To be unbelievably pissed off

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Travelled 3.5 hours to see OHs friends for the weekend . Toddler and heavily pregnant .

Left early Quick pasty lunch on motorway Plus sand which for toddler .

Arrive straight to OH friends . Sit for a bit . Agreed before we left that toddler ( and I ) must eat a proper meal before we go to an outdoors event .

Long story short . Didn’t get a proper meal as he didn’t plan properly and no time to eat and seemed happy to let eating go , couldn’t make scene in front of his friends . My toddler has had a bag of chips for tea . The half hour event actually lasted three hours in the freezing cold . The toddler has gone to sleep without eating . We are still waiting for some food , and I feel sick .

AIBU for being completely pissed off with him for making us miss a meal and keeping us outside in the fucking freezing cold for hours longer than we were told .

Do men know what the fuck pregnancy feels like .

Plus my poor kid had a bag of chips for his evening meal .I’m so angry right now .

Why the fuck did I agree to even come here some may ask

Id be pissed off but I probably would have taken toddler to go get a proper meal regardless of what DP was doing

No, I’d be annoyed too,but perhaps you can sort it yourself and leave them to it?

Can you leave and go to eat with your toddler?

I would have taken the toddler for something to eat once it was clear nothing was clearly forthcoming.

Toddler now in bed . So conked put no point in waking him to feed him . I couldn’t leave as I didn’t know where the hell I am .

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Food is usually easy to find these days. Especially with a mobile phone

A bag of chips as an occasional thing isn’t the worst thing in the world. The lack of organisation and thought would piss me off though.

Calm down. He was just a bit thoughtless. Hope he's not normally like this? Tell him to phone out for a takeaway if you still haven't eaten. Toddler will be ok; at least he's had a sandwich and some chips to eat today. I do hope OH has got food arranged for tomorrow though? And refuse to go out in the cold tomorrow. You won't do this again in a hurry, will you? And no, YANBU.

You had a pasty for lunch and toddler had chips for dinner. Not the most nutritious meal but sufficient in a pinch, pregnant or not.

Couldn’t leave with toddler regardless . He fing refused to let us bring his pushchair and I wouldn’t have been able to carry the kid

3.5 hours in the car and heavily pregnant? Fuck that , I'd have stayed home

Phone for a takeaway ?

I guessing it was a bonfire ?

I’d be pissed off too OP.

Did OH’s friend not have anything at his house for you or did you not feel like asking? Are you staying at the friend’s house or elsewhere?

JustEat or Deliveroo - get on their websites and type in where you are. Hope you manage to get some food soon and hope your toddler can have a lovely big breakfast in the morning.

Yes ordered food that’s not the issue .

Just really angry at the planning when made it clear that we need time to eat properly . And I categorically said NO to the bag of chips

Staying in hotel . Arrived at friends house and didn’t ask , as they have a newborn . Didn’t so much as get offered a cup of tea there , so wasn’t worth asking about food .

Is it normal for people to not offer a drink when someone visits ! I’m not complaining , cuz of the newborn, so didn’t want to put them out and ask for anything .

If he was expecting you not to eat then of course that's awful

However I would have said something (I'm going to be sick if I dont eat soon, can we order something/ have you got any toast) and also I wouldn't care about toddler having chips for dinner if it's an occasional thing. Nutrition should be measured over a few days not an individual meal so as long as the toddler eats fine the rest of the time, and has eaten enough chips not to feel hungry, I don't see an issue with that

Yes the planning or lack of it sounds utterly shit. For them to know you’re pregnant and expecting food and then completely ignoring that request is thoughtless and poor hosting.

It depends whether you just stopped there before leaving for the outdoor event or whether you were there long enough for a meal and cup of tea etc. I’m guessing you would’ve had time for both but they just didn’t bother!

That is terribly bad manners if you ask me - by OH’s friend but also by your OH! He should’ve just asked his friend for you, if he knows the person well and you perhaps don’t.

Yabu
Chips are an ok meal as a one off. Your toddler is obviously not hungry on them if they have gone to sleep.

Why didnt your dh say something-next time just say we'd rather eat first and im pregnant

Too late now but on another occasion I would make sure that I had snacks etc. with me for the toddler (and possibly for me).

I never went anywhere without breadsticks, fruit, squeezy pouches, raisins, babybel, cereal bars etc. I wouldn't necessarily win any gourmet catering awards but would keep the toddler going if meals were delayed or not as planned.

A sandwich and chips isn't ideal but is fine as a one-off. Hope you get some food now and can relax.

The event didn’t let us take any thing in ! Forget food !!

I had no idea that would happen

Felt sorry for you about most things , but toddler refused to let you take the pushchair... what?

It would have been nice for your OH to be thinking of you and your needs, but you should have used your words and made it clear that you were hungry and needed to feed the toddler. You could've bought a sandwich somewhere en route easily.