If you would wipe out a piece of your life so it never affected you what would it be?

[WhatAMum01]

I'd never have fell for a much older guy when I was a teenager, we had a relationship if you can call it that ,but now on reflection as an adult makes my skin crawl ,he took advantage.cant believe how naive I was.it affects me to this day 25 years later.i know I'd be a different person if it hadn't happened.

I wish I knew where to start. Apart from my decision to have children my life hasn't been great.

I cant make a good decision to save my life. They all start out great then turn to shit later down the line. Struggling to find anything to be proud of, let alone one thing to change!?

My ex husband was very emotionally & financially abusive. If I could wipe that out but keep the kids, I would 100% do that. It’s affected me terribly, I’ve made some bad choices in work and love since and it’s going to follow me forever and I hate that. My counselor at the abused women’s shelter said we never get over it, but positive experiences can begin to outweigh the negative ones in how much space we give them. But I haven’t had much luck making positive memories.

LionsHeart 💐 I don’t know what to say x

Different husband. It does make me sad that I'll never know a proper marriage or have more than one kid.

However I had my DD with him and I wouldn't change her for the World!

I would have stayed away from the new girl in school at age 8. It turned into a toxic friendship with her as queen bee, regularly ostracising me from the group / rest of class then bringing me back into the fold. This went of for years, much to my mothers frustration. It has shaped my friendships for the rest of my life, I have avoided female groups and keep my friends apart from each other in case they decide they like each other more than me & I get booted out again. Now I have two small daughters & I worry so much about them ending up in a similar situation.

Op i would like to have had a different mum. I'd like my childhood not to have been dominated by her mental health problems, aggression and constant criticism. I'd like to have had a kind, supportive, stable and capable mum instead.

This for me too

The time when my DB died 7 years ago. He’s be here now and our family would be very differed.

Fertility issues - be good if they could be erased and we didn’t have any. Still going through them and as a PP said, I think I was happier before we started down that road than I am now. Hopefully our time will be soon.

Need another tea. He’d be here and the family would be very different now.

Other than my son that I wouldnt have otherwise, I wish I had kicked my stb ex husband to the curb the first time he cheated on me rather than let him drag me along for a damaging ride and kill all my self esteem along the way.

Having a different mum, one I could respect, mine is completely acid tongued & totally selfish, been NC for many years.

My mother's breast cancer. It took her from us and left my father to raise me and my 4 siblings alone. I was only 5 but it ruled my life and I know things would have been so different if we hadn't've lost her.

A childhood filled with terror from domestic abuse

My upbringing by my mother. Don’t get me wrong, my childhood was generally happy, and I have a loving mother. However, when I was growing up my mother used to come out with two mantras: “Little girls should be seen and not heard”, and “Don’t speak until you’re spoken to”. This has had a lifelong effect on me. I was chronically shy as a child, and it continued into adulthood, although when I left home to go away to study I finally began to develop a personality for myself. All my life I have been held back by my shyness, which has affected my ability to make friends, my performance in the workplace, and it even led to me becoming a non-driver, as I lack the confidence to cope with driving on Britain’s roads. For a long time I thought this was just one of those things, that was how I was born to be, it is only relatively recently that I have made the connection, realising that my upbringing has led to my stunted personality.