To think calling calling your five year old a twat is just awful?

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When my boyfriends dd who is five acts up, her mum texts my bf saying the dd is ‘being a twat’. Aibu to find this so very inappropriate? It’s just awful.

I second the Mate for someone you cant stand 😂

Best friend = How ya been you silly Cunt?

Someone I'm not keen on = Hello mate. Sometimes just a smile.

Something like that anyway 😂

@InsertFunnyUsername

Exactly. 😂

My kids are regularly twats and arseholes. They never hear either word but it's a great way to vent to my DH after a day of it!

Lighten up, OP.

As the others said, most kids have days where they act likes shots. Not ok to tell them that to their face but parents up and down the land will have said it to other adults.

As long as never said to the child, it's fine. DH and I often say DS age 3 has been a knob etc that day. In fact I have angrily given DS the finger when his back is turned, it's a way of venting my frustration that avoids shouting at him!

YANBU I think it’s nasty

My three year old is often a prick.

It depends, is she a twat?

Everyone acts like a twat sometimes, including children. My son was a bit of a twat at swimming today, he probably thought I was a bit of a twat too!

5 year olds can be draining. So I can see where she’s coming from. TBf a lot of people don’t know what twat means. I didn’t until a couple of weeks ago. Do you have any kids of your own?

She's obviously not saying out loud and sometimes kids can be little twats, I've had three.
how many have you got OP, have they always been little angels.

I dunno, I've told DH by text that DS,2, has been a shit, or a twat when hes had a bad day. However I would never ever say anything like that in his hearing. Never swear at him, or say any of the stuff that jumps into my head when he really pushes. Kids are hard, adults arent perfect and sometimes need to vent. Usually to another adult to stop the steam building up. If shes not saying it to her child face then no shes not doing anything wrong. If she is, well yes it is horrible.

Saying it about them to your DH or the other parent is fine. Children are insanely hard work sometimes and it makes me gain some sanity when I have a laugh with DH at the end of the day by saying "dc was a bit of a dick today" it's quite a shocking thing to say about someone you love so much who's so cute

Saying it to them or within ear shot is absolutely not fine.

Very big difference.

I assumed it was actually being said to the child and was going to say YANBU but to another adult? YABU.

Surely the whole point is that it doesn't stay always between the two people. If others see the text, it isn't a private term which you both know doesn't mean much, it becomes something worse. What if the children see it on the phone, I don't keep mine secret/

Now mine are older I try never to write down anything that would truly offend them if they accidentally saw it. Twat is not great, cunt is totally appalling, I might say such and such is being 'dick' in real life but not written down. I follow the same policy at work- only write down thing you would be prepared for others than the direct receiver to read.

Oh god OP you are one of those new girlfriends!

My five year old is being a twat right now. 🤷‍♀️

As an American I find it completely jaw-dropping that you folks call your children cunts and twats ever.

At least we don't imprison kids in disgusting detention centres without their parents and with zero outside contact for months on end so silver linings!

Also cunt and twat are not the same. Twat is a much lighter word, like dick, prick, tosser, etc. Although I'm from Glasgow so don't mind the word cunt anyway!

I might tell my dh or ex one of the kids has been a twat, but never to their faces

Personally it makes me feel quite uncomfortable and I wouldn't do it. It seems like I'm in the minority judging by this thread though!

As an American I find it completely jaw-dropping that you folks call your children cunts and twats ever

Yet "popping" is the norm and children call their fathers "sir" in the US? Yeah that's loads better

I'm just gonna say it OP - did this already annoy you or is it because it's your OH's ex?

My partner says regularly to me that his son has been a dickhead that day. Not to his face. And plus, I have seen the behaviour of some kids, running rings around their poor parents - absolutely deserving of the title.