differing opinion, be deleted by MNHQ. It appears we have become a communist forum

Arrrgggh, this thread is so frustrating! One of the most eye-opening things I've noticed after my few years on MN is that some really don't seem to realise that there are lots of people out there who are just different to them. Difference is GOOD. Why on earth would you only want to communicate with people who speak like you do, write like you do and prioritise the things you do? Why does 'street nonsense' (cringe) have to be somehow inferior? Why can't it just be different? I come on MN because I want wide-ranging opinion, I want to be challenged. If I only wanted to hear from a load of middle-aged, middle-class white women I'd just WhatsApp my fucking book group.

Weird how 70% of posters agree with the OP though.

So what? To my mind it simply indicates that 70% of you are twats.
Such is life in my experience.

Difference is GOOD. Why on earth would you only want to communicate with people who speak like you do, write like you do and prioritise the things you do?

I agree.

I have tattoos so I will be judged but I can always judge back as nobody's perfect and I shall quote my late Grandmother who proclaimed you are not qualified to criticise me unless your are perfect my dear and nobody is perfect

I meant it’s weird how the majority voted yanbu. That doesn’t reflect the replies.

I wonder if people could have voted YANBU for different reasons though.

E.g. I haven't voted as I'm on the fence.

On one hand I find this growing sense of "unconditionally affirm me or I'll call you meanies" / "if you express a view that isn't mine or challenge a view then you're nasty playground bullies who sneer at people" to be quite hun-like and ridiculous. There's really quite a lot of people who claim they never judge, never think anything negative about anyone etc which had to be bollocks.

But then I also don't like seeing people rip a poster to pieces because they happen to have said hubbabubs, or made spelling mistakes or missed an apostrophe out. I'll probably not really read threads if there's too many hubby/babba type words because it's a warning sign of a hun thread, but I really really think it's dick behaviour of posters who see someone clearly upset and then ridicule their missing apostrophes.

Based on that I could probably vote either way.

This theme of thread is going the same way as why are non-mums on MUMSnet

Done. To. Death.

So their

I wonder what percentage of people posting on the threads actually vote. I'm on the iPhone app and don't have the voting function yet (and I can't be arsed to go to the web page).

I agree with you lola.

A poster spontaneously and with no context told an OP one of her (harmless) expressions was ‘vomitworthy’ on a post yesterday.
I was really annoyed...it was so uncalled for.
She wouldn’t dare be so rude in person. She’d get a slap to the dish and rightly so.

I have just googled hunsnet thinking it was an actual forum where people were nice to each other rather than rip each other apart for differing opinions.... turns out hunsnet is a watch brand!
I haven't been on Mumsnet long so can't comment on whether there has been a change or not. I'm pretty sure there probably has been a change because that's life, things change and move with the times. Sometimes for the better other times not so much!
Since being on Mumsnet I have definitely grown a thicker skin which I think is good thing. I probably did get offended too quickly before hand but I do also think some people on Mumsnet tend to be a tad harsh on other posters when there's no need.

Bad grammar and spelling makes me wince. 'Would of' is a pet hate, along with many other such speech to writing errors.

BUT

I'm not in my teaching role when I'm here. Nor am I at work. So it's not my place to correct anyone, and I'm certainly not going to sneer at someone who makes those errors (nor would I do the latter at work or when teaching, of course)

This forum is a place for everyone, whatever their educational level or background. And I've found it really depressing that so many people here want to keep it a middle class, well educated enclave, and are prepared to put SPAG first, and people's feelings last.

Why has the demographic changed? This used to be a very middle class yummy mummy hangout.

Quite. It is they who appear unworldly and ignorant, rather than the poor sods they hope to belittle.

Why do people think that belittling others is a good thing to do, it isn't and says more about them than the folks who are their targets