To think calling calling your five year old a twat is just awful?

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When my boyfriends dd who is five acts up, her mum texts my bf saying the dd is ‘being a twat’. Aibu to find this so very inappropriate? It’s just awful.

I've heard people describe children as little shits very often. Is twat anyway worse ? If they don't call the kid twat to their face ita not nice, but not an issue either. Also kids can be twats quite often.

For what it’s worth, the word ‘twat’ seems to vary wildly in how offensive people find it.

I used ‘twat’ quite freely in many social situations until I was in my late 20s...then someone told me it was a very rude sweary word for vagina.

I thought it was just a cheekier way of calling someone a muppet.

Probably wouldn’t say it to their faces (never say never though, we’re in teen mode here, with two of our dc, and it’s teetered on the edge of my tongue a couple of times let me tell you!) I have texted dh before that ds1 was being a dickhead, because he really was!!

Op do you have kids? Because that just seems like a common enough comment one parent to another, but as long as it's not said to thr child.

Is there issues between you and the ex?

Kids act like Twats though, Arseholes too sometimes.

Aye, Trixie I've just had a quick peek at advanced search. OP, just cut your losses and leave your BF. I thought you were going to anyway when you realised he had agreed with your future plans of marriage and kids without really meaning it.

Oh get a life. My husband receives texts most days telling him his kids are being twats or arseholes. Venting and having a laugh makes it easier to crack on and deal with it. Once you've accepted you're dealing with arseholes you can manage them.

Texts from me that is, not random strangers calling his kids names

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As long as it’s not to them it wouldn’t bother me at all.

I quite often tell dh that the kids are being dicks or shits. I'd never say it to them though.

I've also been known to give them the finger once they've walked out of the room

I'm a very loving parent honestly

I don't think it's that bad. Shit or twat aren't that bad to me.

I’ve often stuck my head in a cupboard and mouthed ‘fuck off’ to my two.

I’m sure they’ve done the same to me. Family life innit 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have a 5 year old son and can confirm that at times he is a massive twat
I have sent similar texts to my ex about our son

Does she say it to her face OP?

Jeez my kids can be complete arseholes. I tell my DH all the time lol.

I prefer dick or shithead. Sometimes fuckerooney. 🤷‍♀️

I’ve often stuck my head in a cupboard and mouthed ‘fuck off’ to my two

I do this too

My 5 year old is also often a twat.

I don't say it to his face though, that would be awful.

I have often said my kids are in wanker mode to my oh when they are being very difficult. Never to their face.

There is a huge difference to sounding off and calling people direct names.

You what not put up with the chew that kids give you off anyone else ever.

Same meaning as "cunt" and I wouldn't call a child that.

My just under 18mth old bit the back of my thigh as I didn't give him a snack quick enough. Slepped my fce when I picked him up as he was crying. Pulled my hair and then screamed for 10nmin.
I love him but he was being a shit. I didn't call him it but he was. . And it's exhausting.

My almost 3yr old is often a twat, his almost teen sister is definitely a twat.
They have also been referred to as little shits, gits and the occasional arsehole.

It's just a word, and I think twat is quite mild. If she was screaming it in his face id get your point, but in a text to the other parent, it's a non issue.

I wouldn't get over excited about it , I've been called far worse as a child and it's had no lasting effect on me.

Do you have kids yourself op?
I often mutter under my breath to dp "one of the kids has been a twat for the last half hour" if we have had a particularly bad day.
I would never in my wildest dreams say anything like that to their face. It's ok to have a moan.
If we were separated then I wouldn't be able to mutter it under my breath so it would be a txt.
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