Ds’s friend stayed for sleepover and no ones come to collect him

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Ds’s friend (both 10) stayed for a sleepover last night after they went trick or treating together. They’ve been friends since nursery so we know him very well and know the parents fairly well. We don’t socialise with them but the boys often have sleepovers at each other’s house. Sometimes we will do the school run for each other. We always chat in the playground.

Friends df works night shifts so we agreed to have him stay as his dm is away with work. He said he will be back to pick him up today between 10.30/11 as he needs to drop him off at his grandparents before lunch.

It’s after 1pm now and he’s not here. It’s very unlike him. They’ve never been this late before. If ever they were running late they’d always call and let us know.

I’ve tried the df’s mobile several times and left a message. I’ve also tried the dm but hers is just going to vml. I don’t what else to do, if anything.

Obviously, I’ve given the boys lunch and they’re very happy playing video games. Should I be doing something else?

I find it a bit ridiculous and reckless for a 10 year old to not know either the phone number or the address of his GPs

I don't. I know very few numbers or addresses by heart myself. I would in fact be extraordinarily surprised if many 10 year olds knew any phone numbers other than 999 and with luck their own.

Just seen the thread here and keeping my fingers crossed that the Dad has just been a bit of a prat and forgotten to reset his alarm!

Hope your DH has a positive update for you soon OP

Sure he's just fell asleep. He'll be mortified when your husband wakes him I'm sure!

It's possible when Dad came home he totally forgot about the arrangements for ds, so is blissfully sleeping.

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We are going to see Wicked at The Apollo. I guess in a worse case scenario, I could give the tickets to my parents to go instead of us. We live on the outskirts of London and it’s only about 40 mins away from us by train, which I’m sure they can manage.

I have called the dm’s office now and the receptionist is trying to get a message to dm.

I would have driven over there long before now, you can fit all 4 kids in the car. In fact in the time you spent creating and updating this thread you could have easily have done it several times over 😕

I suspect at some point you're going to get a very sheepish dad on your doorstep!

Or the police.

Honestly, I would have contacted the mum’s office hours ago. I know two people (not old!) who have suffered totally unexpected heart attacks in the last 6 months who were both home alone. Both died. I see no downsides to a quick phone call to her office double checking everything is ok, but see ignoring his absence as being potentially far more damaging.

I think everyone is being a bit over dramatic tbh. I certainly wouldn't be trying to call people at work to check they've been telling the truth or to get contact details for where they are staying which I very much doubt their employers will give you.

He's probably overslept - and this is not by 4 or 5 hours over a normal time to sleep if he's worked a night shift, rather longer than he said he'd be. By far and away the most likely explanation is that he's fallen asleep with phone on silent. If he's not at home when your dh goes to check then that would be time to worry but until then I really think everyone needs to calm down....

hope it's good news

Occam's Razor suggests he just fell asleep and didn't set an alarm.
I hope all is well and that you get your night out!

I'm sure he's just sleeping, it's happened to me, almost the same scenario (minus the theatre tickets) the dad was mortified when he woke about 3pm!

If it does turn out he's merrily slept through his alarm or 'forgotten' about the arrangements I'd be mighty pissed off if I were you, OP!

I don't think an usually unanxious 10 would get worried until he starts to realise until he's finished having fun with his friend or gets bored of what they are doing.

He might suddenly wonder why his dad didn't tell you the grandparent's address (if you said that's what his dad asked).

That aside, you need to start trying to find the grandparents or contact either parents work.

Poor kid. I'd go crazy at the dad!

As a long standing night worker I have overslept before but not to that extent. It is a worry and you are doing the right thing

Does the boy know his home phone number? Maybe that would ring louder and wake the dad up if he’s asleep?

I hope your DH gets an answer from a sleepy dad when he knocks

I get everyone is saying they have never overslept by this long but it's 15.00! That's still a perfectly normal time to be asleep post nights.

So yes he was meant to be awake by 1100 but if he hasnt set an alarm then really he probably isn't at a point where he would naturally be waking up yet.

Can your parents not watch him alongside your son tonight so you can go theatre? If they don’t show up by then

I worked nights for a while, and once I was supposed to be picking dp and my bro up. I was just dead to the world, slept through my alarms, phonecalls and only woke up when dp burst into the room panicking, something had happened to me.

There's just something about night shift, you either have insomnia or sleep like you've taken a horse tranquiliser.

Hopefully all will be ok

I am sure it will all be ok, but I would be worried in your position too. I feel for the boy as you can only play it off for so long.

It’s not an unreasonable time to be asleep after a night shift. But you think he would have stirred at some point in the last 5 hours and jumped awake realising he’d have forgotten his son

I bet the dad has just fallen asleep.

Still if that's the case he owes you a big apology and some flowers at the least!

Hope it's all resolved in time for your evening out and that it's nothing bad.

Hopefully he is just asleep

I get everyone is saying they have never overslept by this long but it's 15.00! That's still a perfectly normal time to be asleep post nights

Yep! When I did nights I finished at 7:30am do home for 8am, sort kids, do school run, home for a cup of tea and in bed for 10am. The east lies I ever woke was about 4pm but it wasn't unusual for me to sleep past 6pm - especially as I never got to sleep straight away and would ready for half an hour or so.