Can I ask my bf for a loan?

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I wrote on another thread about my various financial problems, so I won't repeat but I'm skint and have no money (none not even on the credit card!) till Thursday when dp gets paid. It's my DS' birthday party tomorrow and I have nothing in. Not even eggs to make a cake.
My bestie lives locally and we have been friends since primary school. She's probably the only person apart from my Dm who I can be completely myself around. She's pretty sure that she has autism as well as social anxiety and things have been pretty hard for her. She lives with her parents and hasn't had a LTR. She's had the opportunity but I think she's worried about feeling trapped.

Sometimes I think it's ironic how we probably crave a bit of one the other one has. She's nearly always alone, when I would love some time to myself. I'm always skint whilst she gets her whole paycheck to spend on clothes, holidays and concert tickets. I never have any time whilst she says she's often bored and wants someone to go out with (probs not two kids though!)
She comes over every Friday night and we eat (I cook) and have a laugh till 2am (dp usually has to come down and tell us to make less noise as he has work the next day ) Then I drive her home. Not virtue signalling but I pay for everything food, beers, chocolate, meals out on her bday, cinema tickets if it's a film I want to see. I never ask for anything because she's my friend and also it makes things awkward. His many threads are there about friends and money?
Now I'm in complete dire straights, could I ask her for £50? I've never asked for any money before (she's never either.) My worst fear is that it would makes things hella awkward and ruin this lovely relationship.

feel my priorities are correct

Your family should be the priority along with working more given you are having to rely on other tax payers re benefits. Inviting that many guests the a party and then not feeding them is wrong.

If a works event couldn’t have taken place then it just doesn’t take place. Staff aren’t expected to cover the costs.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss how do you know how many hours I work?

I'm still agog at lack of eggs being mentioned up front and when reasonable suggestions are made all of sudden all the kids are bloody vegan!

Well quite. Reasonable suggestions aren’t allowed to work on these type of threads... it doesn’t follow the narrative.

Someone earlier mentioned the OPs other thread and OP mentioned it herself and on there she wanted to give the kids cheese sandwiches as well as having no eggs so I wondered too at the vegan kids. Mine are veggie and usually the only ones out of a group of 30. No vegans at all so I'm a bit at 7 vegan children at one party. If half the group are vegan you'd make a vegan cake or buy one if you hadn't spent your money on a fundraiser for work and beer and chocolate for a mate. You definitely wouldn't be worrying about eggs and cheese sandwiches.

I guess you hadn't prepped for a no-deal brexit OP? If you had you'd have had a cupboard full of chick peas to make hummus and would have had aqua faba too, Bread flour and yeast to make bread for sandwiches, plenty of jams, tinned fruit, tinned veg, pizza bases, biscuits, soft drinks, crisps and treats. Those of us who prepared were mocked but brexit hasn't happened yet but that stockpile is also great for times of financial hardship, illness, unexpected bills, bad weather etc. Maybe head over to the brexit stockpiling threads to get some ideas of how you can insure against having no food in the house in future if this kind of situation happens again. It's really helped me.

OP, it’s a rubbish position to be in. I’d be tempted to postpone party until after you have been paid. I’m hoping your little one is too young to know the difference. Make a big fuss of him tomorrow though. I can’t think this has been a great experience for you so as others have said it’s worth rethinking your priorities so that friends, fund raising, kids parties comes second to you just not being stuck like this ever again. You sound too generous for your own good. Hope you get things sorted - wishing the best for you and your little one.

my best friend and i happily lend each other £50 every now and again. it’s worth an ask, but if she lends it to you make sure you budget for the sackcloth and ashes you’ll obviously have to wear for daring to be a bit short of money.

I think so long as you only did it once rather than regularly and paid her back and if you'd do the same for her then yes I'd consider that to be fine. I have lent to a friend in a similarish circumstance and offered to lend money to a friend in similar situation.

I will

I don't believe the bf never pays for anything and when it's her round just sits there and OP just coughs up again.
The OP has only said she pays when it's BF's birthday (quite normal) and when BF comes to her house(again quite normal). Several pps have asked does BF ever pay for anything and been ignored. I struggle to believe between close friends, nothing would be said and this would be their norm.
As pp has said, part of the narrative maybe?