Or is OH?

[nicannie]

Hormones might be kicking in - in 21w pregnant!

Anyways, today I cut the top of a pumpkin off, to place on the top of my dogs head and take a quick Halloween photo. I thought it was cute and no harm done right? WRONG.

OH saw the photo, totally freaked out. Told me he didn't want to speak or hear from me and that he would see me when he got home. He didn't like the thought of the dog having a bit of pumpkin in his head, I get he doesn't like having any outfits or what not on the dogs but cmon? Anyways, I told him he overreacted and asked who shat in his cornflakes, which didn't go down well.

Now he's told me after his work he's coming home to collect the dogs from our house and go take them to his Mums and stay there (didn't specify for how long mind you). His mum has always wanted to keep our dogs for herself, she steps on my toes with everything whenever she can which is why this has annoyed me even more!

AIBU to have did that with the pumpkin and take the photo? Or is he BU to react the way he has and tell me he's coming home taking the dogs away from me and stay at his mums leaving me in the house on my own when he knows that will really upset me....

Now I've written this out, it seems really silly. But it has actually got me quite worked up and upset.

Jesus I got a cracking photo of my cat trying to eat a 🎃 stopped him right of course.
Agree what if you want to put a hat on the baby will he take baby to his Mums?

@Soubriquet yeah I worry your last comment might be right.... I think that's something I need to bring up when everything calms down......

@HelloGeeniee I'm coming to yours with the dogs lol

@DontDribbleOnTheCarpet he's been great about the pregnancy. Attended all my apps with him. Speaks about names of our little girl. Keen on getting house improvements done for her arrival. Really supportive.... so it's strange. Had my mum in and sister in now. It's came as quite a shock that he has said he will take them, I'm wondering if it was heat of the moment from him, he's usually so laid back though!! I'll definitely let him know what I think of his behaviour but your right I won't be standing in the way of him taking the dogs..

@mrsmuddlepies yeah I think ur right. I think I just didn't think he was being overly serious and I shouldn't have said it in hindsight! I definitely would like to clear the air, the added stress and being alone isn't what I need being pregnant especially

His mum wants the dogs and he's giving them to her. What a good boy, roll over for treat.

Does he maybe not like the dogs IG page? Maybe he feels like you're always doing silly things with the dogs for posts and this was a last straw kind of thing?

Not saying you are, just wondering how much time and effort goes into the Insta stuff

What?!

I'd lock him out. I'd tell him to go to his mums on his own and only return when he's thinking rationally and ready to apologise!

It's borderline emotional abuse!

Stick his things in a bin bag and place outside the front door. Stick up a sign saying enjoy Mummy's house. Lock door, leave the keys in and switch phone off! Your husband is a twat.

A colleague of mine brought her dog into work in bat wings today. She looked like a happy wee thing in her wings, tail wagging and getting lots of fuss.

Don't get why a top of a pumpkin is bad. Ask him to ring the RSPCA for advice. They'll confirm that he's being a twassock about this! (Not really, as that would evidently be wasting their time!)

@Bellringer I'm afraid you may be right!

@steff13 yeah it's strange. He has even offered to buy her own dog and said 'do you want your own dog since you always want ours?' But she said no. Yes I'm worried she may feel same about baby but she will most definitely be told I didn't have the baby for her! I tried that and he told me he would do as he wants - shit response

@user1480880826 he definitely has been an arsehole tonight that's for sure. No he isn't usually an arsehole which is why it's strange

@WhiteVixen it is adorable no joke ! But as I have quite a popular IG page I'm worried posting the photos gives away who I am in real life - sorry! He is ridiculous

You're having a baby with this guy?? Prepare to be a single parent!

@Selmababies he genuinely doesn't have a huge social life. A few very close loyal friends. He goes to hockey one or twice a week with his mates. He doesn't drink at all, never has. So god knows, maybe he does have things to do tonight that he didn't want me to know about... it's a mystery! He still isn't home

@ffswhatnext yeah I hear you. One of ours is like that, which is the one who I took the photo of with pumpkin top. Where as the other doesn't like things like this, and I didn't do it to him for that reason.

@Candle1000 no he hasn't been any of those things. Ugh annoying

@MyGhastIsFlabbered got them together. 5 years

@MsChatterbox I know I worry that this may continue into when baby is here. I have to toughen up I think. Hopefully he can !

@MrsElijahMikaelson1 both our dogs. And I agree.. think there's another reason to it all

@WooomanMoomin know where your coming from but definitely not a rehoming thing, he practically revolves his life around these dogs! They really are his pride and joy

@Bubblysqueak agreed. We have one who wouldn't like it hence I didn't do it to that one, but we have one who likes being outfitted up and little props and having his photo taken etc

Maybe his issue is with how much time you spend on IG or thinking about IG or doing things solely for IG or ignoring him to post on IG... Possible?

@Sheld0r yeah he's so good, he loves the camera no joke. Always been the same. He's photogenic and it's like he poses for it !! Hahaha I want to upload but scared it links it back to me

@Smilebehappy123 I'm glad I posted here as I was quite upset when I posted, now I'm sitting here with a slight smug grin knowing he's in the wrong and guess what, INBU

@JasonPollack considering it but then worried it aggravates the situation so to speak where as it might be blown over

@mrcow hahaha! My dogs probably there somewhere, everyone stone the photo when I did it last year!!!

@ItsJustTheOneSwanActually hahaha is it your cat?? That's funny. Better not show my OH lol. I think more too it too

@woodymiller I know where people are coming from but defo not a rehoming thing as he dotes on the dog, takes them to work every day etc. He loves them, genuinely are his everything. But I agree his mum should be kicking him back down the road telling him to get a grip essentially

There's more to this reaction than meets the eye. If your relationship lasts I doubt very much this will be the last time he behaves "out of character" and most likely he'll up the ante each time.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz I thought the same thing.... 🙄

@Reallynowdear I actually do feel like he is 'punishing' me by taking them away to his mums for the night with him as he knows it will bother me. But again, it can't just be for the pumpkin thing as it's pathetic really and I can't think of what else it would be. He's never like this

@PinkDaffodil2 maybe that is part of it. Not a chance, as that definitely won't be happening and he should know that hopefully !

How odd!

Well, if I were you I’d just stop worrying about it. He’ll have to explain his weird overreaction one way or another, so just wait until he does. I wouldn’t chase him!

@Slappadabass exactly a bit of fun. Now I think about it, I make his mum and my mum a calendar of the dogs every year and the October photo is my dog in his pumpkin top thing from last year (as I did the exact same thing and he said nothing) and so his Mum has that photo on show proudly in her living room right now..... he needs to grow up, that's for sure

@Parttimewasteoftime I know.. that's what's going through my mind tonight....

@Nubbled totally agree with you. That's how it seems.

@Jenala yes definitely that was a problem sag a year ago. As the Insta was like another full time job it was so big. Since around March this year I've went from posting every day to once a week if that. I spend maybe 10 mins if that on it a day. To the point he even complained I put all that effort in and then 'gave up'. So I can't win with it really. Yeah I hear what you mean, although, I don't have many outfit photos on his IG, the odd one every 4 months which is usually a throwback to a puppy one. But majority of his photos are him tucked up in bed, in blankets hiding, you know, just him doing his genuine doggy things. 1% of our content is staged maybe less, all of it is just me grabbing a photo or video when he's doing his normal things he does.

@Wattagoose90 my mum thinks it's a bit of an emotional abuse / control thing. So your not the only one thinking it. I told him he is free to go to his mums until he can apologise to me and speak to me like I'm a human, not a piece of shit and he still said he's taking dogs. Haven't heard from him since 3pm and he's still not arrived home

@LunasOrchid yeah I want to do that but don't want to cause unwanted aggro with being pregnant - eek what to do!

He is being a complete idiot, I have loads of pictures of my cats with pumpkin hats, they didn't care at all. You know when an animal is distressed.
I wonder if he is freaking out about becoming a father.
If you had done something wrong why didn't he just discuss it with you like a normal human being instead of being completely hysterical.
Hope he doesn't run off with the baby everytime you upset him!!!

@mildlymiffed yeah I know what u mean. He's totally overreacted about this

@chuttypicks unfortunately that's exactly what's running through my mind since this happened. I'm now trying to mentally prepare myself that I'm going to be a single mum to my little girl..

@quincejamplease defo possible if it was like a year ago but recently I just stopped the IG shit almost. I post once a week if that, don't spend hardly any time on it now. To the point he told me 'you've given up on it, what a waste'... can't win

If my son turned up at my house with a pathetic story like this I'd tell him to book an appointment with his GP to ask whether he could have a brain scan.