To think calling calling your five year old a twat is just awful?

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When my boyfriends dd who is five acts up, her mum texts my bf saying the dd is ‘being a twat’. Aibu to find this so very inappropriate? It’s just awful.

I wouldn't say it to their face, but I've thought similarly about my kids.

I dunno, it does sound bad but i have to admit after a terrible day with my 3 year old i did tell DP through text that DS had been a shit all day

I think as long as your not saying to your child or within hearing distance then its just venting isnt it

Kids can be bloody frustrating and if by saying that via text helps as an outlet rather than shouting at / potentially flipping out or hurting the child then I can't get worked up about it.

as long as your bf’s exgf isnt calling her child a twat to her face I see no reason to worry. Whether you think it’s inappropriate or not is completely irrelevant

As long as they’re not saying anything like that to her face then I couldn’t get too worked up about it.

I don't think it's that awful, presuming she is a nice mum and doesn't say it to her dds face.

Twat isn't a word I've used, but dh and I will say to each other that the kids have been shits today.

If she’d said it to her face that would have been awful but I think what she did just showed she’s a frustrated parent who needed to vent to the child's other parent. No harm done 🤷🏼‍♀️

I say it about my kids to other adults.

Kids do behave like twats sometimes, as long as she isnt saying it to the kid its absolutely fine 🤷‍♀️

Op
I can't resist. Do you have kids? Toddlers?

As long as it’s not being said directly to the child or within earshot of the child, I can’t get worked up about it.
DH will often text me while he’s at work asking after the DCs, and it’s not unusual for me to respond with “DS is being a knob” or similar if he is indeed being a knob which 3 year olds often are!

Kids can be twats.

God I text DH all the time telling him that DS is being ‘challenging’ I’m slightly less savoury terms.

I agree with you.

The way some talk about children isn’t very nice.

However this is mumsnet so brace yourself for the posters that say it’s a snap shot, you don’t know what mum has going on in her life, maybe the cat died and she was upset that day

I prefer arsehole to twat.

^^^ only in this context though.

@Nottalotta

People say things like that all the time. She wasn't saying it to the child which would be an entirely different matter. Are you implying she is a bad parent because of what she said?

@TrixieFranklin it made me laugh far more than it should I think. Still chuckling.

Ah yes. The bf’s ex... she’ll never do right in your eyes.

Well this is straw clutching. Do you feel threatened by the ex?

Totally normal and fine as long as it's not said to, or in front of, the children.

I called my one year old a dick head to my NCT friends on whatsapp a few days ago. I stand by it 😂

Doesn't mean that I'm not an amazing mum, just means that sometimes kids are shits.

Oh god stop clutching your pearls and unclench.

My dd can be a little shit when she is in a mood. I regularly text her dad on changeover days to warn him she is behaving like a twat so he doesn't take her straight to Maccys etc for treats.

It's a text. It's a non issue.

If it was to her face then that's a whole different ball game but you need to get a grip I'm afraid

Fine as long as not said in front to or to the child; I’d congratulate any parent who has never thought it

I prefer little shits to twat. But they both mean the same. What does your bf think?

Anyway I'd say that's the least of your worries, are you still desperately in love with a gay man?