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Ds’s friend stayed for sleepover and no ones come to collect him

384 replies

YabaDabaBoo · 01/11/2019 13:16

Ds’s friend (both 10) stayed for a sleepover last night after they went trick or treating together. They’ve been friends since nursery so we know him very well and know the parents fairly well. We don’t socialise with them but the boys often have sleepovers at each other’s house. Sometimes we will do the school run for each other. We always chat in the playground.

Friends df works night shifts so we agreed to have him stay as his dm is away with work. He said he will be back to pick him up today between 10.30/11 as he needs to drop him off at his grandparents before lunch.

It’s after 1pm now and he’s not here. It’s very unlike him. They’ve never been this late before. If ever they were running late they’d always call and let us know.

I’ve tried the df’s mobile several times and left a message. I’ve also tried the dm but hers is just going to vml. I don’t what else to do, if anything.

Obviously, I’ve given the boys lunch and they’re very happy playing video games. Should I be doing something else?

OP posts:
Paraballa · 01/11/2019 15:40

I'd have gone and knocked by now. Don't miss your night out!

hairymclarey152 · 01/11/2019 15:40

Even if they were away it's highly unlikely to leave your child with someone else and not be contactable.

wigglybluelines · 01/11/2019 15:41

You're doing all the right things OP. I also imagine the Dad's fallen sleep. I hope your DH finds him easy to wake up!

BadgerBadgerMushroom · 01/11/2019 15:41

Hope it all sorts itself out OP

MotherofTerriers · 01/11/2019 15:41

Could you tell the child his dad must be asleep so you want to take him to his grandparents. Ask him whether he can remember about where they live. Near a park, near a church etc. Google earth might help, show him images see if he recognises anything. Any other relatives you might be able to track down on Facebook?

LonginesPrime · 01/11/2019 15:42

I suspect that the mum isn't always away with work and that the dad isn't used to staying up after his night shift, so is fast asleep. He's probably not used to having to run around and do pickups after work (and may well be extra tired if he's had to pick up more slack than usual at home) so his body has decided otherwise.

Longtalljosie · 01/11/2019 15:42

The DH will be knocking around now. I used to wake up around 3.30pm after night shifts, so hopefully the Dad will hear

Llioed · 01/11/2019 15:42

Did the OP’s husband go and knock on DS’s friend’s door? I hope the dad was just asleep after nightshift.

Kahlua4me · 01/11/2019 15:42

That does sound worrying.

I think that if there is no reply when dh arrives he should ring the police. Do you know where he works? If so you could ring there and ask if he worked last night.

Encyclo · 01/11/2019 15:43

It's the night out part of the scenario that's making me most anxious. I'd hate it if the OP missed her night out due some CFery. Especially as it's a logistical nightmare to rearrange

YabaDabaBoo · 01/11/2019 15:43

Ok, all is well.

Dh knocked on the door and after waiting several minutes, dad opens the door looking startled and shocked. Obviously he had just woken up. Dh tell him what time it is, boys df runs upstairs to check his phone and sees loads of missed calls from us and grandparents.

It turns out that the df has been doing night shifts all week and hasn’t had much sleep due to his ds being on half term. After dropping the boy at ours yeaterday, he phoned his brother and asked him if he could collect the boy from us in the morning and drop him at their parents, so he could catch up on some sleep. His brother has completely forgotten and the df put his phone on silent so didnt hear the calls.

He’s obviously mortified and dh said he was massively apologetic and embarrassed by the whole thing. They’re both on their way here now.

Huge relief for all of us and I’m sure he’ll explain properly when he comes. I’m just glad everything ok and it wasn’t something sinister.

OP posts:
QueenOfToast · 01/11/2019 15:43

Fingers crossed here for an embarrassed oversleeping dad end to this story.

DoulaDaisy · 01/11/2019 15:44

Fingers crossed the boy's father was just asleep at home and no harm has come to him.

QueenOfToast · 01/11/2019 15:44

Hooray x-post

DoulaDaisy · 01/11/2019 15:44

Just read the update. Thank goodness.

Encyclo · 01/11/2019 15:45

@jollie99 I wouldn't stress too much. This has happened to me countless times with my son's friends. He will turn up soon and probably be quite sheepish (or not as has happened to me in the past!)
Also I bet they're quite happy playing together.

Did you miss the part where they need to leave for a rare night out? I'd be livid and massively anxious

Sallyseagull · 01/11/2019 15:45

Great news.

Carrotsontrees · 01/11/2019 15:45

Thank God. What a relief

BrendasUmbrella · 01/11/2019 15:45

I hope everything is ok - I expect the DH isn't used to "wife work" brain and is snoring his head off with his phone turned off.

And I hope you get to your musical on time! If this man is dead to the world when your DH knocks, perhaps the boy knows where his DGP's live and your Dh can drop him off while you get ready. It's not like you can shield him from what's going on much longer.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 01/11/2019 15:45

What a relief.

Right time to get ready for your night out OP!

jayho · 01/11/2019 15:45

Phew! Been massively over-invested... Great outcome

Encyclo · 01/11/2019 15:45

What a relief!

HarrietsHat · 01/11/2019 15:46

Oh thank goodness for that! Now I can get back to work. Seriously, a car pulled up outside my house and I thought oh thank god that's the boy's dad now!

IWorkAtTheCheescakeFactory · 01/11/2019 15:46

His brother has completely forgotten

Shock poor dad!! He’ll be having some words with his brother! Grin

BrendasUmbrella · 01/11/2019 15:46

x-posted.

I'm glad it worked out. Enjoy your night!