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Ds’s friend stayed for sleepover and no ones come to collect him

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YabaDabaBoo · 01/11/2019 13:16

Ds’s friend (both 10) stayed for a sleepover last night after they went trick or treating together. They’ve been friends since nursery so we know him very well and know the parents fairly well. We don’t socialise with them but the boys often have sleepovers at each other’s house. Sometimes we will do the school run for each other. We always chat in the playground.

Friends df works night shifts so we agreed to have him stay as his dm is away with work. He said he will be back to pick him up today between 10.30/11 as he needs to drop him off at his grandparents before lunch.

It’s after 1pm now and he’s not here. It’s very unlike him. They’ve never been this late before. If ever they were running late they’d always call and let us know.

I’ve tried the df’s mobile several times and left a message. I’ve also tried the dm but hers is just going to vml. I don’t what else to do, if anything.

Obviously, I’ve given the boys lunch and they’re very happy playing video games. Should I be doing something else?

OP posts:
LonginesPrime · 01/11/2019 15:46

I'm so glad Wicked isn't ruined!

Somebodystired · 01/11/2019 15:46

Ah poor little boy must be getting so worried. I hope it all resolves itself soon OP.

cheesewitheverything · 01/11/2019 15:46

Phew. Thank you so much for the update, OP!

Drum2018 · 01/11/2019 15:47

After all that you'll need a bottle of gin tonight! Enjoy the show.

GPatz · 01/11/2019 15:47

Would have helped if he had let you know the boys uncle was going to pick him up, so you would have been prepared for a potential stranger turning up to collect the friend.

itswinetime · 01/11/2019 15:47

And the grandparents didn't thing to ring the brother?

Oh well all's well that ends well make sure someone calls the mum because she is about to be scared half to death with voicemails texts and messages from work

itsgettingweird · 01/11/2019 15:47

Phew. I'm sure we've all been there. I know I've forgotten ds from after school club once and on,he remembered when I got home and was drinking coffee - and it was quiet Wink

FWIW I think you handled it well. Not worth upsetting a little boy for no reason and DF obviously had no intention of abandoning his son!

stucknoue · 01/11/2019 15:47

Phew!!! There's a lot of over invested people following this thread!

Poor man, he will be mortified but no harm done - sounds like the boys enjoyed their day too

MotherofTerriers · 01/11/2019 15:48

Maybe phone the mum's work and tell them all is well

HaveeeeYouMetTed · 01/11/2019 15:49

What a relief :)

Now, enjoy your evening!

DarlingNikita · 01/11/2019 15:49

Yay!

Enjoy the show.

YabaDabaBoo · 01/11/2019 15:51

IWorkAtTheCheescakeFactory

I’m sure! It is usually the boys dm that does nearly all the pick ups/drop offs and school runs. Dh did say he looks absolutely shattered and was obviously expecting his db to pick up and ds so it must have been a shock for him. Poor grandparents as well, they must have been worried sick. I wonder why they didn’t think to call the db?

OP posts:
JoanLewis · 01/11/2019 15:51

I still remember the time my mum forgot to pick me up from school (she thought a friend's mum was picking me up to take us both to ballet).

MiddleClassProblem · 01/11/2019 15:51

Would have been useful if he’d let you know someone else was collecting DS.

Kahlua4me · 01/11/2019 15:52

What a relief for you all, enjoy the show.

TheRobinIsBobbingAlong · 01/11/2019 15:52

You'd think that if the GPs were worried about not being able to reach their son then they'd call their other son to see if he knew anything, or to share their concerns (thus prompting the other son to remember he had to pick up). Maybe they just weren't that worried.

YabaDabaBoo · 01/11/2019 15:53

GPatz

That’s a point actually. He never told me the boy was being picked up by anyone else and I’ve never met his db. Don’t think I would have been comfortable sending him home with a stranger (to me). I would of phoned to double check anyway

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UnfamousPoster · 01/11/2019 15:54

Thank goodness for that. I suspect DB is in for a few choice words!

Well done for not worrying the boy though OP, he'll hopefully not have any clue as to the drama that's been caused and has simply had a nice day with your DS. As @JoanLewis has said, when you're a kid, feeling like you've been forgotten stays with you an awfully long time so at least he doesn't have that problem.

On the plus side, at least the DF has now had a decent day's sleep and OP will get her night out at the theatre with a very large glass of wine or two!

itswinetime · 01/11/2019 15:55

Makes you wonder if the brother is getting the blame for the dad making a massive mistake

YabaDabaBoo · 01/11/2019 15:55

Would have phoned that is!

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PuppyMonkey · 01/11/2019 15:55

What a crap brother - and yes, grandparents must have been trying to contact him too if they knew he was supposed to be dropping off.Confused

DizzyCow63 · 01/11/2019 15:55

Oh my goodness, it really is quite worrying now. Hoping you get a response from one of his parents soon.

DizzyCow63 · 01/11/2019 15:56

Ooops missed the last update 😳

Prinny1 · 01/11/2019 15:56

I was thinking the same @itswinetime!

Hollywolly1 · 01/11/2019 15:56

It is good that all is well but.....when your child is away being minded by grand parents or friends I think it is very irresponsible to just turn phone on silent like what if there was an emergency.I think that's the bit that would make me very angry