Or is OH?

[nicannie]

Hormones might be kicking in - in 21w pregnant!

Anyways, today I cut the top of a pumpkin off, to place on the top of my dogs head and take a quick Halloween photo. I thought it was cute and no harm done right? WRONG.

OH saw the photo, totally freaked out. Told me he didn't want to speak or hear from me and that he would see me when he got home. He didn't like the thought of the dog having a bit of pumpkin in his head, I get he doesn't like having any outfits or what not on the dogs but cmon? Anyways, I told him he overreacted and asked who shat in his cornflakes, which didn't go down well.

Now he's told me after his work he's coming home to collect the dogs from our house and go take them to his Mums and stay there (didn't specify for how long mind you). His mum has always wanted to keep our dogs for herself, she steps on my toes with everything whenever she can which is why this has annoyed me even more!

AIBU to have did that with the pumpkin and take the photo? Or is he BU to react the way he has and tell me he's coming home taking the dogs away from me and stay at his mums leaving me in the house on my own when he knows that will really upset me....

Now I've written this out, it seems really silly. But it has actually got me quite worked up and upset.

Don't worry, people always jump to the OW assumption here.
My guess is he was having a bad day and you caught him at the wrong time and he snapped.

If it's out of character just wait until he gets in touch and I'm sure you'll sort things out.

He would've taken the dogs if he genuine wanted to leave.

@AmIThough thank you. I truly believe there is no OW. I know it sounds cliche but he's one of those ones who has always said he would pack up n leave before he went elsewhere. He's really against the whole cheating and lying thing, he's had it done to him in a previous relationship 5 years ago, it took him a long time to get over before he met me. No relationships inbetween those times.

I agree as I also know he would have took the dogs this morning to his work if he really wanted too, and he never so it was a blank threat

What I mean is 5 years before he met me it happened to him, and obviously we have been together 5 years now

Where did he see the pic of your dog, was it actually put on the dog's instal account, or just your personal Facebook etc. Perhaps he thought you were scraping the bottom of the barrel with a little piece of pumpkin and you would embarrass yourself if you made it public. However he is still a jerk.

@MrsLinManuelMiranda on the dogs IG page - know what u mean but we did a similar if not exact same photo last year which was on their page and my personal page and he never really batted an eyelid..

Hi OP I've skim read most of the thread. It all seems very odd. I definitely think your DP was out of order for his reaction. He seems to be treating you like a child and trying to control you. Do you work or do you rely on DP financially?

As others have said this could be a huge red flag or it could simply be a DP taking a bad day out on his nearest and dearest. I would expect an apology from him for sure. Has he contacted you?

I still think the crux of the matter is his mother, how she treats you and how he behaves when she behaves badly towards you. Does he stand up for you, or take her part?

Op if I was you I’d log off MN now and not think about this for the rest of the day, go and treat yourself if you can and relax. You’re pregnant and there is no point stressing about what is probably nothing. Wait until he gets home and have a calm conversation.

@Butterflyone12e yeah definitely agree with that. I don't depend on him, I earn 31k a year so definitely more than enough to not have to depend on him, I'm only 25 so it's a good job for my age in the area we are in especially. We split all bills halfway etc, so neither of us depend on each other so to speak.

He hasn't contacted me today, but I also haven't contacted him

@Zaphodsotherhead if his mum is in the wrong, he stands up for me

Thanks @Witchinaditch I think your right

@nicannie That's good you're not dependent on him. You've got no reason to message him. He should be the one to say sorry for flying off the handle over nothing.

Good riddance as far as I’m concerned for you op.
If his mums like that with the dogs how’s she going to be with your child?