Ds’s friend stayed for sleepover and no ones come to collect him

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Ds’s friend (both 10) stayed for a sleepover last night after they went trick or treating together. They’ve been friends since nursery so we know him very well and know the parents fairly well. We don’t socialise with them but the boys often have sleepovers at each other’s house. Sometimes we will do the school run for each other. We always chat in the playground.

Friends df works night shifts so we agreed to have him stay as his dm is away with work. He said he will be back to pick him up today between 10.30/11 as he needs to drop him off at his grandparents before lunch.

It’s after 1pm now and he’s not here. It’s very unlike him. They’ve never been this late before. If ever they were running late they’d always call and let us know.

I’ve tried the df’s mobile several times and left a message. I’ve also tried the dm but hers is just going to vml. I don’t what else to do, if anything.

Obviously, I’ve given the boys lunch and they’re very happy playing video games. Should I be doing something else?

It’s not ok for him to have just fallen asleep tho is it?!

Gosh. Surely the child is getting quite anxious by now? Any mutual friends / other parents you could get in touch with?

It's not just the dad though-the Gps must be getting worried!

But you think he would have stirred at some point in the last 5 hours and jumped awake realising he’d have forgotten his son

Sometimes, you wake up and need to pee or are hungry or hear a noise or something yes....sometimes I can wake up 5-6 hrs later and I have hardly moved to the point it aches when I have to get out of bed. It's not predictable and it depends a lot on how many nights he has done, how busy they have been, how well he slept the other nights there is honestly very little pattern to it for me anyway

Goingbacktokansascity OP has explained about that previously

Gosh, I hope you're ok OP. What a worrying and stressful situation.

Making me wonder how many kids have their Grandparents numbers in their phone.

My dd has since her first cheap phone at age 8. She would definitely be able to text all grandparents now at age 11 and would have at age 10.

@diddl - that's what I was thinking. The Grandparents are probably trying to reach him too!

To whoever said the child should know his grandparents #....

I don't know my childrens mobile # 🥴

Bookmarking - hope all is ok!

None of my kids would know their grandparents addresses or phone numbers. But that's because both sets of grandparents live a long way away, and we see them occasionally, not every week. Just because SOME posters see grandparents almost every day or rely on grandparents to pick children up from school or whatever, don't assume that everyone's situation is the same as your own.

It’s not ok for him to have just fallen asleep tho is it?

No it's not but that doesn't mean it isn't want happened people are saying it's to late he has slept to long I'm just trying to put the other side across. When I do nights it's normal for me to sleep till 16-17.00

Goodness - I hope everything is fine. There have been threads like this in the past and they've always been fine in the end so hopefully this is the same.

Hope all turns out ok?

Gosh I hope it is just a case that the father has fallen asleep. Grandparents must be worried too.

But to add I'm 27 and don't know my grandparents number or address despite visiting weekly I just know where the house is.

I would be SUPER pissed off if I were put in this position.

That's the trouble with having mobiles now, nobody knows anybody's numbers by heart. Also, fewer people have landlines, as they get free minutes on their mobiles.

Hope he is ok and that it doesn’t ruin your evening too

Hope you get some information soon OP. I'd be worried too but more than likely Dad has fallen asleep like others have said.

I find it a bit ridiculous and reckless for a 10 year old to not know either the phone number or the address of his GPs.

Well, the dad said he was going to take the boy to his GPs, which suggests that boy doesn't usually take himself there on his own.

It also depends on how involved GPs are in childcare and how near they live as to whether it's necessary for a child to need that information. My GPs were a car journey away, so there was absolutely no need for me to know their address at 10 years old as I was never going to be going there without my parents at that age.

That's the trouble with having mobiles now, nobody knows anybody's numbers by heart.

This is true. I barely know my own number let alone anyone else's. Despite visiting people regularly I don't know anyone's home address except my own.

It’s not ok for him to have just fallen asleep tho is it?!

No but these things do happen. Have you ever done shift work?

I don't know my mother's phone number or those of my children.

I do, however, know my childhood phone number and that of my closest friend from 40 years ago.

I hope everything is okay!

If this was my son and I was away with work, I would want to know so do not think it was OTT to call the mum's office.

I've had this in my watch list & just came back to check for the update that dad had turned up rather sheepishly but surprised to see that's not the case. Really hope all is ok OP, child is returned safely to very apologetic father & you're able to enjoy yourselves tonight.