If you would wipe out a piece of your life so it never affected you what would it be?

[WhatAMum01]

I'd never have fell for a much older guy when I was a teenager, we had a relationship if you can call it that ,but now on reflection as an adult makes my skin crawl ,he took advantage.cant believe how naive I was.it affects me to this day 25 years later.i know I'd be a different person if it hadn't happened.

Being raped when I was 13. It messed up my attitude to sex and relationships for many years and I missed out and made bad choices as a result.

Shit, better not fuck up being a mother judging by these responses!

@Hidingtonothing - I'm so sorry that happened to you

This sounds terrible but if i could wipe out a part of my life so it no longer affected it me it would be when my first baby died. Some of his organs hadnt grown so he wasnt viable with life and died 2 hours after he was born

I have had 2 more DC since him and it hurts every day seeing them and knowing they should have a big brother

If i could just have it where it never even happened life would be easier. Every pregnancy i had after him i was terrified the baby would die, i dont enjoy being pregnant because its so scary

I love him and if i could have him here i would but i cant so i honestly wish i just didnt have the memorys its so painful and its a life sentance

My parents.
Their abuse destroyed my pride, self-esteem & confidence.
I am what they said I'd become. Worthless, useless & pathetic.

What a waste of a life.

The incident that terrified me for years that I overate to try to cope with.

I still can't get out of the overeating loop now, and it was more than 30 years ago.

I’m so sorry @ Blippolbblopp. The way you feel sounds completely understandable.

There are a few times in my life when I wish I'd made a different decision - applied to a different university, for example. But I don't want to erase the university I did go to - I had a great time there and met some lovely friends, and who knows if the other university really would have been better. So I think I agree with PP - I want to keep the life I have. I like my life and I like me.

Having the flu a few years ago. I feel like it has caused me all sorts of ongoing problems, including health anxiety.

I have trichotillomania, a compulsive hair pulling disorder. If I could erase that, my entire life would have been different/easier/better.

My mother's death. Easy. She would still be here and I wouldn't have PTSD.

My eating disorder but there are others too that come close.

Alcohol

The bit where I had breast cancer...

I became sexually active way too young. Looking back now I realise that I was groomed.
The shame still stays with me now, it happened 23 years ago.

I wouldn't have had an abortion aged 23. I was in a bad place with men, and had no idea who the father was. That abortion has haunted me and resulted in serious depression for 16 years.

I'd have a different mother. I was sexually abused before I could talk. With her help and knowledge. She had 2 other paedophile friends, too. She also did the same to her little sister.
I'd keep my df and my maternal gf, though. They were both emotionally abused by their wives who appeared to try and destroy them.
The repercussions have been grim - a much older abusive fiancé, followed by a 'd' h who wanted to know all. Just so he could do it, the abuse, better.
Hopefully this time next year I'll be divorced.

@WhatAMum01 before I even read your answer I had exactly the same one! I was 17, he was 40. We were "together" for three years. At the time I thought it was fine. Now I look back and shudder. Feel ill. I don't want to regret anything in my life because I like who I am now but if that could be wiped away without any damage or changing anything I would totally do it.

Nothing - it has all made me who I am today

I would erase the years 17-19. Looking back now I was depressed and should have seeked some help and done things differently.
It wasn’t until I had my son when I was 21 that I truly felt like I had a purpose in life. Otherwise I felt like I had nothing going for me.

Selling my house/staying married.

@newtb I have no words for your pain and what you must have suffered , heartbreaking ☹️

I would erase everything from the age of 16 and completely start over giving myself a really good talking to in the process.
The first thing I would do would be to leave home and move as far away from the abusive parents as was humanly possible.
I made too many bad choices trying to get away from them and it sort of coloured my whole life going forward and not in a good way.

I wouldn’t meet my e husband. A

I’d have left DH the first time I suspected him being unfaithful. I was naive and wanting to see the best in the situation, and believed his bullshit

Now, 3rd time, I can see how much bullshit I’ve been fed over the years. And due to circumstances I can’t leave.

And I now have no self esteem or confidence.

DD1, I wish I’d never had her, or made different choices about her care. I was thinking the other day I wonder if my other Dc issues stem from the heartbreak of losing her, and how they’d be different if they hadn’t been through that.