Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

It’s all gone a bit nethuns

263 replies

nethunsinthatway · 08/11/2019 17:48

Well come on... it has hasn’t it?

I know it’s been done to death “I remember when all was fields, joules and shark Hoovers” but Aibu to say... last month or so...

Or am I just getting old?

OP posts:
2020bump · 09/11/2019 03:02

A true Hun -ny would have 'live love laugh' 8n their living room and the 'soak' ornament in the bathroom to remind them what to do in said room!!!

TabithasMumCaroline · 09/11/2019 03:48

I’m still laughing at ‘mouldy’ being used unironically a few pages back.
I’m not laughing at the chickadee that was being sniffy about name-changers though. Both moldies and Jeffreygate were fucking hellish and we‘ve lost a lot of good posters for all sorts of reasons over time. They have been replaced by a different breed as advertising revenue and popularity have been sought, so instead of vipers we’ve got bunnies.
I’d eat them but they are tasteless fluff.
The knitting thread was welcome relief even though the circumstances were abysmal.

NerrSnerr · 09/11/2019 05:03

I agree with Shiny there’s really been a noticeable shift excusing men’s shitty behaviour.

There are people who genuinely believe that women should do anything to please men. They exist even if they didn't crop up on Mumsnet before. I think it's a good thing people with that view have stumbled across Mumsnet because it's means that maybe they're realising that's not the case.

So many people seem to constantly moan that Mumsnet is changing but Mumsnet isn't what it what 5 or 10 years ago it is what it is now. It's what the current users make it.

wondering7777 · 09/11/2019 05:24

MN is the only place a woman can tell the truth without being the bad guy and I really don't want to see that being taken from us.

I don’t think there’s any danger of that. AIBU is vicious (too vicious sometimes in my opinion!)

Theendofmyrope · 09/11/2019 05:36

Oh look...yet another thread whining about MN and 'Nethuns' Hmm

NotACleverName · 09/11/2019 05:51

We get it, OP. You’re so intellectually superior. Thanks for telling us, hun xx

WendyMoiraAngelaDarling · 09/11/2019 06:01

I've definitely noticed an increase in "poor people often bring it on themselves you know!" type posts on related threads and this just would never have been the case previously. You'd get the odd ignorant opinion and they'd be leapt on but now you get a lot more nodding along than before. Also so. Any people see, to be here primarily to be able to have a go at multiple people rather than be supportive or have a laugh. I'd never start a thread on here now and I used to quite often.

TeachesOfPeaches · 09/11/2019 06:09

There was a thread here recently about a woman looking for advice as her husband would come in from work raging everyday and she was on mat leave.

Advice was:

  • have his dinner ready for him for when he gets home
  • wait by the door with his favourite cocktail
  • run him a bath
  • rub his fucking feet
Hmm
WendyMoiraAngelaDarling · 09/11/2019 06:10

Also so. Any people see, t

Eh? Wtf is this? That was supposed to be "also many people seem".

TheCanterburyWhales · 09/11/2019 06:22

I was the person talking about namechanging to be a bitch.
I was also here before, during and after Moldies.
Your point?
And, to the poster who can't understand an OP which is written in non- perfect English- says more about your evidently poor comprehension skills tbf. If an "of" instead of a "have" sends your brain into tailspin you should probably go and speak to SALT yourself.

Shutupseaguls · 09/11/2019 07:12

I don't know three years ago when I posted under a different name about my ex who was sexually and mentally abusing me (and it's now come out he physically abused our children too). I received some great advice which helped me to finally escape and make a better life. As I said I received some great advice that I am forever thankful for but there was still lots of people on here making excuses for him including "maybe you give off the wrong signs/should make more of an effort", "you're lucky he wants to have sex with you" and "could be be autistic?".

I do think the humour has disappeared though but then again I find people in real life seem to struggle with subtle humour these days. The number of times I've had to tell shocked looking people that I'm only joking about locking my children in the coal shed.

RancidOldHag · 09/11/2019 07:25

"And, to the poster who can't understand an OP which is written in non- perfect English- says more about your evidently poor comprehension skills tbf. If an "of" instead of a "have" sends your brain into tailspin you should probably go and speak to SALT yourself."

Yes, some of us have. Ou need considerable assessment before you get assistive technology.

MN and MNetters were always very supportive of the need to make reasonable adjustment (writing in standard English if you can) asking the site easy to access and considerably more welcoming.

Posters 'knew' each other, knew that assistive tech was being used, and wrote, as far as they could, in ways that did not add difficulty.

People who have dyslexia and those who do not have English as a first language also benefitted from that

The odd typo can be worked around, as can reading dialect (like of/have, as long as you are fluent in English). But once it's acceptable to use non-standard, error-riddled English, it becomes barrier.

Perhaps one of the changes is that MN is less of a community, and some of the considerate aspects of looking out for those with difficulty have gone.

For example, I have never seen 'needto see a SALT'' used in that glib way before.

Huggybear16 · 09/11/2019 07:28

we are all people some of whom may need a bit of help from a friendly poster

Friendly poster available online for around £4

It’s all gone a bit nethuns
TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 09/11/2019 07:46

There is definitely an increase of "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all" on here, which is frustrating. It's a ridiculous thing to say - it confirms that all that's being sought is validation of the original view, not discussion.

NerrSnerr · 09/11/2019 07:48

But once it's acceptable to use non-standard, error-riddled English, it becomes barrier.

Just don't read those OPs then. What if 'non standard error-riddled English' is all someone can manage? They shouldn't ask for help or support because their English skills are not up to the acceptable Mumsnet standard?

DoneToDeathNow · 09/11/2019 07:54

Got a live hun here Grin

Have you? Let's look at the evidence. According to the opinions on here, a "hun" has the following characteristics:

  1. Writes "hun" and seems to be a "fluffy bunny". I evidently am not.

  2. Can't swear. Well, bollocks to that!

  3. Agrees mindlessly with the poster's opinion with shouts of "yas queen". Hmm, well I have definitely not agreed with the OP so...

  4. Has little grasp of standard English. I would say I have a good grasp.

The creature you post about simply doesn't exist. Some posters may have elements of it but RARELY does it all come together into one 'terrible' poster. It's a mythical thing that people can get their knickers into a twist about .Or use as an excuse to get their most judgemental opinions out. Or have a bitch about in order to have a pissing competition for who can be the most snarky.

The saddest thing about this site is that when people accidentally put a 'x' on the end of a post, they actually feel the need to come back and apologise for being 'unmumsnet' like. God forbid anybody acts like an actual human being.

This whole "we aren't fluffy bunnies" bollocks isn't unique to this site either. People seem to think the other parenting sites aren't like this. I've been a member of other parenting sites over the years and this same shit about not being too "huggy" gets rolled out over all of them. Mumsnet is not unique and does not have unique posters. There really isn't a unique way of posting on here.

saraclara · 09/11/2019 07:59

The odd typo can be worked around, as can reading dialect (like of/have, as long as you are fluent in English). But once it's acceptable to use non-standard, error-riddled English, it becomes barrier.

If those people could use standard English without errors, they would. People don't choose to use of instead of have, for fun. We're not talking text speak here.
But not everyone is literate. Not everyone is well educated. And the fact that those people aren't welcome here makes me shudder.

Courtney555 · 09/11/2019 08:00

There is definitely an increase of "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all" on here, which is frustrating. It's a ridiculous thing to say - it confirms that all that's being sought is validation of the original view, not discussion.

Absolutely.

There was a poster on here last night. Honestly behaving like a child because other people weren't doing things for her how she might have preferred. Several people pointed out that rather than whine about it, tantrum and flounce, she could have done the (unbelievably simple) task she wanted for herself, herself!

She declared as a result of being essentially asked why she wasn't capable of performing such a basic task for herself, that MN was unkind and not what she wanted to hear, and she was going to delete her MN account and go back to (I think) FB mummy groups where people were supportive agreed with anything she said

That's what OP is referring too. It started creeping in 5 or so years ago. It's one in three threads now.

45andfine · 09/11/2019 08:00

Sounds like we need Granznet.com set up? I'd do it, but I'm too busy marking the spelling of these youngsters

turquoise88 · 09/11/2019 08:01

Am I the only one who has spent the last half an hour wondering what on Earth a "nee-thun' is? Confused

It took a few posts in for me to realise what the hell the OP was on about. I clearly don't belong here Grin.

shearwater · 09/11/2019 08:02

I've been here on and off for eight years and I don't see any difference.

TubbyMcTat77 · 09/11/2019 08:04

Swear I've read this thread before 🙄

It's a very superior way of thinking op. Not particularly pleasant. And I really hate the grammar police - it really bothers me that some women who could use the support on here are probably put off from posting because their SPAG isn't up to scratch.

If you don't like it, move to another site. Don't just keep posting the same petty threads about how inferior other posters are because they're not as catty witty as you.

Vulpine · 09/11/2019 08:06

I still don't know what it is turquoise Shock

LolaSmiles · 09/11/2019 08:07

Courtney555
That's spot on.
People are fixating too much on "Hun" being used rather than taking "Hun" as a series of approaches and attitudes.

I've noticed a lot of people shouting others down for being mean when seemingly the central reason is "your experiences are different to mine and I'm too fragile to consider hearing your different experiences so will throw a strop, you names and if you challenge me then that only proves what a meanie you are".
See also people mention when someone is out of order or unreasonable (not AIBU vitriolic rage, but reasonable points) and there's around half a dozen posters show up being the "judgement police" ready with a wagging finger to tell posters off for not being supportive enough.

SatansReject · 09/11/2019 08:11

Mumsnet has changed dramatically over the years and not for the better unfortunately. It’s not so much the English/grammar that gets me, it’s the content of responses.

The other day someone asked if they wbu for telling their sister a meal was vegan when it wasn’t ... the responses were awful, people calling her a dick, shouting “who the fuck do you think you are?” Name calling ... really nasty. Mumsnet was never like that 😞

Then there’s the lack of humour. I know trolls should not be encouraged but back in the day silly threads would run and run and the responses were hilarious, all in good fun, nobody getting offended or shouting “reported!” Like a kid running to the teacher ... and no stupid fucking “biscuits” being handed out. What is that fucking biscuit thing all about anyway? It’s so irritating

Swipe left for the next trending thread