To get the absolute RAGE at posters who say 'DH says'

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Reading a thread about whether poster is being unreasonable about petrol costs. Someone comes along 'DH has worked out the cost and it is...'

This happens ALL THE TIME on Mumsnet. They post as if DH is some kind of oracle. ON ANY ISSUE. They never explain why DH has superior knowledge e.g this DH can multiply 45 pence per mile by 300 better than anyone else..

Not TAT that is just an example

If any poster finds themselves doing this crap then it is an indicator that it's time to LTB

Well then, carry on telling everyone what you DH thinks, TheyMostlyComeOut, we're all on the edge of our seats.

Yadnbu. When I see it I picture this

Actually, in rl, the vestiges of this patriarchal attitude can, I find, come in handy (I’m in my 60s, btw). Doorstep,salesmen and chuggers etc - I just say in my fluffiest way that I must ask my husband. It always shuts them up! PS I’m not that sort really!

I tend to only get the rage when a poster is talking about being abused by their "DH". I like the posts where the DH has a witty come back, or is shocked at another mans treatment of a woman amongst all the man hating ones.

I've read a few posts where I think "I wish my ex had had that view!"

No one fucking cares what your DH thinks!

There's a thread on here where somebody is asking what men think of belly rolls. It would be difficult to answer without being a man or having asked a man his opinion. To do otherwise would be pure supposition.

Well this is a really stupid place to ask what men think of belly rolls. Go ask on pistonheads if you really want male opinions.

Why would what someone's completely random DH think, add any possible value to the mix?

Exactly the same as any one poster could add to the mix. Obviously.

Well this is a really stupid place to ask what men think of belly rolls.

It is if we aren't allowed to ask our DH's opinion and pass it on.

I very rarely do it tbh, it would take a combination of a) a thread interesting enough to discuss with him and b) him having a POV which I think is more interesting/intelligent than mine, which is rare .

"In some households (not saying every, and not saying it's right) the male likes to have final say so.

Some women have been brought up to follow male directives and its unfair to stigmatise them because of their upbringing."

You get it in some children: "My mother says..." and in some people it carries onto adulthood.

"But think how much better you’d feel if you worked it out yourself. Mental Maths is surprisingly easy and fun."

What a patronising post. I use my calculator, thanks.

YANBU OP i see it a lot and call it out. I think alot of people on this thread don't get it - it's fine to add your husband's opinion if it's relevant (e.g. The canoe specialist on a thread about canoeing that a pp gave as an example), but really annoying when you're only adding DH's opinion because you think his opinion is better because it's a man's.

but really annoying when you're only adding DH's opinion because you think his opinion is better because it's a man's.

How do you know that that is the motivation though.

Just a guess?

It's extra annoying when someone already given that particular answer, opinion or piece of advice.

I hate when selling something on facebook or gumtree and the potential buyer says "I'll just ask hubby" or something along those lines. Pfffft.

That's different. That's "getting a second opinion" or even "giving myself time to think it over". It doesn't mean I defer to him although I might like it to sound as if it does so as not to let the seller know I'm swithering. As a seller I can understand you want people to decide on the spot so it pisses you off.

Yadnbu. When I see it I picture this

In her head, she's singing .

I think the only thread I ever put forward DHs feelings on the topic, was one about vasectomies and that's a topic he does have a more valuable opinion on than I do. I did see on the property threads someone ask a ballpark figure for a bathroom refurb and someone said DH is a plumber and he says it would cost between x and y roughly. I think that's reasonable.

“God I hate this.
No one fucking cares what your DH thinks!”

This. Completely agree. It gives me an irrational rage when I see this. As if DH’s views add any more weight.

I agree OP and I think lots
If posters are missing the point

I saw that on the thread. That poster could have just posted her comments without telling us it was her DH

even worse are the threads where the OP asks about jobs and earnings, maybe there're looking to change careers. Lots of posters respond then you get the "DH earns...".l comments. Same principle.

I saw that post on the petrol thread and I knew someone would pick her up on it.
Reminds me of the girl on Johnny Briggs who started every sentence "My Mum..who's a nurse says..."

Although that thread also included a poster saying her car doesn't like "an empty tummy". Fuck

I can’t get too excited about this as DH is far smarter than me so he is much more likely to be correct.

What? Even if it’s a discussion about the menopause?

I thought the phrase was 'father knows best'

I almost had the absolute rage at the poster who said she'd wondered allowed to her DH, I wondered if English isn't her first language.