To think calling calling your five year old a twat is just awful?

[Billiboo]

When my boyfriends dd who is five acts up, her mum texts my bf saying the dd is ‘being a twat’. Aibu to find this so very inappropriate? It’s just awful.

Awful and I would have replied asking for the language not be used. It doesn’t matter if a child can’t hear or see it.

Where I'm from (East Midlands) it means exactly the same as "twit". No rude connotations at all.

By text?!no not at all children are frustrating,do you have any?

As an American I find it completely jaw-dropping that you folks call your children cunts and twats ever. It seems incredibly sexist as well as offensive. But I know that these words have less sting in the UK.

@durgasarrow no different from calling them a prick or a dickhead and I've said both things about my children on bad days (not to their face obviously). Am I being sexist too?

Often swear words in many languages originate from slang for sexual organs...But over time their meaning or usage changes. Nothing sexist about it.

Nothing to be worried about. "Being a little shit" would have been my turn of phrase.

@Durgasarrow
The c word DEFINITELY does not have less sting in the U.K. - it still a pretty taboo word to use in general conversation Here

A lot of people in my area N.London or family from Glasgow are not offended by Cunt, So all depends where you're from etc.

Slag is more offensive to me IMO. Anyway I'm getting side tracked, I really dont think texting your childs father calling them a Twat is awful. Kids are annoying. À

I refer to my kids as shits often when talking to other adults. Twat isn’t strong enough, here it’s almost used as a general greeting amongst friends.
In the same way I might come home from work and tell my husband Linda was being a shit today.

The c word DEFINITELY does not have less sting in the U.K. - it still a pretty taboo word to use in general conversation Here

If you're talking about the word cunt, you're wrong. I dont know anyone who doesn't use it, it's a term of endearment around where I live.

My son pranked me via txt. I was in the staff room. Told people what he did. Then said stated 'dick'. What he did was dickish. No doubting that. Also a bit funny. Around here it's a well used phrase 'dickin about' etc. Seems less of a harsh word when it's thrown around a lot. Almost like saying idiot. One woman was mortified.
Hes not an actual dick. Obviously.
I wouldn't say to his face 'you son are a dick'...

Meh. I think it's quite funny actually.

I thought you were going to say she called their child a twat to her face, or in front of her.

Or maybe I would. But never admit it to MN

Most five year old act like twats a lot of the time so seems like a reasonable thing to say and I’m sure I’ve called my kids worse.

I hate it when parents say stuff like this about their children, it would never occur to me to say my DS was being a little shit or a twat.

Twats, shits, buggers, devils and besoms I wouldn’t bat an eyelid. But a friend of mine calls her daughter a little cow and I flinch every time I hear it. I wonder why that particular term of endearment is so much worse to my ears than the others.

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult
Very difficult to respond to your post without coming across as snobbish which I completely am not but 100% my background/upbringing/ workplace/peers and where I live the c word is not used and using it is absolutely frowned on...

You clearly have a problem with your boyfriends ex, maybe work on that.

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted ditto where I live. Cunt most definitively very offensive and not a term of endearment.

If you're talking about the word cunt, you're wrong. I dont know anyone who doesn't use it, it's a term of endearment around where I live.

What do you call people you can't stand, though?!

She isnt saying it to the child though is she? Just in a text. My children can sometimes be horrible. My dh came home one day and when he walked in under my breath I said "ds is being a dick today". I stand by it he was. He wasnt doing it on purpose but when you have spent hours trying to control a toddler with a death wish sometimes you are beyond frustrated. I dont say it to dc I just think it.

What do you call people you can't stand, though?!

They are the bad cunts, everyone else is a good cunt

Pretty much all my friends say things like this in jest to each other about their kids. Never to their kids faces. Unclench a little. Sometimes kids are twats

@WatcherintheRye

Here in Australia-

Cunt- friend
Mate- wanker, twat, not friend

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