To get the absolute RAGE at posters who say 'DH says'

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Reading a thread about whether poster is being unreasonable about petrol costs. Someone comes along 'DH has worked out the cost and it is...'

This happens ALL THE TIME on Mumsnet. They post as if DH is some kind of oracle. ON ANY ISSUE. They never explain why DH has superior knowledge e.g this DH can multiply 45 pence per mile by 300 better than anyone else..

Not TAT that is just an example

Eg I know 3x3 is 9 because Miss. Jones told me that in first year. If I'm asked what 3x3 is I do t answer "Miss jones says it's 9". It's become my knowledge.

This made me

But anotherlongdrive (it's my post you quoted) we are not talking about examples where it is relevant so that example would fall under "it adds weight to the opinion".

I thought the OP has been quite clear that this is about times when it's not relevant that the opinion is the DH's.

Mine would probably have an opinion if he knew I posted on here. But he doesn't. So he doesn't.

My MIL on the other hand wants you all to know that the women who do that need to get their ducks in a row and LTB

What about if I start my posts with "Charlie says..."
Then no one will know if it's a male or female opinion.

I do this all the time but only because me and my dh are a team and I would want to check with him and also he would do the same with me. Not about small things tho, I definitely dont check before I buy things for the home...unless it's a big purchase. I just feel respect for each other is really important in our relationship and it works both ways.

Hilarious! It's a thread on Mumsnet, for heaven's sake. You don't need to 'be a team' every time we come on here.

And never heard or believe in happy and equal relationship.

Yes, not caring what some random's DH think extrapolates out to people not having 'happy, equal' relationships. Yes, dear.

"What about if I start my posts with "Charlie says..."

Then we'd just think who the fuck is Charlie and why on earth does their opinion matter? Why doesn't the poster just say what they think?

Then we'd just think who the fuck is Charlie and why on earth does their opinion matter? Why doesn't the poster just say what they think?

Yes! Obviously.

so that example would fall under "it adds weight to the opinion".

Tbh I don't recall seeing a post where someone has pointlessly added their dps opinion. Unless relevant.

But why lie and say it's your opinion, when it isnt.

If someone is presenting it in a 'this is a mans opinion so this means more' way, they just dick behaviour. Though, as i said, I don't reacall seeing this.

Dont see the point and pretending it's your opinion when it isnt.

Well, alrighty then. That's me told. I was after all joking.

Sorry, Gingaaargh - that post probably came across rather blunter than I meant it too.

But the general point - it's more interesting to hear the poster's own views, not hearsay of someone else's - is what I was getting at.

Unless it's a specific bit of expertise - though on most subjects there's usually a MNetter who knows directly (or at least says they do) - it is damned irritating. Agree that it's uncommon on MN, probably because we have no problem in being vocal and opinionated all by ourselves!

Well, alrighty then. That's me told. I was after all joking.

No, you've actually helped make the point!

You wouldn't say 'Charlie says...' on a thread, because you'd have the cop on to know that no-one cares what Charlie thinks.

Same principle applies re people's random DHs.

Hahahahaha! I knew what this thread was about the second i read the title!

OP, I'm with you, I experienced the same rage!

I also get the rage at this. I think it’s one of the things that bothers me most. Other things mildly irritate me, but I laugh at myself for being so grumpy and scroll on. “DH agrees....” “DH thinks.......” “in DHs job.........” “DH was at Oxford .......” “DH is senior management.....”

Fuck off. Have more confidence in your self. Stop living through your DH. If it’s a thread you’ve got nothing to say about - scroll past.

And relax

If someone asked a question related to DH’s profession, I’d say he advised X. Just as if someone asked a question related to my sister’s profession. Why does it bother you that a mans opinion is given?

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‘...we are not talking about examples where it is relevant confused so that example would fall under "it adds weight to the opinion".

I thought the OP has been quite clear that this is about times when it's not relevant that the opinion is the DH's.

So many posters don’t seem to get this. Are they just thick?

Chloe. Yes. I think they are

It's embarrassing

Minty. Have you read the OP?

@MintyMabel - read the thread...

So many posters don’t seem to get this. Are they just thick?

Either thick, being deliberately obtuse, or just want to remind us about their wonderful DHs' opinions all the time, and don't like to be called out on it.

Oh here come the whiners read the threaaaaaaaad

FFS, OP gave an example. Are you not capable of thinking beyond the one example?

It annoys me aswell...so much to make a thread about it ? Not so much

@MintyMabel

If someone asked a question related to DH’s profession, I’d say he advised X. Just as if someone asked a question related to my sister’s profession. Why does it bother you that a mans opinion is given?

Did you read this part of the OP?
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They post as if DH is some kind of oracle. ON ANY ISSUE. They never explain why DH has superior knowledge*

I've never seen that. Not even once. My DH talks shit so I'd never quote him lol. Most women I know feel similarly.

Oh god OP I am so with you. Its pathetic beyond pathetic.

When it comes to anything that requires calculations in our home, DH says "you do it!"

I am an engineer, he is horrendously math-phobic.