If you would wipe out a piece of your life so it never affected you what would it be?

[WhatAMum01]

I'd never have fell for a much older guy when I was a teenager, we had a relationship if you can call it that ,but now on reflection as an adult makes my skin crawl ,he took advantage.cant believe how naive I was.it affects me to this day 25 years later.i know I'd be a different person if it hadn't happened.

So many things, but got to be my brother very young being killed & we witnessed it, wrecked our family, nothing was the same ever again. Affected me & my siblings so much we didn't get closer, we just became more insular, my parents turned against each other & loads of ripple effects. Wish I could have stopped us going out that day.
Sorry to be a bummer!!

I have a ton of regrets but mine would have to be for someone else if I could do that- either my father wouldn’t have died or if I couldn’t have that he would of had a valid will he had afew written out but none of them were valid and when dealing with his estate it tore most of my family apart at the time and it was afew years ago now and still many of my family don’t speak to each other due to his estate it’s all so sad

@jen gosh that's so so awful ,your poor family

Christ. Where to start. My life has been a bit of a car crash so far ranging from

1. Making the decision to go to uni when I would have been better off without going.
2. Some of my friendship choices.
3. Not learning to drive at 17
4. Coping alone with my sister's mental health issues over the years which has been completely gruelling.
5. Dealing with other mental health issues in the family
6. Not having more fun and adventures in my twenties.

The biggest thing was getting ulcerative colitis. I would give anything not to have it. Like someone said upthread, my life was good up until the age of 17, then went completely downhill. Feel depressed now.

@ParkheadParadise I'm so sorry for your loss. That is just heartbreaking.

Different parents. Different family.

Letting an absolute psycho of a man bully, belittle and harass me as a teen because he made a move on me and I told his then girlfriend at the time.

This guy used a mental condition of mine to make me look 'crazy', claimed I'd made it all up so that the spotlight was off him and on me. While turning our then group of friends against me he made up fake accounts to torment me, got burner phones to call and text me, posted all sorts of things online to laugh at me and worst of all made an obituary page about me, it even had my picture. Fucking psycho he was.

From about 2000-2011

I was just completely lost.

My mum's illness ( systemic lupus). She became ill when I was 7 yo and it dictated my entire childhood. She died when I was 10 weeks pregnant with dd1. Her illness also changed her at the end. If loved to have been free of the worry and to know my mum pain-free.

I'd wipe out the bit from just after finding I was pregnant. Keeping my wonderful dc but eradicating the abusive DP. My life would have improved out of all recognition.

When i was 29 i went out with a friend of a friend. He dumped me (his prerogative) but with a ludicrously inaccurate character assessment of me, which mutual friends understood as the reason we had not worked. I was destroyed by it. Mutual friend and my flatmate carried on socialising with him and inviting him over when i wasnt there. I felt so worthless that i ended up in a relationship with an emotionally abusive manipulator. Still dealing with the fallout from that.
Im fine now but i want to go back in time and never go out with that guy. He was so right on, so woke (in 1999) but v cruel to me. Those two conflicting pieces of information made me feel even more worthless. That he was "good" but binned me off so cruelly.

If only i could undo it but hey.

Different father, or if he dropped dead when I was born or I could delete everything before 16 years of age, totally ruined my life, I wonder how I would be if I had had a nice normal upbringing but I will never know, makes me very sad that I'm this person I didnt need to be and have kept everything bottled up for all my life.

Never drank alcohol. Wish I realised I could do better at school.
Married my husband.

My siblings.

@Nousernameforme I'm really interested in your post as I've had a really similar experience resulting in years of terror and unable to do 'normal' things like go to a shop or get on a train.
Do you think that conversation you had caused it all?

I would have had kids at 24 instead of 34. Perhaps then I’d have been able to have more than one.

I'd have liked to have skipped the years when my DSC were teenagers and I had a mental breakdown because of them.

Different parents and not developing a disability and chronic pain

I would wipe out my school life from 9 - 16, I was horrifically bullied, it still affects my mental health now & I am 53, I never did as well at school as I could have done & I'm sure it is because of the bullying. I would also wipe out my marriage because it was a car crash waiting to happen from day one .

I would erase being sexually assaulted by my friend when I was 17. I was asleep at the time and the fact that I can never know exactly what happened to me is hard to accept

My years 15-19, similar situation to you op. I also wish I'd not left home at 16 and wish I'd gone to uni.

Not to have considered adoption only for it to fail. We had a 7 year old with us for 7 weeks who I loved. I am almost grieving currently.

I’ve been thinking about another one

More recently. I’d have rung the airline to move my flight.

I met a guy in a bar when j was on my way to the airport. I’ve never clicked like that with anyone - same weird hobby (he mentioned it first, otherwise I’d have been suspicious that someone else I could meet so randomly would like the same thing, even to the point of us having taken identical photos of a thing from identical angles, in an obscure country with one of the lowest tourism rates ever, around 6 months apart), same age, from same home city, now living as expats on different sides of the world following similar career paths. I was 4 hours from going to the airport to fly home. He was heading to see one of my all time bucket list things the following day.

He walked me back to my hotel to get my bags to go to the airport and he touched my arm and said ‘come with me tomorrow. Move your flight and come with me’

I’d got an extra 2 days booked off work anyway so that wouldn’t have mattered, id have just been tired when I went back. There were no other pressing reasons why not to, other than changing plans for a man I’d just met seemed weird and something I’d never considered may be an option.

But what if. If nothing else, I’d have got to see that place.

I’ve thought about him a lot since.

I would change the events that lead to me developing "Pure O" OCD/Anxiety disorder.