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Original poster

New car & my neighbour... Ignore or say something?

252 replies

Greenleafer19 · 30/10/2019 09:13

Hi all
I know MN's love a neighbour post but I may get told to get over it about this one.....

So about 12 days ago I bought a new car and since then my neighbour, who I have a joint drive with but partitioned, can't seem to take his eyes off it.
Everytime he walks his dog, 3x a day he's coming onto my side of the drive and staring at the car, staring in the windows, circling it, stands next to it staring for ages etc.. I've been off work the past 2 weeks so the cars been parked on the drive alot and He's done this everytime he walks his dog, everyday since then. It was funny to watch on the cctv at first but I'm getting a tad concerned/ peed off with it.

This morning, having had it 12 days, I thought the fascination wouldve worn off, but no... He's now gone into the road to stand back and stare at it from a distance....

I've never had any kind of relationship with my neighbour, reason being my husband and I are always at work, keep ourselves to ourselves and apart from walking his dog the neighbour never goes out for us to see him. The very rare occasion we have seen him he tends to ignore us if we smile, wave or say hi but never thought anything of it.

Do I ignore it or say something on the cctv? He knows I have cctv but doesn't seem bothered that I'm watching. I don't want to be rude to an old man but it's now annoying me! (as pathetic as I sound!)

AIBU...??!

OP posts:
Unshriven · 30/10/2019 09:15

What on Earth would you say?

You want to say something about him looking at your car, when you are studying his behaviour via CCTV !?

katewhinesalot · 30/10/2019 09:16

Yes yabu. As long as he is only looking and not touching it, let him crack on. Maybe go out and have a quick chat about it and get tio know your neighbors. He obviously likes cars.

Reallybadidea · 30/10/2019 09:16

Seriously?

Monkeybunkey · 30/10/2019 09:19

Is it a limited edition or unusual car? He could be a car enthusiast and interested in it. Have a chat with him, you have plenty of opportunity if he's standing on your driveway for hours! If he scuttles off indoors as soon as you come out of the house, that's when I'd think it was a little odd!

Original poster
Greenleafer19 · 30/10/2019 09:21

@Unshriven I get a notification on my phone everytime someone is near the car, very very close to the car and also when someone walks on my drive, obviously I'm going to look....

@katewhinesalot he does touch the car! Obviously not vandalising it but he does touch it, the windows, the tyres, the front of it....

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Original poster
Greenleafer19 · 30/10/2019 09:23

@Monkeybunkey twice I've driven home onto my drive and seen him and he's ran into his house or hurried off with the dog Confused

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Saxineno · 30/10/2019 09:24

It's weird, but seriously if this is all you have to be worried about, I want your life!!!! Wink

PegasusReturns · 30/10/2019 09:25

Unless you've bought something really unusual then he's being weird but so are you - how on earth do you have time/patience to review his activities via cctv?!

Monkeybunkey · 30/10/2019 09:27

Hmm, that's a bit odd then. Just seen your other post about him touching the car, I wouldn't be happy with that. Next time he's out on your drive, I'd go out. If he runs indoors or off down the road, I'd do it again the next time he's out there. And again and again until he either stops for a chat (when you can ask what his fascination with the new car is) or realises that he can't stand staring at your car without being challenged.

Fuckenstein · 30/10/2019 09:27

Is it a lamboughini or a ferrari OP?

TheDarkPassenger · 30/10/2019 09:27

Do you think he’s one of those people and he’s fallen head over heels for it?

Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 30/10/2019 09:28

It's weird but maybe he is car obsessed and has forgotten you have cctv?

If it's really bothering you, you could leave some sanpro on the seat, dash or parcel shelf (perhaps all 3!) I bet he would stop looking through the windows after that!

Original poster
Greenleafer19 · 30/10/2019 09:29

@Saxineno it's unnerving considering I don't have a relationship with him... If we knew him well and spoke to us I wouldn't think anything of it. Of course I have other things to worry about in my life but I wouldn't put them on the Internet!

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RedSheep73 · 30/10/2019 09:29

Is it something really special? or naybe something he is considering buying himself? My dh, who is way more interested in cars than I am, will often have a good look through the windows of a car he's interested in. He wouldn't touch it, but it still embarrasses me.

nespressowoo · 30/10/2019 09:29

If it's just a Clio or something then he's a bit weird. If it's a Porsche or whatever then maybe he's a big car enthusiast. I'd zap the car with your keys when he's looking at it so he can see you know he's there.

ILiveInSalemsLot · 30/10/2019 09:30

Just go outside next time and say ‘hello!’ With a smile and see what happens next.

maslinpan · 30/10/2019 09:30

I suspect your new car is rather flash if it's worth your while having phone notifications if somebody comes near it. Flash cars attract attention, and the novelty will surely wear off soon for your neighbour.

Junkmail · 30/10/2019 09:33

What kind of car is it that he’s so fascinated by it??

Original poster
Greenleafer19 · 30/10/2019 09:33

No it's nothing flash.. Just a newer version of our old car which he also took interest in but not to this extent @Fuckenstein

@PegasusReturns as I said, I get notification to my phone everytime someone's on my drive or very close to the car, I don't review my cctv but obviously with several notifications of him moving around my drive I'm going to look, wouldn't u?

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justmyview · 30/10/2019 09:34

Your elderly neighbour, who you make no effort to meet or speak to, despite sharing a driveway, has the temerity to admire your car, outwith your presence, and unaware that you are watching him?

YABU

MondeoFan · 30/10/2019 09:35

This wouldn't bother me
You clearly have too much time on your hands

Hoppinggreen · 30/10/2019 09:36

Staring at it is weird but ok. Touching it not so much

maras2 · 30/10/2019 09:37

FGS don't be so flipping silly.

MsChatterbox · 30/10/2019 09:37

Once watched a documentary about a guy that had a fetish for cars...

Lindy2 · 30/10/2019 09:38

He's not actually causing any harm is he.

It's a little bit odd but just leave him to it. Why would you want to make an issue of something so minor?